So I have been cold approaching for about 2 months now. I have probably done about 30-40 approaches. Mostly at my job at a grocery store near a college and while I’m out in public on the train or elsewhere. So far I have gotten 1 lay, 1 instadates, 12 numbers with about 4 txt backs and rest flakes. Which is normal. The 1 lay happened when I got off work at 10:30pm, I walked out front and saw a lady in a white Tesla. I asked her in the bars and clubs were still open , she said she thinks so, we kept talking and she said she was an Uber driver, so I asked for a ride home, she said sure, excitedly. The ride back was awkward with no substance. It was late and I was tired so my bantering and flirting were turned off and I could tell she was bored. I ended up having to ask if she was down to give me a bj, she said sure again. The sex was awkward, we didn’t even kiss and when I tried to actually fuck her it was hard to put it in because the center console was in the way, lol. So it sucked. The instadate went ok, I approached her at the Caltrain station to help me buy a ticket, at first she was stand offish and would not talk to me, but then after about 5 mins she opened up and we were chatting. We hugged and I cupped her ass with one hand because she had a backpack on and she reciprocated and sort of melted in my arms. Haha she probably hadn’t been touched in a while. We went on the train and I was trying to build comfort by letter her talk but the convo kept going platonic and boring. I tried to do hand holding which she resisted at first but when she did, she warmed up and said I have warm hands. We kissed a tiny bit but she was still resistant. When we reached our stop I offered to get some food but she was done she ended up leaving. The 4 text backs lead nowhere due to bad texting and I think being too direct, but mostly because I don’t have the confidence to actually go on a date. My cold approaches usually start with a direct opener with intent then mostly questions with a tiny bit of teasing and bantering, but I notice it puts most girls off and they see me as an asshole. This chick I met at the bus stop was feeling me because she was staring right into my eyes, even asked me questions after I went quiet and when I offered her to sit down and I touched her forearm she was fully compliant. I kept teasing her a bit and adding tiny negs which I think made her not trust me because she kept asking my questions she had asked me before I think to verify my answers and catch me in a lie. But a good approach in my eyes needed with her not giving me any info and eventually leaving in an Uber instead of taking the bus with me. Any advice will help on how to frame dates and instadates, and build real connection and comfort with new girls