Cold approached story

Educational-Ad-6197 · 2022-06-23T05:43:40+00:00

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notarealpersondw · 2022-06-23T12:08:47+00:00

Nice nice, look I’ll be honest I’ve only cold approached when I’m drunk and yes it’s worked a few times took girls home but tbh doesn’t count cos they were drunk too and it wasn’t as hard what you’d have to do but if I could give a suggestion I feel maybe you went a bit quick on the asking her out thing?

Honestly if she was single I’m sure she would have said yes but I wonder if it works better when you sort of show interest and then chill like “sweet that’s cool nice to get to know you anyway” and the. You’ve planted the seed and she’ll be ready to say yes the next time cos she knows you now and it’s more natural

potatoeswithfries · 2022-06-23T07:37:12+00:00

That's not really a cold approach.

Cold approach is when you're meeting someone you have no social connection with - who is a complete stranger, with no social ties and no social trust. In this case this was someone who you've seen already in a work environment - that's your social tie. What you did is a different kind of approach that - and this is important - requires a different course of action than a cold approach and is called a "warm approach".

is that good enough of an approach

No.

You don't do warm approaches in a work environment the same way you do cold approaches. This wouldn't be a good cold approach either, as you included no attraction spikes, no teasing, no flirting, no physical escalation, no nothing - you just asked her about her work and from there went straight to "do you wanna hang out"... Please don't be offended, as this is not a personal attack, just a friendly critique of your approach from someone who's done hundreds of 'em, but how does what you did make sense, regardless of context to be honest? You know nothing about her at this point, she knows nothing about you, as you presented nothing (besides your looks, I guess), you didn't even show clear intent... but that's beside the point, because - again - you don't approach women at work the same way you'd approach a complete stranger on the street.

I don't recommend doing warm approaches at all until you know what you're doing in general. Get comfortable with cold approaches first, because if you make someone in your social circle uncomfortable, word will get around.

If you inadvertently offend a stranger you meet in a coffee shop, she might tell her friends, but it won’t affect your life - and chances are you won’t see this person again.

But if your early, practice approaches include professional contacts, the risks are multiplied. This is obvious, and you don’t need me to go into details here.

So, my point is, practice in an anonymous setting. Your social circle is not a place to practice. Get your practice time in at bars, clubs, concerts, coffee shops, restaurants, boookstores, theatres, parks, beaches, on public transportion, or anywhere else you can meet people. Your social circle will still be there when you’re ready.

If you want more info on social circle game (preferrably after you practice cold approach for a bit), I suggest getting your hands on a book by a gentleman calling himself Savoy, titled "Magic Bullets" - it includes a whole chapter on this and is actually decent.

or shoudl I improve anything for future approaches??

Yes. Start with doing actual cold approaches, make mistakes, learn from them. I already named some of the elements that were lacking in your approach in my critique above. I suggest you start with reading this thing - it's short and includes pretty much all of the basics, so read it and go apply it. That's how I started. Good luck, have fun, and come back with the story of your first actual cold approach.

appmanga · 2022-06-23T14:18:07+00:00

Why do you think she mentioned her kid before mentioning being married?

U_DonB · 2022-06-23T15:37:36+00:00

What do you mean by “comes around whenever I see her again”?

Doctor0z · 2022-06-23T21:22:35+00:00

I am sure you made her day. My only gripe is the approaching at work part. I tread carefully in those situations.

Title	Cold approached story
Author	Educational-Ad-6197
Upvotes	38
Comments	21
Date	June 23, 2022 5:33 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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