College Pick Up --- Done For You (With Examples!!)

Gentleman.

It has come to my attention that we need to BACK THINGS UP!! We need to get back to basics. If you’ve read my previous articles on “Fuck It,” “Eye Contact,” and “The Smirk,” you know that body language, and alpha presence, are absolutely key to accelerating your game.

But for some people, these skills may be kind of like drag racing, when they personally haven't even taken driving lessons yet. Obviously going at 200 mph toward the checkered flag, when you can’t even parallel park, is a recipe for disaster.

So let’s go all the way back to the beginning. Let’s just start approaching and opening girls, as simply as possible.

This article will assume that you have your GROOMING in order. If you don’t know what I mean, there are plenty of articles on grooming out there to help you out. But here’s grooming in a nutshell just for fun (make sure you have this stuff in order):

1. Nice haircut - nice and fresh
2. Facial hair - shaved, or well trimmed
3. Ear hair - (the parts poking out of year ears like grandpa) - removed
4. Nose hair - exactly the same answer as Ear Hair
5. Fingernails - trimmed neatly and clean under the nails
6. Clothes - something stylish that looks good on you -- and the beauty of college dress is it can be super simple. If you’re at a total loss, just wear school branded clothes. Rep your school man! Everybody wears that stuff. In the college years that’s totally fashionable. And there’s plenty of it available at the university bookstore, and all the shops that surround campus.
7. Shoes - clean and new looking

Let’s begin.

Do we cold approach in college? I’ve seen this question being floated recently. The answer is definitely YES. However, the college approach has ONE DISTINCT DIFFERENCE than the traditional cold approach. In college, we never try to close the deal during the approach.

Let’s clarify this. What are the basic steps of a traditional cold approach?

1. You approach (everything from you seeing her to walking over)
2. You open (basically the first thing you say)
3. You make small talk (everything else that’s said before you attempt to close)
4. You attempt to close (this is where your intentions of sexual/relationship/non-friend-zone interest become clear -- you ask for a number or a Snap or a date or whatever.) At this point there is a success/failure event (i.e. she agrees or doesn’t).
5. You say farewell and depart.

The college approach is the same with one exception. Step 4 doesn’t apply. You never attempt to close. Thus, you’re intentions are never actually stated. And you can’t get rejected, because you haven’t asked for anything. What is there to reject?

The purpose of the college approach is just to meet someone. Just to make a connection. That connection will build going forward. And if you’re saying: “wait, I don’t want just a connection, I’m interested in this girl.” Patience my friend. We’ll see how this all comes together in a moment.

Note that the college approach is not restricted only to college. It applies anytime:

1. You are pursuing a women in a place where you see her regularly.
2. You are pursuing women in a place that is a self contained community (like school, work, military base, etc).

In the college approach, your goal is just to: MAKE A CONNECTION WITH AS MANY WOMEN AS POSSIBLE.

Why is this important? Two reasons.

1. Girls want in-demand guys. What is an in-demand guy? It’s a guy that other girls want. And how do they determine if other girls want you? Simple, they see you with other girls. That’s why the college approach is designed to simply get to know as many girls as possible.
2. What is the most fundamental concern of any girl? It’s basically: Are you safe? She needs to determine that you’re not an ax murder before she’s willing to get too close. But this hurdle can be instantly overcome if she sees you with other girls. That’s just how the human mind works. If other girls (even girls she doesn’t know) are hanging out with you. You’re safe.

For this reason, you should approach lots of girls on campus with the college approach. Even ones YOU would only be interested in as friends. Because you want to be seen with girls. Any girls. Plain and simple. This goes for social media too. Find every picture you can of yourself with girls, and get those pictures posted. If necessary, go to girls you already know, get selfies with them, and get those posted.

Think about this in a non-pick up context for a moment. When you need a dentist or a mechanic or whatever, which do you pick? Is it the one other people are recommending? The one with 150 five-star reviews on Yelp? Or is it the one nobody is ever heard of? Obviously you pick the first one. THE IN-DEMAND ONE. THE SAFE ONE. The one other people have chosen (sound familiar??).

So let’s do a college approach (remember grooming is in order at this point). And guys, it’s totally cool to memorize and practice some lines at the beginning. You need to start somewhere. People who say not to practice lines are talking about more advanced approaches. Do some drills before you run off to play the championship game.

IMPORTANT: All of this is done with a smile and the confident attitude of: I’m not hitting on anybody. I’m just out on campus, having fun, just chit-chatting. Nothing more.

THE COLLEGE APPROACH: You see a girl. She’s reading something. She’s got a book in her hand. She doesn’t see you.

You walk up near her.

1. “Excuse me.” (she looks up) (you have a big smile, you’re hand is extended for a shake)
2. “I’m Justin. What’s your name?” (guys -- on a college campus, 99.9% of time, she will shake your hand and tell you her name).
3. “Emily (repeat her name), cool. Nice to meet you. Hey that’s a psychology book isn’t it? (here is where she says “no”, tells you what kind of book it is, and then you say something that teases her and exploits the future career stereotype related to whatever she said).

Examples:

1. [No, it’s chemistry 101] -- “Chemistry huh. So you’re gonna be like one of those mad scientist types when you grow up? Test tubes and beakers and all that?”
2. [No, it’s from my history class] -- “History? So you’re going to be a librarian huh? That’s what all history majors become right? Librarians.”
3. [No, i’m in business school] -- “Business school! Snap. So you’re gonna be like the next CEO of IBM huh? Wow, next CEO of IBM sitting right in front of me.”

Now when you say this with playfulness, she most likely will give some sort of smile. She knows you’re playing around.

Her actual response could be anything, but the underlying message will fall into one of two buckets: She will either agree, or disagree with the stereotype you just laid out.

Regardless, you’re response is pretty much the same, continuing to reference the stereotype.

Examples:

1. [Chemistry 101 Agree -- ‘Yeah totally. Like, you should see my dorm. I have the periodic table hanging on my wall]. You: “That’s what I figured. Yeah I can totally see your hair like all Einsteined-out. It’d be a good look for you.”
2. [Chemistry 101 Disagree -- No (laugh). I mean I’m thinking about med school. But I don’t know]. You: Med School? I’m not sure if they let mad scientists into med school. The whole Einsteined-out hair thing. Not sure that works.”
3. [History - Agree -- “Exactly. Like literally all I do is read. My mattress is actually stuffed with books, not springs]. You: “That’s what I figured. But where are your nerd glasses at? Like aren’t nerd glasses a requirement for librarians? (or if she’s wearing glasses): “That’s what I figured. But I’m not sure your glasses are really nerd enough. Don’t librarians need like super clunky nerd glasses to get the job?
4. [History - Disagree -- “Definitely not a librarian. I actually hate reading (laugh).] You: “Hmmm. It’s that you don’t have the big nerd glasses isn’t it? That’s what’s REALLY holding you back from librarian status isn’t it?

Now, without really giving her time to react (just a one beat pause). Move right into (playfully): “Just kidding (small laugh). I’m just messing with you. Hey, how come I’ve never seen you around here before? You a freshman?”

Again, the answer here will basically be yes or no.

1. If yes: “Cool. Well hey welcome to campus (big smile). I gotta get to class. But it was cool to meet you. Maybe I’ll see you ‘round.” (Optional -- particularly good if she’s been smiling and friendly -- hold out your fist for a fist bump). Then walk off.
2. If no: “Upperclassmen huh? That’s cool (big smile). Well, I gotta get to class. But it was dope meeting you. Maybe I’ll see you ‘round.” (Again, optional fist bump). Then leave.
3. If she flips the script on this one and says “How come I've never seen YOU around here before?” You: “Girl, I’m around here all the time. Head must be buried in that book too much (wink). Hey I gotta get to class. (and the rest is the same).

Breakdown

So what happened in this interaction. You pretty much controlled the entire flow of the interaction. You teased her a little bit. Hopefully she laughed a little. You covered two topics (the stereotype and the ain’t seen you before), which is enough. You should be seeing that the college approach doesn’t need to be to long. Get in, run the convo, get out.

And you controlled the exit. Hopefully you touched her twice (once with the handshake, and once with the fist bump). And you never asked her for anything from a sex/relationship perspective, so there was never any opportunity or reason to reject you.

The next time you see her, it won’t be a cold approach. Because now you know her name and a little bit about her. And she sees you as a non-needy, confident, mildly mysterious (which is good) dude, who just said hi, and then had other things to do, and left without making his intentions clear. Golden.

Do that enough, and you’ll start seeing girls again, that you cold approached already. You'll know their names, making the next approach so much easier (the next approach, I’ll cover in a future article.) In addition, once you know enough girls, girls will start seeing you with other girls, and that's where things really take off.

And guys, make sure to remember their names after the interaction. That’s the information you went in to get. So write it down if necessary.

Go start meeting girls and taking names!!

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