Constantly messing up talking stage

Lonely_Computer_2058 · 2024-09-16T03:11:27+00:00

Try asking someone close to you to be honest and tell you what’s wrong. I have an acquaintance who thinks he’s in the right about everything. When I hear his thought processes I think that he is delusional and not self aware. He talks more than he listens. Even his boss told him this. He seems to think everyone else is the problem and he knows everything. I’m not saying this is you, but it is worth exploring if it could be. Maybe you just talk about yourself and aren’t aware of how comfortable other people are.

Whatever the problem is, try to explore it and find someone who might tell you the brutal truth. That is the only way you can improve. And no it’s not that you’re short, ugly, or any of that. It’s something with how you’re portraying your personality.

srwat · 2024-09-16T09:17:35+00:00

Don't jump into logical conversations especially those that require a lot of brain power or you'll turn your date off in most cases. You kind of want most of the things you talk about to be a combination of "in the moment" or banter about random things she talks to you about.

The moment you dive deep into talking about something that requires high brain power, well guess what, the blood flow is no longer where you want it, and the prospect of your date going well most likely will be lost.

Relax, appreciate the experience for what it is, and don't feel pressured to make something happen or you'll project a self-sabotaging anxious vibe.

Quartrez · 2024-09-16T03:42:23+00:00

Do you at least even suggest going on a second date? Also depending on what you mean by interest, in my experience that comes with time. It takes me like 3 or 4 dates before I can really start getting interested in a girl romantically.

herbdean00 · 2024-09-16T14:47:53+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. Here's what I would recommend. Don't try so hard. Let the woman come to you. And do this with as many women as possible. Slowly but surely they will start bubbling to the surface and will start wanting to see you. It's okay if you're not her top option at first. Play it cool. Let her miss you. Let her situationship end and she will start looking at her options again and the mystery you've left will make her intrigued by you. Anything can come off as needy. Being too interested even by just a small little bit. If you're asking her out consistently. If you're telling her you like her or you think she's beautiful. Hold off on these compliments. Let it be earned. Women are seriously turned off by a guy they think they can easily get. You need to be a little bit difficult. Make it seem like you have a lot going on. like maybe there are other women in your life. Let her fall for the idea of you. Haven't you ever noticed from afar how obsessed woman gets with the bad boy? The guy who maybe flirted with her once got her number and never really reached out or put in too much interest. It's in your absence that she misses you and wants to be with you. Don't reply to text immediately. Make yourself a little bit scarce. I think texting is also huge. Don't be logical don't be friendly. An example I saw was a guy saying got any plans tonight? And she replied saying what her plans were and he just says okay just checking and all of a sudden the girl is asking him to hang out. The laws of attraction are ruthless and women are almost permanently turned off by a guy who is nice and available and interested. Got to play it cool. And trust me it's easier said than done for some people like me and maybe you.

atomant88 · 2024-09-16T15:35:50+00:00

There is no talking stage homie. Learn actual game.

Junior-Sport7376 · 2024-09-16T18:22:36+00:00

You are probably not getting physical or attempting to escalate on a date which is insta friendzone.

321sleep · 2024-09-16T21:03:09+00:00

Consider getting a dating coach or attending a PUA seminar.

Title	Constantly messing up talking stage
Author	Ill_Upstairs7558
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	September 16, 2024 2:57 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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