Conversation quality drops after first date

Elbynerual · 2021-09-25T05:24:53+00:00

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SkyeStorm1962 · 2021-09-23T05:58:40+00:00

So as a girl with this type of experience, If you hit it off on the first date then the second should follow based on the first. I'm not too sure what you guys talked about whether it be hobbies or interest well pretty much the introduction part but if you said you guys mostly talk via texting then when you guys meet up it should be spent making memories to talk about.

NEVER WHATCH MOVIES on your second, third or even fourth date even if you talked about watching it!!!!! Hahaha You will have plenty of time to watch them later. Watching movies at home is more of a casual vibe for couples who have been together for a while and are able to be comfortable in each other silence. You are still fresh in the game and should keep the vibe going with a mystery buzz. Get out of the house and go for a walk to the pub get some liquor in you both and before you know it you be blabbering away in no time.

If you find you just want to meet each other again but you don't want to spend money do it in a way that makes it feel unplanned rather than a forced formal dinner. Take her for a walk then sneak onto a school playground at night and try and avoid the security. It adds a naughty vibe and makes a lot of adrenaline cut out the nerves. You be finding yourselves giggling in no time.

A lot of the time being attracted to one another can also make the other nervous. You just have to make memories with one another in order for you to talk about things non stop. Or play the would you rather game or see what each other views are on a topic. Its whole new way of learning how one thinks rather then what they are interested in. Hope this helps

I'm 22F and what really keeps me intrigued is the way a person's mind works. So how they view things in life is really interesting.

oatmealbowl33 · 2021-09-23T04:33:32+00:00

Maybe there wasnt a lot to say on the second date due to all the sexual tension?? Haha, honestly, so many things can affect a conversation in any given day besides chemistry, so you shouldn't worry if it has only happened once so far.

ChadsGrandfather · 2021-09-23T05:56:01+00:00

If your life is interesting, you will have endless things to talk about.

I will give you a list of activities that will up your “content for conversation” game:

Watch the latest movies/shows
Dive in deeply into your hobbies and passions
Read extensively about things that interest you
Watch comedy and see how these guys just constantly add value and are playing to the crowd (you can use this in conversation)
Use the four pillars of interesting conversation: Silly Serious, Positive, Negative.

For example You: (Silly) I love eating gummy bears and chocolates atthe same time Her: giggles ew that sounds gross You: (serious) I know, I was just kidding that doesn’t sound good at all Her: You’re weird You: (positive) Very. I think you’re really cool Her: Thanks You: (negative) I guess we’re not going to work out

Etc.. on and on into perpetuity

Use self-amusement by talking about things you find interesting or by teasing her and just being playful
Talk about your passions, and things that interest her. don’t talk about boring shit like your math class to her. Remember, women are about feeling. Conversations that are overly logical will dry her up like the Sahara desert.
Add value to the conversation by stating your opinions about things you’re talking about. And why you feel the way you do.

But ultimately HAVE FUN. And don’t try to be perfect. Sometimes you don’t even have to be babbling. You can just chill and listen.

Besides you can’t THINK your way into a better seduction. You can only FEEL your way through.

Business-Purpose-724 · 2021-09-23T02:10:50+00:00

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MisterShogunate · 2021-09-23T08:17:25+00:00

Tell me you are attractive with boring personality without telling me you are attractive with a boring personality.

leafoflegend · 2021-09-23T03:03:51+00:00

You need to find common ground (interests, hobbies, humor) and use that as the lynchpin of conversation. Alternatively, you can create experiences together that keep you so busy you don’t have to talk during them, and can talk about them afterwards at the quieter events.

Radio_Unique · 2021-09-23T18:20:46+00:00

Passions, what they love doing

DryAdhesiveness6579 · 2021-09-23T22:58:49+00:00

don’t text so much in between dates. save conversation for in person. way more fun.
I’ll text girls little things here and there but never a real convo

Title	Conversation quality drops after first date
Author	LostFYI
Upvotes	16
Comments	18
Date	September 23, 2021 12:17 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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