Cougar tips?

2011-09-13T19:26:44+00:00

You don't pick up cougars, they pick you up. ;-)

Basically she will display interest, and all you have to do is not to fuck up. Don't bring up the age difference. Don't brag and don't do anything try-hard, they'll just see through it. Tease but don't neg.

Though, of course, it's likely that most of the older women in your class aren't really "cougars", they're probably just married women having fun.

sparklyteenvampire · 2011-09-14T05:02:41+00:00

Be even more charming, classy, and smooth than you aim for with younger girls. You don't want to freak them out, and you definitely don't want to seem like an immature jock. Go for the Connery version of James Bond, in a young guy's body. They'll love that you're a young seducer, but they also want to see you as mature and in control.

What's also worked for me is being a little more forward than usual. Let them know you're interested and aren't shy about it. They're not there to play games, they're not flighty airheads, and they really love attention and flirting.

What you really want to avoid is coming on too strong or too cheesy and letting them start to feel silly about the whole thing. They love the feeling of being gamed, but they don't want their girlfriends gossiping about the "kid" they went home with. They tend to be more socially conscious, in my experience, and they won't want to k-close in a bar with people watching. Basically, run the same game you run with other girls, just be more subtle and smooth about it, and isolate ASAP unless their friends are also on the hunt.

They will ALWAYS shit-test you about the age difference, in any of several ways. How I respond depends on the focus of the test. If they focus on me (call me a baby or whatever), I agree and amplify:

"Yup, I'm actually only twelve, but I have an awesome fake ID. See this stubble? Yeah, that's all magic marker. Go on, feel it, you'll swear it's real." (90% of the time she'll start touching your face)
"I am, aren't I? I'm just a helpless little lamb for a wolf like you. What are you going to do with me?" Flash her a smirk that shows her exactly who the real wolf is. (I've mentioned this line on Seddit before, and it's probably my favorite. It has gotten me laid at least three times.)

OTOH, if she says something about her own age, either ignore it or brush past it as breezily as possible:

"Do you know how old I am?" "No, but you're the one I want to talk to tonight."
"I think I'm too old for you." "I think you're too cute for this club. One of us is wrong."
"I think I'm too old for you." "Oh yeah? How old do you think I am?"

The last one is my favorite, because it immediately shifts focus away from how old she is to how old you are. Let her guess a few times and tell her she's wrong, even if she's right. Tease her with a number that's obviously untrue, like 67. Switch to something else, then admit you were just teasing her again. Keep it playful; you want to communicate that you don't care about age, not that you have something to hide. After a few teases, she'll figure out that she's not getting your age out of you and you can usually change the subject without having to discuss hers. Just keep it natural, so she doesn't figure out that you're consciously steering the topic away from age.

If you're doing it really right, you won't even know each other's ages until you've got enough attraction and comfort that she's hooked. This has all worked for me more than once.

heckz · 2011-09-13T19:05:57+00:00

I am not in salsa class with cougars, but I am very interested in cougars. I hope this gets some answers.

iznou · 2011-09-13T19:26:31+00:00

Push pull, escalate, close close close

DrunkenAwesomeIdea · 2011-09-14T02:42:36+00:00

Grow a mustache, I started one for a Halloween costume and have almost continually been getting IOIs from the cougars.

dumblederp · 2011-09-14T03:55:09+00:00

Ask if they're married between songs/dances/moves. It's blunt and shows interest. They'll take it from there.

bradtwo · 2011-09-14T06:48:31+00:00

as always being witty is never bad thing.

heckz · 2011-09-15T06:06:57+00:00

My best advice for cougars: Don't overthink it. You don't have to be super-smooth or use any cool lines, just be friendly and they'll do most of the work. Remember: They want to fuck YOU, they are lucky if you let them

ryan1998 · 2011-09-13T19:25:29+00:00

ok wel da ferst ting u shuld do is yell realy loud 2 try n scare it away n if dat dosnt work then wot u do is u hold ur hands up rly high like 2 da sky as if ur a bird n yell (ur tryin 2 make urself look biger) n dis will hopefully scare away da cougar

o n when u go hikin n stuff pls dont litter! its bad for da invironment

drumdance · 2011-09-13T23:05:57+00:00

Just act mature. Older women think younger guys are like high schoolers, so tone down the excitement and turn up the suave.

Courtesy goes a long way. Open the door for her, ask her opinion about stuff, compliment her etc. Older women often don't go on a lot of dates, to they like to be reminded that they're still desirable.

BUT, don't be afraid to lead. If you get a date with one, a big turn-on for a girl of any age is decisiveness. Don't ask her where she wants to go, tell her where you're going. Order dinner for her. That sort of thing.

Title	Cougar tips?
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Date	September 13, 2011 6:30 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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