Hello seducers,

I had an interesting experience yesterday and I thought I'd share some interesting insights and possibly get some other, unbiased opinions.

To give you a little bit of context, the said person used to be my girlfriend (in an open relationship) for about 1.5 years, we broke up 3 years ago because we both used to be avoidant types and neither of us would be able to express our needs, feelings, etc. in terms of the relationship and its setup.

Fast forward, some of the things I did afterwards;

- No contact, unless she contacted me (this is what I'd always do with others as well and most of them do come back)

- I did a lot of inner work, including polyam-focused therapists, etc.

- Scaled up my business about 3-fold, which is very obvious from my lifestyle

So, to the date itself;

- She initiated it over instagram after some text exchange

- She invited me for dinner (paid for it)

- I then suggested that we move a private cinema at my place, she didn't even hesitate

- Most of the topics were sexual, she outright complained about her current boyfriend not being open to new things in bed and experimenting and that she slightly regrets it. Basically, I had told her about my encounters (simply because she'd asked, not making it too obvious), sex parties, etc., while displaying a high level of social calibration (e.g. turning down a girl at one of the sex parties because I felt she wasn't safe and was "forced" to be there, etc.).

- As I was walking her to the tram station (she was going back to her boyfriend, I assume 😂), she jokingly started to say "We're not having sex TONIGHT" (ah, love them shit tests). To which I replied - "obviously not, I'm on my period and I need some deep conversations upfront, you know how fragile I am" (in a sarcastic / cocky way).

When she got home, she basically sent me a message saying how happy she was to see me and that she is still trying to process it and basically praised how I was fully present, focused on her and that I seemed caring and even more masculine. And she also apologized for "sharing so much" but apparently "she doesn't share stuff like that with anyone" and I "really know how to gain someone's trust".

While I do see these as clear IOIs, I wanted to hear what you, guys, think and how you'd proceed.

My plan is to show subtle interest without making her feel like she has to "decide now" (she's still taken, however, well past the new relationship energy phase and clearly not satisfied in bed - which was actually probably our strongest mutual match when we dated). And basically I'll keep the texting to a minimum, alternating between the sexual vibe we have going on and being slightly aloof. Once we set up the next date, I'll just try to escalate straight to my place (or maybe use some other venue at first and then go to my place). Thoughts?