I’m sure that many of you have come across different versions of this post and this idea, but I say that some ideas are important enough where repeating them is not an exercise in futility. Women are attracted to men who have something going on in their life that doesn’t involve pleasure or its pursuit. This is a reminder to be ‘a man who has something bigger than seduction going on in his life’. And there are women who would appreciate a man who spends the majority of his energy/time in trying to woo her, or a woman whose seduction takes a major chunk of your mental energy, but ask yourself 2 questions,

  1. Is this the man you want to be?
  2. Is this the kind of woman you would respect and want to be with?

Of course, career PUAs and seduction gurus are the obvious exception to this rule. But are they? They have something bigger going in their life, which is growing the medium (YT channel/podcast/Instagram/book/personal coaching/any other way of growing their brand) and the brand that they are. Just because seduction is the field they choose to grow in does not mean that their primary job is seduction. You have to have something bigger in your life, something that you work towards every day, and something that you’ll miss the woman’s calls for. And if you have nothing like that, and miss her call on purpose to create the illusion that you have some lofty endgame goal, and even if the woman falls for it, look me in the eye and tell me, is this the man you expect me to respect? Is this the man you yourself would respect? Is this what greatness looks like?

I won’t write about how having a bigger purpose is attractive to women. Simply because the existence of your purpose is independent of whether women find it attractive or not. Almost no women think Sociology is an interesting passion. But it is among the things I’m passionate about. And their reaction to it is of no consequence to me. Because I couldn’t look myself in the mirror if I hid or sacrificed a passion just because others thought it was boring.

Now enough with the theory, here’s what I want you to do :

  1. Have a personal philosophy. Read about it, from primary sources, not just TikTok or Reddit or blogs. Do not treat it like pop philosophy, take it as seriously as you’d take your life philosophy. It’ll help you become a better man. My pick is stoicism, tell me yours.

  2. If you don’t know your passion, then your passion is to find your passion. How do you do this? By trying everything, and seeing what ignites your soul. Find your passion. Work on it daily. Get to impressive levels on it. Feel free to have multiple passions. Side point : Your passion is not video games, that is your leisure. Ask me to expand this further.

  3. Do not do in the pursuit of seduction anything that goes against who you are as a man. If the man you are thinks it is okay to continue trying on a woman who disrespects you, change that man. No woman who is good for you will treat you badly. If she is being bratty, then leave. Nothing more; nothing less.

I think I strayed from the title a couple times, but whatever other things I’ve talked about, are equally worthy of your perusal. Don’t agree with me, but promise me you’ll give these ideas a thorough consideration. Anything you want me to clarify, ask. And no, I won’t mention my real life numbers. Why?

Coz if you judge an an idea not on its own merit but on the source’s success, you’ve already failed.

Cheers to you!