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upsafetynextchapter · 2022-09-05T02:37:33+00:00

There is zero requirement to bend the truth or lie about your intentions. Be completely honest and upfront and you will save your time and her time. Every single time I have been upfront it has either led to fun or she has appreciated my honesty and moved on. By bending the truth or outright lying you are wasting everyone's time and you are missing out on women who want EXACTLY what you want. Do not do it. You are interacting with another human being and an equal. Treat her as such.

tudor3325 · 2022-09-05T13:48:54+00:00

Well you need to be very attractive and find somebody that is attracted to you. You should ask what they want and if it’s to be friends with benefits and that’s what you want you go for it. There is no certain technique to this

Mr_Throwaway2834 · 2022-09-05T10:07:23+00:00

Read Mode One

Nullroute127 · 2022-09-05T23:27:55+00:00

Women will categorize men into either a lover or partner frames. There's only a brief period of limbo. You can influence where you're placed. It's also possible to go from one to the other. However, the transition from partner to lover is harder.

At a high level, my philosophy is what you offer as your value proposition and context. If you offer value as you're intelligent, successful, family oriented, have a lot to offer in terms of stability/providing safety/comfort, etc. you're going to be in a dating frame. If your value is your ability to spike her emotions, make her chase, etc. you're going to be more in the lover.

You can't really offer 100% of your value as one or the other. However, the ratio likely determines where you're going to get placed.

Context is also important. If you meet a girl at a bar and you find out she's visiting on vacation, even if the value you offer is more dating oriented - you might be cast into a lover category just due to simple practical reality. It's also possible that you lead with emotionality, but she's more interested in what you have to offer as value.

WashImaginary2898 · 2022-09-06T00:46:09+00:00

Just be real. If you why a fwb then tell her that's what you want. There may be a chance she'll reject you. No problem. It's better to find the girl that will do what you want rather than lie, and have her go bar shit crazy because you lied. (Trust me on this one)

j314314 · 2022-09-06T14:20:46+00:00

Tell her your intentions when she asks

spacemangoes · 2022-09-05T05:10:20+00:00

If a girl perceives you has a high value, she’ll most likely doesn’t care if you say you just want fwb. If you don’t want to lie, increase your value

OkNefariousness9758 · 2022-09-05T21:23:48+00:00

Basically always be honest. The only way you win or lose depends on the woman. Someone will want a fwb and some won't.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-09-05T22:04:57+00:00

Bro just be honest. They are in or out. Next

Think_History_5682 · 2022-09-05T05:01:34+00:00

Become very rich, famous tall muscular and good looking. Pro Football ball player or basketball player

Or go for obese women

Whole_Kangaroo5632 · 2022-09-06T02:42:28+00:00

It’s also possible OP finds it difficult to date someone and then call it quits when you find out you aren’t that into them. At least I do.

I wanna get better at defining what I like, if I date someone and decide I’m not into it, not feeling bad ending the relationship which is completely avoided if someone agrees to sex with a relationship.

MacAmmond · 2022-09-05T14:45:15+00:00

Tell them to call you next time they're in the mood.

Ie. Next ovulation cycle

2022-09-05T22:05:23+00:00

What's the obsession with not lying? Or at least avoiding certain topics?

dobbs1997 · 2022-09-06T00:20:06+00:00

No, you’d be surprised, a lot of women just wanna have sex but dudes these days don’t know what FWB is cause they tell a chick that’s what they want but then they end up giving her boyfriend energy which in turn may make her want a relationship..Take note, if you’re fwb with a girl, it is ONLY sex, only text to set up meet ups for sex, no seeing eachother to do things besides sex, no spending the night, no cuddling, all that relationship stuff…

vegeta1418 · 2022-09-05T14:58:40+00:00

When you say date do you mean to go out often or actually be in a relationship

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