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SaltLeader3687 · 2022-08-21T16:20:46+00:00

Firstly let me say some of the comments on this post by people telling you to “press her” why she takes long to reply is the worst advice I’ve ever seen.

The reality is that she has too many options. She’s not keen on you, at all, by the sounds of it. I suggest you move on or you’re going to look needy and turn her off even more.

I’d advise stop giving her attention immediately. This has 2 benefits:

you will know for sure she’s not keen on you. So you can stop wasting your time.
if she has any physical attraction in you, by being nonchalant it will actually increase her attraction to you.

chillbill1220 · 2022-08-21T17:02:56+00:00

Definitely back off. Girls that are interested don’t turn away kisses. Girls that are interested don’t take 3 days to reply. Backing off may actually raise her interest a little.

If you’re getting that anxious feeling that you need to chase her then that’s your queue to back off and see if she’ll reciprocate your interest level

Kindly_Asparagoose · 2022-08-21T15:49:38+00:00

First of all, apart from the act that she is "one of the most sought after girls at the entire university" do you even like her as a person? Because if you don't, then what's the point?

Anyway, you could actually just stop trying, as in stop trying to figure it out. If she was playing mind games, she will notice your lack of contact and reach out. If she actually was not really interested, she won't.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-21T16:00:54+00:00

You could press her on why she takes 3 days to respond and she what she says. Or u could just have other girls ur talking to. If one of those girls shows more interest than her, then kick her to the curb or let her continue w her fuckshit 🤷🏾‍♂️

Basic85 · 2022-08-21T17:11:26+00:00

Let her go or keep her on the back burner and move on to other women. Don't feel bad as women have many choices. I use to feel bad for women but when I think about it she probably has many more options than I do so let them be as they don't feel bad for me.

The_Entertainer217 · 2022-08-21T17:34:16+00:00

Drop her, not because of the response time. Because of the kiss thing, you’ll never feel fully desired by this girl no matter how far you eventually go with her. It’s not worth it.

justdaddyd · 2022-08-21T17:49:49+00:00

First of all you've said you've gone on a couple of dates. Her not kissing you is a message already. She might like you but she seems not to be sure with you.

She could be holding back because she has someone else or she sees you differently. The "I'm not friendzoning you is a whack excuse.

3 days to respond is a red flag.

Most women are literally on their phone most of the time.

Try calling her. If she ain't picking or calling/text back, move on bro. Talk to other women, do something else. Invite another lady to the skateboarding thing because most probably she won't show up... This is evident from her communication after you tried to kiss her.

Night_Hawk1 · 2022-08-21T18:38:06+00:00

Eh there is a 3rd option. Pressing her and calling her out is not needy if it comes from a non needy place. There's a reason it's called sarging. You can illuminate the behavior as her being weird from a place of higher status trying to fix a poor social behavior and then her having to raise your standards by acting normal and engaging. This is a make or break stance and you have to stick to your guns. 100% of the women will shit test and resist this valuation. Push through. If you break at that moment 100% of women will laugh at you and call you a creep. If you stick to your "principles" and standards and that her behavior is lowering that and that you are high status, know how to have fun, and demand equal investment and are Extremely comforting/rewarding when she agrees to said frame: 50% she is blow up until you leave her alone and 50% she will capitulate she will literally be asking to take you on a date. Because of said divergence DO NOT DO This with women in your social circle. It is extra effort but if you dont try you don't know. You could go with the advice of cut and run as all the other comments above but then 100% you are rejecting yourself. The better option for this more commonly recommended door is to actively tell her you want to be just friends and act like she is the one being rejected while in some way making it known you're seeing other girls, with that last she MIGHT be more likely to actively chase after social proof and showing you are chill. Much of this is very much like interacting with an abused dog or cat. You have to be firm but comforting, show you will not hurt them but are a strong pillar. They can be Ina corner growling and barking at you but the reality is her tail is between her legs or she is actively avoiding you

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