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[–]IllContribution6209 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like she’s not interested man. Happens to all of us just focus on the next girl.
[–]generaldream 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
The more time that passes the more this is getting solidified into my head… I worked with her at the same store for a few months we seemed to have some good chemistry and she seem interested lol… oh well time to move on and find the next one
[–]IllContribution6209 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
She easily could find you attractive but just doesn’t want to go on a date. Just like you said move on and find the next one, I had this happen to me several times before I found a girl that actually worked out and got to dating
[–]generaldream 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yeah when I sent the text I said
what’s up -name- I was wondering if you wanted to get some ice cream with me next week on Monday night.
Felt like it was less pressure if I didn’t say date in there but also was just gonna be the 2 of us
Wasn’t sure if she would want to date rn or not cuz she got other stuff going on in her life that’s a little complicated but would of just been nice if I got a response over nothing…
Oh well time to find a new girl I wanna ask out
[–]CompetitionFair7686 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Text sounds a little insecure:
Should say next time with other girl:
“Yo Christine, i’m going to this amazing ice cream place on monday, you should come and join me”
Sounds more confident than saying stuff like “I was wondering if you would want to go out with me for ice cream” which is basically like saying “i’m not sure if you want to go out with me or not” which makes you come across as insecure, and thus less attractive.
With girls you cannot sound like you are unsure she wants to spend time with you, or like you are unsure how she feels about you. You have to sound like you are sure she is interested, even if you are not sure
[–]generaldream 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh thanks I didn’t even think about that. I didn’t realize it sounded kind of in secure I thought it was fine. I’ll have to keep an eye open for that from now on and reread/rethink asking girls out.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My opinion? You were ahead of the game and then sent this text which is so lame and full of excuses. You obviously want this to be a date and you want to express your interest in her, instead you decided to excuse yourself and say Hey I'm wondering if maybe, but feel free to say no, no strings attached, it's not a date, look you are probably not interested, but if you have absolutely nothing else to do, would you be okay if you have some ice cream with me?
Yea I know you didn't say all these words, buts that the message you conveyed to her essentially. Instead of being an excuser, think of the most direct way to what you want to achieve. It is to take her out on a date to get to know her and see if there is chemistry. So instead of beating around the bush you say "Hi Shawna. Let's go out! Are you free this Thursday at 7p?".
This way she knows it's a date. She knows it's late in the evening so it is more romantic. She knows your intentions. Why hide that you want to fuck her? Don't be an excuser.
Thanks,
I don’t really got much experience with this and your comment really helped me open my eyes a bit. Guess I’ve got to be more direct from now on.
Well I’ll implement this on the next women I’m interested in.
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[–]Turbopre2 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
It's hard to say what she is going through but maybe she expected you to contact her sooner. If you say she was eager to hand over the number then she should of responded.
[–]generaldream 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I only waited 2 or 3 days after getting the number let me paste something here from the other day to give some more insight on the situation she’s in… but I think no response in 2 days is a no so ima just move on
There’s one or 2 more things but I think these 3 are enough examples. But whether it’s messing with her or just showing some sort of signs of obsession with her.
To sum up when this has all taken place… it’s been 2 years since things ended between them but most of the shit that went on to my understanding happened more recently maybe last month or so
[–]Turbopre2 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
With all this new information then I suggest you stay away from her. I'm almost positive the ex will mess with your property if he finds out you are talking to her.
That’s true I didn’t even think about that possibility thanks.
[–]bobyd 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
why wait to text the first time, strike while the iron is hot, such dumb shit
[–]generaldream 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Tons of people saying wait 2-3 days… maybe that’s more of for a cold approach instead of someone you’ve know for a while from like work. Damn.
[–]bobyd 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why would you wait 3 days. Just the next day is fine. Either you think a girl net from cold approach will remember how she felt 3 days after... I don't remember what I ate yesterday
Well it was one of my first time talking to a girl like this… not face to face via phone and I blindly went with the advice I’ve seen on this sub from others saying wait 2-3 days even tho I wasn’t sure if I should. I just figured they had more experience then me and I could trust em
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[–]juju_brad 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Not enough investment perhaps, you could have gave her a call and talked a little before asking her out on a date. A lot of girls want to know that you're not a serial killer (we know that you aren't) before they meet you for a date.
[–]generaldream 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
True but we worked together for months and our work days crossed paths 3-4 days a week and I’d talk to her each day it did even if it was just for a quick minute not like I just cold approached her
[–]BuyerOfCoins 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you talked to her every day you could have easily called. But reading what you said in another comment about the ex, it’s your choice.
[–]great_account 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
As soon as I send a text, I forget about it. If she texts me back, great. If she doesn't, then I already forgot.
Sounds like a great way to go about texting girls
[–]WS_Slammin 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't wait, keep moving forward. Spend your energy where it adds value to you. If she's not interested her loss, find a new interest and play the numbers.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You did pretty much all you could. Try not to obsess about it and move on.
That’s the goal
[–]Reasonable_Ad_6626 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You waited too long to text after you got her number.
She was probably waiting for your text that evening. Made her wait too long and now she's like 🖕
So yeah you pretty much ruined it.
Good luck tho 😂
Rip yeah I took advice from the wrong people telling me to wait 2-3 days… but she also did know I was gonna be busy going out of town right after so not like I could really get together at all…
[–]ilovefootball49 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You know I recently met a couple girls that were bad at responding. Turns out they are just entitled think they are owed the world. A lot of these pretty girls are narcissists on dating apps. It's easy to get male attention and they hunt for the most they can get out of it. What does a decent dress and some makeup cost? Less than $100 and they think men that make <100k/yr are losers. Just focus on all their faults it will help you get over them.
I mean I met her at work not on a dating app but I get your point there is some truth to what ur saying. I can’t let it slow me down in my conquest of life
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