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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's the best answer here, I don't know why some guys here are so serious and almost butthurt, almost as if they don't have much experience yet they give advice based on what they read.
Dates should be fun even though we're both screening to see compatibility. Thanks for your suggestion!
[–]P7o7s7t7a7l 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's a great point 👍
[–]cobraCL 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love this reply. 😁
[–]Liprubber 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“I’m screening you as well. do you like the taste of beer? Spell ukulele for me.”
[–]Psuedo_Pixie 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This doesn’t have to be a big deal. I mean, isn’t everyone doing this to an extent on a first date? I would take a comment like this pretty lightly, and would make some kind of (equally light) comment that you’re doing the same thing.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that's what the first few dates are for. She was very anxious and stressed at the beginning of the date though, to the point where her skin was getting red. I guess she was so blunt about it because it was a defense mechanism or something like that in her head.
I'll keep talking it lightly and laugh it off then
[–]focus_flow69 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Grin, laugh and say little do you know, I'm actually screening you.
If they ask for what, you answer generically or non committal open to interpretation. Looking for substance Looking to see if she's fun. If she's a square or not. If she has the right vibes. If she is interesting or boring. If she's actually as attractive as she looks.
And the best part is, you aren't even lying. You should be screening girls as much as they are doing to you.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you, this is great
[–]P7o7s7t7a7l 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Screen her back but put it on your terms. Don't waste each other's time.
If you're wanting head on the fourth date while driving out of state, then you owe them the respect of not wasting their time if that's nothing they're ever going to consider with you.
To some degree repeated tests is off-putting so maybe just ask her, cut to the chase because there isn't anything that I'm asking of you or that I'm going to make you do if you aren't wanting to.
Line yourself with the most extreme expectation that is beyond anything that you really expect from her. Surprise....she would.
[–]P7o7s7t7a7l 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My Mom laughs at this too.
That's good enough for me.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well you are in chasing mode because you are chasing. You should treat every date like an interview and not an opportunity to impress them so you can get in their pants. Would you hire some rando off the street to work for you and handle your company's money for example? So why would you hire some random skank to stick the most valuable body part you have in her without vetting her and learning everything about her? You have to interrogate them hard. They are interviewing with you for a job.
Are you talking out of experience?
I agree with your idea but not the mindset, a date should be fun too, not taken so seriously and for the girl to feel all the time like she's on the spot and to put pressure on her. That's no fun and the girl will leave pretty fast. Screening is important but it shouldn't kill the fun.
[–]runaround_fruitcop 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I mean.... is that not what a first date is and they're just being blunt?
Yeah I know, I just don't know why they're so blunt about it and if I should say anything or act like I don't care
[–]doijustkms 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd say screen whatever the fuck you want.
[–]grasshopper241 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Well, obviously. You're not supposed to say it out loud though. What is this, your first time?"
[–]CrimsonPompadour -2 points-1 points0 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
"I'll save you the trouble." -gets up, pays the bill, leaves
Idk, seems to be the first thing that pops into my mind
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
That's not helpful. I want the girl, either for fun or for something serious. Getting pissed and leaving at the face of a little resistance would be a p*ssy move and not according to my plans
[–]Party_Gas_5343 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I agree w you bro, I feel like what they’re saying by “screening you” is the same as “im interested” keep doing what you’re doing. As always, stop overthinking every sentence she says, her actions will speak louder.
True that, they're clearly interested otherwise they wouldn't be on the date. Thank you
[–]CrimsonPompadour 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I see it this way, if you say that, and get up to leave, maybe it'll stand out to her more than sitting there answering her questions, if she apologizes and seems to feel bad, then sit back down and see if she approaches it a different way, that puts her in the chaser position. If she acts standoffish about it and comes off as aggressive, that leaves you still in the chaser position.
To me at comes off as more self respectable that you wouldn't be willing to drag yourself along as she screens how many other guys before maybe deciding to do more with you.
But you do you man...
[–]Vinegar_Tits_9 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, nah. If a guy did that to me, he’d get blocked instantly
[–]Environmental_Cress2 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
no dude. You come off as a insecure little boy
[–]zapadz 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlI4cBvEg4Y
[–][deleted] 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I am not fully aware why girls do that either. Maybe I'm too direct and obvious in putting myself in the judging position and they want to show that they don't give a f*ck about that? I don't know
"Yeah I know, sounds like fun". And proceed like nothing happened.
[–]DrinksAreOnTheHouse 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Yeah, me too.”
[–]yo_saturnalia 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If I wanted a job interview, I’d apply to Google. Tell her this
[–]LAHT_ 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Can't screen the screener
uh-huh
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