If she tells you she needs to check if she has plans after you asked her out and doesn't tell you if she has until the day before the date?

frie-with-a-tie · 2022-05-21T12:35:51+00:00

Yeah maybe, but who knows since we can not look into her head. Either you ask her again sometime or you tell her to contact you if she is free. Then you can see if she wants to see you or not. Move on afterwards, you have nothing to loose.

SaucerPass22 · 2022-05-21T14:23:15+00:00

Go make other plans. If she gets back to you, then you can tell her you're interested but she has to do better next time. If she doesn't get back to you, then fine you've already lined something else up. Asking again just makes you look needy.

yennybear888 · 2022-05-21T14:36:08+00:00

Soft rejection...women make it easy for guys they’re into

Realityinmyhand · 2022-05-21T15:07:22+00:00

If a girl is attracted to you, she will make it easy to meet and spend time with you.

Glacier_Sama · 2022-05-21T17:44:32+00:00

Shes not interested dude. Dont hit her up again. On to the next lady

Handle-me-timber · 2022-05-21T12:44:14+00:00

Soft rejection for sure. You can follow it up if you want but I wouldn’t wanna date her if she’s lacking that interest in the first place.

Doctor0z · 2022-05-21T17:32:01+00:00

When in doubt, always assume she has no interest.

Eggs351 · 2022-05-21T12:56:10+00:00

You could relax and wait for a response. Do something to occupy your mind.

redditor4206903 · 2022-05-21T14:02:26+00:00

Just ghost that bitch.

rrepsaj13 · 2022-05-21T17:19:08+00:00

Bro for me, she agreed on going on a coffee date and i asked her if she prefers in the morning or afternoon, she hit me with that “i’ll let you know before because i’m a little to busy atm.”

And honestly it’s making me overthink about it too much, idk if she just didn’t wanna say no but it would’ve been nice to be straightforward and not play games you know?

ecish · 2022-05-21T18:07:18+00:00

Idk, I have a pretty weird schedule and it takes me literally 15 seconds to look at my schedule and figure out if I’m free or not. When women say this, I just assume they’re hoping to be doing something else instead and are just using you as a backup plan.

whatusayneggha · 2022-05-21T20:44:06+00:00

ask once. if she didnt reply. cut it off. REMEMBER: women flake all the time (reason? dont ask me, ask them.)

ZakTaylor05 · 2022-05-21T16:01:59+00:00

If she wanted to go out with you, you would know instantly. She would know or find out immediately. If she doesn’t, you are not a priority or she doesn’t like you. Never be plan B.

NottoSlimorshady · 2022-05-21T16:21:47+00:00

had something similar happen, i liked the girl and we went on a date it was pretty good, and i asked if she wanted to hangout again and she said yes and when i gave her two options i.e friday or saturday, she said i’ll let you know. Red flag because it’s a thing girls do when they want to let you down soft or they don’t like to say no, it’s like say you ask her out on tuesday, and you might hangout on friday or saturday, thursday comes and you ask her, hey so can u do friday or saturday, on the day of they will tel you oh sorry i actually have plans, which is really fucking annoying, but 1/10 times it’s true, and if they really liked u they would be like oh sorry i have plans and im super busy but we can do sunday, then there’s still hope. but to be straight up with you, in this generation all girls are the same, for my situation there was something up, she wasn’t interested in me like that, so i ended up cutting ties. GL to u tho

mystylejay · 2022-05-21T17:41:53+00:00

What's the point, dude?

Did she accepted the date or not?

If she did, she wanted to

If she did not, she did not want to

Delay in the aswer is...who knows? Uncertainy? Multiple dates? why do you care?

Common_Goose_4001 · 2022-05-21T20:06:44+00:00

Shes waiting to see if something better comes up dude. It's plain and simple.

You're not her first choice

iamgiantlifestyle · 2022-05-21T20:21:46+00:00

Yea confirm with her the night before if you haven’t heard from her, if she doesn’t respond just move on

raulonastool · 2022-05-21T17:00:57+00:00

It's a soft rejection but not 100%. The ball is in her court. If you are unbothered by her "rejection" she might think about it, talk to her friends about you and then reach back out and ask if you're still free for the date. At this point your job is done. Do nothing. Make other plans for that day and if she reaches out reschedule for some other day. Your time is valuable and you need to act like it

johnocomedy · 2022-05-22T01:29:22+00:00

Men play checkers, women play chess. Stop trying to figure them out and just be yourself

ExcitementFamous4284 · 2022-05-21T15:46:31+00:00

You can just ask her a day before if the date will go down. Something like "hey what about our day tomorrow?" There's nothing bad with confirming. It might be a soft rejection but she could have said it because she doesn't want to promise to a date yet before talking a little more or knowing you're a fun guy to be with. I would recommend for you to ask her if as you said the conversation was fun and she seems interested about you

United-Educator853 · 2022-05-21T19:41:51+00:00

Man, you are overthinking a lot, just call her and keep it crisp. The conversation should be like :

you: ssup, I am a bit confused about the plan we discussed, if you are unable then tell me I will fill the gap with something from my schedule and have more time for sleep.
(either she will say Yes it's on and sorry that I forgot or she will reply as follows)

She: actually I am still unclear.

Then your response should be "Ok then, let's just drop the plan, whenever you are free just give me a call and we will plan it out, Is that Cool"

This will make things clear for YOu and Her.

idunahtknow · 2022-05-22T06:43:01+00:00

She could be undecided, or tried making plans with a friend who wouldn't know until the day of and she didn't want to double schedule. It really is a case by case. Best way to handle it, probably let her have a week or two, if she doesn't respond, ask again. If she doesn't respond the next time, definitely higher chances she isn't interested.

i-d-a-h-o · 2022-05-21T15:18:43+00:00

Honestly as a woman, women love playing head games with themselves. There's just as good a chance she's waiting for you to reach out

Lotus_82 · 2022-05-21T15:49:36+00:00

You definitely don’t. Or at least I wouldn’t. If a woman is attracted to you and wants to spend time with you she’ll let you know, and she certainly won’t “forget” or need any type of reminder.

If she’s interested she’ll be the one initiating contact and giving you hints about the kind of evening she wants to have.

Some guys here seem not to realize that in the game of seduction there are no resounding “yes” and “no”, there are subtle hints and non verbal cues like through the e use of looks, body language, etc.

The point is in seduction communication happens in between the lines, so to speak, and that’s why it’s a communication skill that needs to be learned and worked on for a lot of inexperienced guys who are expecting clear signals with “yes” and “no” when that’s not how this game works.

TaipanZ_ · 2022-05-21T16:47:08+00:00

Let her come to you I would say, I mean you asked her about the date and just be chill about that if she responds good if not don't ask her again.. thats how I would do it, hope it helps.. have a good day

dcmathproof · 2022-05-21T22:57:48+00:00

Just tell her what you are doing.... Hey, I'm going boating this Sunday.... Want to come along?

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