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e3cdspce · 2022-03-25T23:21:55+00:00

Im the same as you, tried both and understand what you mean. I think you need elements of both. Nice but assertive. You are nice but not needy, assertive and to the point to show intention (so u don't get friendzoned) without being too pushy and demanding. You need to find a balance

franikolai · 2022-03-26T05:29:21+00:00

Your problem is not your looks! Your problem is that you are young and socially inexperienced, that's why its so hard for you to be authentic. That's normal. With growing life experience you will develop a well rounded personality, that also has its edges. But yourself out there and go for what you want.

NineteenAD9 · 2022-03-26T03:19:53+00:00

You should try being yourself instead of letting a message board tell you who you are. It's not sustainable, which is why you're struggling.

2022-03-26T04:56:07+00:00

Confidence. In a way, being able to be confident and expess yourself and your vulnerability

No need to be fake and put on a persona. Just be a normal dude with honest intent, communication and the ability to put out good vibes/energy without expecting anything in return

Stop trying out these attitudes because its easy to spot. Just do you

VeliVoy · 2022-03-25T23:20:19+00:00

It don’t matter.

If you an avg looking dude you gotta compensate with status and wealth.

Like you said, you can’t be mean cuz that just makes girls think you an asshole (not the good kind)

You too nice, you will be seen as a friend.

You awkward, girls see you as socially inept.

This is why attractive people are perceived better (halo effect).

Or you can just lower your standards a bit.

Avg girls can like avg guys.

cass2769 · 2022-03-26T00:55:52+00:00

Why are you putting on a persona? Women can smell fake a mile away.

joelvaldezg · 2022-03-26T03:09:19+00:00

What about being you? I’m tired of this Reddit and it’s stupid questions. Seduction isn’t about doing certain type of things or being something for getting something in return. That’s why men are so logical and see this as: I do this and then I’ll get this. Seduction is about feeling, is about making someone feel things they didn’t felt before. Why focusing on the archetype you want to follow instead of being the best version of yourself? Focus on seduction, not in production. Seduction is a process of feeling, production in the other hand is a process of doing things for something in return.

2022-03-26T00:31:31+00:00

You have to be a little nice, and confident and also use humor. Or else you look like a frat guy, or special needs. Being good looking , cold approach is more difficult, but once you smooth out the approach your good for a long time

Snoo-62854 · 2022-03-26T01:02:59+00:00

Smoke buddy you will get attitude 🍁

Condor-man3000 · 2022-03-26T01:54:28+00:00

Confidence is always a winner. It's amazing how many girls an average guy can get if he just exudes confidence.

You have to keep it up and fake it till you make it.

2022-03-26T02:33:53+00:00

Just be however you want. There's no standard for attitude based on how we look.

Also, don't adopt a personality just because you think it will make others like you more. As you've seen, it can have the opposite effect/result.

Try being more transparent. People already more or less know that everyone who comes up to you probably wants something from you.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-26T03:29:22+00:00

You should try having an average unremarkable guy type of attitude. I'm sure you will do really well!

VeliVoy · 2022-03-26T06:28:25+00:00

Sounds to me like you are going for the wrong women.

VeliVoy · 2022-03-26T06:53:44+00:00

Well, you should respect yourself and not seek validation of your value. Some girls are "created" for douchebags, some are created for models, some are created for gangsters, you should seek for your corresponding "target".

tylerdetata66 · 2022-03-26T10:14:44+00:00

be your best self, and you will attract the best woman to fit your personality

cleetusneck · 2022-03-26T13:17:20+00:00

You don’t try on attitudes. You Proudy display your most positive traits. If you are not yourself women see right through it - and it’s not attractive.

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2022-03-26T13:22:35+00:00

It's old & dated, but perfect for you & dudes in the same situation: David DeAngelo. Cocky/funny. "Double your dating" has tons of good stuff when it comes to developing your dating personality.

Keep in mind this is beginner level stuff and not the "end all, be all" Bible of dating. There's tons more good info out there: Mystery Method, The Game, Vin De Carlo's, Pandoras Box.

Billieclide · 2022-03-26T13:35:54+00:00

How bout u just do you

HeMan17 · 2022-03-26T16:32:17+00:00

The personality type that you naturally are is the best. If you play a persona, you can never develop the same amount of confidence in a false persona, rather than your actual persona. Because if you are playing a fake character, you will be doomed to be self conscious.

If you are completely yourself and react the way you want to react to everything, then when something doesn’t go your way, you don’t think “what could I have done for things to have gone my way” you will think “I can only be myself so if it wasn’t meant to be it wasn’t meant to be.” That sort of mindset will give you the confidence you could never get from pretending to act a certain way.

You said it yourself, there are multiple personas which women gravitate to. It doesn’t really matter which one, it’s the underlying confidence that is the reason. So just be who you really are and develop confidence in yourself.

ShortStuffV2 · 2022-03-26T18:22:14+00:00

I know this slightly above average white guy who always seems to be with a girl. He seems to win by doing... Nothing.

Not trying to impress anyone. Not singing at a singing bar. Not dancing. Just sitting there, doing his own thing, content with himself. Allowing a comfortable distance until it's time for him to dance or take the girl near him by the hand.

He did speak Spanish to the Latina girl that sat next to him, which definitely helped, but I've also seen him pull a white chick that he did little more than play darts with.

I've seen this before, it's basically the opposite of "lean in." Just two degrees north of flat affect.

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