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norwegiandoggo · 2022-02-26T06:32:33+00:00

She rejected you and you're still chasing her even though she's not interested. How do I know she's not interested in you? She rejected you. That's a very clear sign that a woman is not interested. So when someone rejects you, it's not a cue for you to wait and hope that she will change her mind. It's not a cue for you to invest emotionally into a future with her that you have imagined. It's only a cue for you to move on. Give up on her and invest your time and emotions on women who are interested in you. A key clue that they might be interested in you is that they haven't rejected you. Her flirting with you likely means nothing and is irrelevant. You shouldn't even be thinking about that. She rejected you, and when that happens you should move on instantly and permanently. No emotional investment on your part. You should not have a "crush" on a girl who you are not dating. Especially not a girl who has already rejected you. It''s like you're investing all your money in a company that is about to go bankrupt.

MegaManXanax · 2022-02-26T06:53:04+00:00

I hate that she stopped kissing a guy because she saw you. What good does that do anyone? If she started flirting with you after rejecting you, she probably likes stringing you along. That’s why she stopped making out with that guy, because she wants you to keep chasing her and giving her attention. Do what she doesn’t want you to do, which is ignore her, because it will help you move on and stop giving a shit about her.

PaisleyHoundstooth · 2022-02-26T06:31:36+00:00

Mastery of emotion is one of the longest practices in life. Once you understand that your emotions are a tool, you understand how to hone them and use them to your benefit. Don't let your tools own you.

Acknowledge that the situation sucks. Know it's okay to have mixed emotions of embarrassment, rejection, hurt and longing. But also know that it's not going to last. Do your best to try to learn from the situation. Your experiences now will strengthen your intuition in future relationships. You're a human being that deserves respect. And you deserve someone that respects you and will not be wishy washy in their intentions with you.

Continue on your path of improving yourself and loving yourself. If your weight loss was healthy and made you feel good about you, keep the positive habits!

As far as friendship versus apathy goes, you don't have to decide that now. The future is open. You don't know what state another person is in or will be, and you don't know how you'll feel when you next interact. Personally, I would just do what feels natural in the moment. But I'm the type of person that doesn't like drama. If you can find it in your heart to let it go and be at peace, I think you'll be happy that you handled it maturely.

bestinwpb · 2022-02-26T07:16:28+00:00

Get a new crush and ignore her (stay cordial at work that's it)

Therocksays2020 · 2022-02-26T06:24:56+00:00

You have to no sell it. Ignore her. If she really feels bad about it. She will approach you

ExtraTerm2152 · 2022-02-26T06:33:01+00:00

Youre not being an asshole by ignoring her. But ignoring her for a while is going to help you in the long run.

coronakashooter · 2022-02-26T06:40:23+00:00

Ouchh

joelvaldezg · 2022-02-26T07:27:08+00:00

Be an asshole. She will like you.

AbbreviationsOld5833 · 2022-02-26T08:34:38+00:00

Oh. The eternal wrong step that most one sided lovers take.

You doing your own thing, working on yourself, proxy eyes( paying attention to everyone except her while ninja glancing at her) . basically your actions should be that you are interested in any other women but her. Dont overdo it.

These are basic games of seduction if you wish to play.

Or you can just find another women who actually fancies you too.

Good luck

Shadow__Account · 2022-02-26T09:31:04+00:00

She did nothing wrong, take responsibility over your feelings and treat her normally. Now the healthy thing would obviously be to move on and focus on other women, but if you are going to obsess over her anyway, kissing is nothing and you being emotionally reactive to it will kill your chances and you being ok with it might leave the path open to getting your girl. highly advise to let it go though, I don’t believe women will change their mind and fall in love with you after having rejected you and changing your looks will not influence that

RSNK10 · 2022-02-26T10:22:07+00:00

I will say bro. That situation sucks, but losing 30 pounds in a matter of months is mad impressive, so feel good about that. However, I hope you didn’t do that to win her over or impress her. She doesn’t deserve who you are today, keep improving for yourself and meet some ladies

zertsetzung · 2022-02-26T10:44:56+00:00

If she rejected you a couple of months ago why are you worried now what she does?

Just roll with it and ignore her. You stand to gain or lose nothing by doing so so you might as well just ignore her.

Just dont be like those dudes who get screenshoted over in r/niceguys and send her a long ranting text about how she broke your heart and how you would have treated her like a queen and you are a nice guy and all of that.

Definately dont do that. Take the L, and have a look around you at the other women in your surroundings. You never know, there may be one who has been crushing on you that you completely overlooked.

And if she aint half bad looking, get with her so that you can have someone to get with.

You dont have to be madly in love or even halfway in love with a chick to date her. And if you think otherwise, you are in for a lonely ass love life (because most crushes do not amount to really anything).

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-02-26T11:16:35+00:00

This is what's called onitis. You're too fixated on 1 girl. Dude. You should have moved on when she rejected you the first time. Chasing women who don't want you is a losing game.

She isn't special. Her pussy isn't made of gold. She is like every other 8/10 out there. Just shift your interest to one of the 790 000 000 girls just as hot or hotter than her.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-02-26T11:38:17+00:00

You need to be professional if she works with you. That’s why you shouldn’t shit where you eat

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