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[–]HallandOates2 86 points87 points88 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She just sounds like a bitch dude
[–]spicy_simba 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hi there buddy,
Read your story again, but this time with a guy coworker instead or a coworker you are not attracted to.
Its funny how the narrative will change. You probably would not accept these behaviors the same way.
When someone behaves in way you do not accept, most of the time we respond towards the person, and not the behavior,
Forget this narrative of shit tests, and you needing to succeed them,
Think of it this way, if a person like you they like you and no need for you to convince them.
Life and relationships are not an exam and if someone is making you feel they are an exam, they are probably not right fit for you as a partner.
You want a partner who respects you and dont throw tantrums at you, these are the blindsides of being attracted at first but someday you will realize that it is quite unhealthy relationship behavior.
Now forgetting about the relationship prospect athese behaviors are not respectful professionally, they need be addressed in a serious way, you need to speak up for yourself and if the colleague does not change, then report to management.
This js your colleague before anything else, respect between colleagues is top priority, if that is not there nothing much can be built up on it.
[–]arcalumis 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Since when is being an arrogant self important bitch a shit test?
[–]Calamity__Bane 35 points36 points37 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Those aren’t shit tests, she’s just trying to pull rank.
[–]adscrypt 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
also is probably already fucking some dude from mgmt
[+]Da_SnowLeopard -14 points-13 points-12 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
We're both cashiers and I have hell-a seniority on her. She has no authority over me.
[–]Important-Quote9544 27 points28 points29 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol she don’t respect you
[–]Calamity__Bane 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ll give you a bit of advice - modern conditions have made it so that men are forced into situations where we must compete with women for status and resources, something which does not come naturally to those of us used to dealing with women under happier circumstances (I myself have fallen victim to this). Women, however, possess no such limitations, and will happily devour men if doing so allows them to attain a desired end.
For your sake, then, you’ll need to remove the ambiguity and define your relationship with this girl, at least in your own mind. If you will place her in the “woman” box, then you need to escalate (safely! You don’t want to make a mistake here and end up facing a harassment complaint) and close her, so that the next time she tries something like this, you will have leverage and can appeal to the status of your relationship as a way to navigate the respect you are due. If you will slot her into the “co-worker” box, then you need to leave any notions of genuine escalation or seduction behind, and treat her as you would treat any male attempting to assert dominance over you.
Removing the ambiguity is necessary, because otherwise you will remain confused, and she will use your confusion against you. You should also have a sense of exactly how she feels toward you, so that as long as the ambiguity persists, you are under no illusions about what her behavior means and can respond accordingly.
I understand that fighting with women as you do with men is unpleasant business, but unfortunately it is sometimes necessary, and you ought not to go into it blindfolded.
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just start showing interest in other girls around you two, If she's interested she will stop being such a twat
[–]Leadeater 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
These aren't shit tests. She doesn't like you.
[–]jobbo321 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
These aren't shit tests. Women don't have some free pass to being absolute mean bitches just because you're attracted to them. In fact she probably already senses you're attracted to her and knows you won't respect yourself.
Treat her like you would treat her if she was a dude. Assume she isn't interested in you. Don't overthink this.
[–]willgo-waggins 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Personally I would be here on your second one:
“Well it seems it’s time for somebody to be taught some manners!”
Follow ups or continuations:
“We can start pants on but if you wiggle that ass is bare” (you better have a back up job lined up for this one)
“I’ll bet that attitude changes really quick in private”
“You think you’re in charge huh? Well we can change that”
“It turns me on that I get you so excited”
“Somebody really needs some serious attention…” (all about to e and implication here)
All this is if you want to be risky and gamble that she wants you to be banging her but doesn’t know how to get it across. Pretty standard shit for women as they are taught to be “good girls” and the ones who are forward are slut shamed.
I almost completely blew the clues for this past weekend with my FWB because even though she really is a horny little slut she doesn’t like to be seen that way publicly and is very naive/good girl. We were going camping and she threw some obvious hints that she wanted to share my tent - and bed. I was being dork ass guy clueless and not getting it right away. When the light bulb went on I managed to recover two days before we were set to go when she gave me an opening by asking if I could pick her up on the way to our friends who we were carpooling with. I did a fast follow up asking if she wanted to share my tent and queen air bed. I could practically FEEL her coming (no pun of course!) through the text line with her multi exclamations points response of how happy she would be to do that and how grateful she was to me for sharing.
I think your pal is wanting an aggressive and control response showing that you want to tap that ass but I’m obviously reading your post and can only go by what you have there. You will have to use your best judgement.
Good luck!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Most of the time laugh it off or ignore it. But this girl seems at least impolite, I think she is not good candidate for a gf at all.
[–]Chance_Zone_8150 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're a simp lol simple as that. The shit test bullshit is gettin guys fucked up and having them believe they have to take the shit of a woman in order to gey laid. Fuck that, I agree with another responder, "if this was a dude or a woman you arent attracted to, would you take that abuse?"...no, you wouldnt but you really just wanna fuck.
So instead of explaining everything to her, be a smartass or say, "Don't do that" and watch her crumple at the fact your treating her like a person or be blunt and ask her out and smash so you can stop simpin and wimpin
[–]ninjamiran -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Flirt and build tension as much as possible and ask her out if not ure losing her already bro
[–]Glass-Market-5336 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s shocking how much pickup is based on old Seinfeld episodes
[–]TheTruth221 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ignore most of them then have her pay for food
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not everything is a shit test. Some women (people) are just assholes
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