Girl says she's interested, but takes several hours to respond to my messages.

Mriconicdev · 2022-01-30T14:05:41+00:00

Stop just focusing on one girl at a time and putting expectations on her. If she can’t meet till the weekend meet on the weekend and in the meantime continue talking to other women.

She’s probably not THAT busy but she has other things and people that higher priority than you right now.

I’m having 10 different conversations with once a day replies right now and set up dates that work for me accordingly. Never getting hung up on one. When we meet and things go well I will progress our relationship forward.

If you’ve never even met in person yet especially if she’s attractive you should expect this kind of behavior it’s normal.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-01-30T15:25:40+00:00

but there's one problem, she takes HOURS to respond.

This isn't a problem. This is normal texting behavior from a LOT of people. Not everyone is a busy texter. She wants to meet you. She replies. So chill the fuck out and enjoy your date. Be cool, don't be a tool.

ksmith11011 · 2022-01-30T15:29:37+00:00

Don’t put any effort into texting. Texting is an attention sink and it can be stressful responding to people you don’t have any attachment for. Even when I genuinely like and care for a girl I still really don’t like texting, I only do it for them. So from this girl’s side of things if she’s a similar way then don’t expect miles of text messages. Keep it short and light, show her you aren’t bothered by the time between messages, and set up actual dates which you’re doing.

Once she gets attached she’ll start blowing your phone up. In the mean time there’s no reason to sabotage.

MrStallion22 · 2022-01-30T15:48:07+00:00

That’s fairly standard texting behaviour from girls nowadays, I wouldn’t get too hung up on it. The reasons don’t really matter. She replies to you and has agreed to a date. You should only really be using texting for logistics anyway, not as a way to get to know her. If you want to get to know her, get her on the phone for a little chat or better yet just wait for the date and chat to her then.

almighty_nsa · 2022-01-30T15:57:00+00:00

First: not your concern, the main point is she is responding and open to dates. Everything else are variables that do not affect the outcome. Second: unless she flakes on plans, it can actually mean the opposite. She could be worried her attention could be detrimental to her value in your head.

skinticket02 · 2022-01-30T15:01:56+00:00

She's using you for attention, she's a timewaster.

cbh28 · 2022-01-30T15:25:03+00:00

You're not her priority, which makes sense, she hasn't even met you. She's talking to other guys too. Talk to other girls, don't fixate on this one. Wait till you have that date to actually judge her. She might enjoy the conversation she's having right now, but like I said, you're very low in her priority list because so far you're just another one of the many guys that has come around.

Ikem32 · 2022-01-30T15:40:36+00:00

If words don’t match actions, prefer their actions to judge.

SnooDucks2517 · 2022-01-30T14:24:37+00:00

Stop texting her and see what happens

strawberryicy18 · 2022-01-30T16:45:34+00:00

Honestly I take a long time to respond to messages even if I’m interested in someone.

Sometimes I read it and set my phone down for a second and forget. Sometimes I’m just busy or I just don’t want to talk right then. I can definitely see it being a turn off for some people but I’m just not connected to my phone 24/7.

I’ll also take a while to respond to guys who are dry texters. They may be a really nice guy and I like them in person, but they suck at texting. I’ll be down to hang out and get to know them but I don’t want to text someone who sucks at conversation through it.

It’s hard to say though. I’m sure it varies for everyone but since she wants to meet up for coffee and is looking forward to it, she’s probably somewhat interested.

Title	Girl says she's interested, but takes several hours to respond to my messages.
Author	weedquestion123
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	January 30, 2022 2:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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