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5_7pickup · 2022-01-16T06:18:08+00:00

I hate the advice of just focusing on improving yourself and the women will magically appear.

It’s so dumb and such cope.

Should you work on yourself to be the best you that you can be? Of course.

But a great product is fucking useless without proper marketing.

Your problem is you dont market yourself or dont know how to do it effectively.

SnooMachines1406 · 2022-01-16T07:22:31+00:00

Lmao you have to put yourself out there. If a guy wants a good dating life he has to put work in and that means grooming yourself well and asking out women when ever you can. You don't just end up in a relationship you actually have to be proactive, idk why its not talked about more tbh. Cold approach anywhere

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-16T07:58:56+00:00

I've been at this for a very long time and I have noticed two specific correlations.

Back in the day when I was clueless, I had what you may call on and off days. Some days I just could seem to fail, I was social, girls loved me and I would get numbers and line up dates. Other days, I couldn't get laid with a bag full of cash in a Tijuana whorehouse.

The difference was that my on days were correlated with me feeling good about myself. Maybe I made a sales at work and was expecting a great commission, or I finally bought that leather jacket I wanted, or my biceps was starting to show some definition. Whatever. The thing is I felt great and women were feeding off on that vibe.

My off days, which were really most of my normal days, I was either baseline or pretty down on myself. So women were noticing this energy as well and I was invisible to them.

At the end of the day, I realized that women always want to attach themselves to a guy who feels good about himself, who feels worthy and knows what he wants and where he is going. Feeling good about yourself is what self esteem is about. Feeling that you are worthy and worthwhile. You can only achieve that by becoming your own best friend, putting your last to rest by no longer hiding your mistakes and failings m, owning them and processing them. As you stop doing stuff that you wouldn't do, you also gain love and respect for yourself and your opinion of you will be more important than others opinion of you.

Most importantly, you will learn to get validation from inside instead of outside, so you will no longer carry yourself with a needy depressed energy about you. You will no longer feel incomplete because you don't have a woman and that wjll attract women like crazy.

It's a process, strap in and just follow it. Once you have gained sufficient love and self respect, you will notice that you want to fix some things about yourself. How you dress, how you look, etc. these will become expressions of your personality. I've always been a heavy rock guy, so I wear a lot of jeans, cool t shirts and leather jackets. I slick my hair back. That's just me!

You do you! Just don't be boring. Express your natural sexuality. Embrace your inner badboy.

ctmsansei · 2022-01-16T13:02:44+00:00

read the book "models". it can be life changer, worst case it will give you a LOT of things to think about and work with which will for sure improve your life.

honestly I think it's a must read for most of the people who come here asking for advice.

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-01-16T13:18:23+00:00

I don't believe the byproduct thing at all, i look good, pretty fucking muscular and lean, i've been called too nice by a shitload of both male and female friends, hygiene is great, i always dress nice....... haven't been touched by a women in 3.5 years

IndianRedditor88 · 2022-01-16T06:16:07+00:00

Seek an honest opinion on how you look.

You could be the best guy in the world with the awesomest personality, but if you look like you are a homeless guy, chances are, that no lady will be ever attracted to you.

caligrown_85 · 2022-01-16T06:16:17+00:00

I was in a similar situation when I was in college. From my own experience, you may not be having things happen now but that doesn’t mean you won’t in the future. I found it was a lot easier trying to get with younger girls once I graduated. Idk why but that’s just what happened. I think girls in general like guys that are at least a little bit older. With age comes experience. You need to just focus on yourself and try and be happy. Girls can tell that shit and they don’t want to be with someone insecure.

skinticket02 · 2022-01-16T06:49:50+00:00

You need a new environment to shift your perspective. It could just be that you're very boring in your current environment.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-01-16T08:05:10+00:00

Arr you in shape first of all

lemmycaution415 · 2022-01-16T21:33:06+00:00

I would try to maximize your current situation till you get out of college. If your college is like 60/40 women to men like most you have a lot of slack. Do you have friends who can set you up with people? Does your fraternity have parties with a good ratio? Really try to meet people through your social circle. Lots of the game advice is really not calibrated for your current situation.

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