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[–]dontbanmeagaindudes 27 points28 points29 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
She's not answering which means that she's not interested.
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[–]dontbanmeagaindudes 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Maybe she just wanted a makeout that night and she wanted to end it in the most polite way so she gave you her number.
[–]truthbomb999 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly this. She wanted to use the guy for some temporary fun, got that and moved on
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
You forget about her and move on.
Girls have two faces, one when they're with you in person and one when they're not. A date or interaction may go super well, but it is never a guarantee that she will want to see you again. Girls are guided by their emotions and so much can happen in between that interaction with you and the next time you chat.
I've had girls tell me in person when they were topless in my bed that they see me as the type of guy they want to become fwb with, only to become flakey and noncommittal afterwards. Never trust what a girl says until you get to the 3rd date/meeting with her.
If a girl loses interest in you, don't let it get to your head and don't try to make sense of it. If a girl is showing signs of disinterest, don't waste your time and energy on her, just move on to the next one.
[–]JelloMelodic 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Yeah thanks for the advice. It’s gonna be hard forgetting about her though. Don’t think I’ve ever liked someone as much
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Then you still got some work to do in your inner game. You should never start getting attached to a girl until you make it to the 3rd date and even then, you gotta control your feelings so they don't get out of control.
[–]HappinesSource 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agreed, and I would add... Don't expect anything from women until they introduce you to your parents. I've had "relationships" that went quite beyond a 3rd date and still were full of shit. Don't assume a girl has caught feelings for you at least until she formally introduces you to her parents
[–]JelloMelodic 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Again sound advice, so cheers. I’m just gonna wait it out for a few days then decide what to do on the weekend. I can’t see the harm in any of them 3 options at that point and then if I still don’t hear from her. I’ll move on
[–]gimmeadvice_x 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yeah you can always make out with another girl. Btw if you don't mind, can you share your experience how you approached and gamed this hot girl?
[–]JelloMelodic 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That’s not what I’m really looking for anymore dude. Err I’ve always found that quite easy. Her friend made conversation with us at the start of the night then left. Then we saw them all again got speaking and dancing. Bought them a couple of drinks and she made the move
[–]gimmeadvice_x 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Girls approaching guys is not something very common in a club. Good for you. I think even if you're not into it, keep trying and getting intimate with girls you like and definitely one of them would stick around for dating or long-term. Much better than someone who is just able to have a brief convo with a girl before she gets bored and leaves. It's a numbers game. Keep practicing your craft.
[–]5_7pickup 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Relax Romeo, you legit dont even know her.
[–]TrollingEmperor 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No deal is better than a bad deal on the negotiation table.
So if she's not interested, why are you still if it is clearly not what you want...
[–]TheSunshineMan 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Kissing a lot - this probably killed the attraction..
Plus girls are up and down, every day is different..
Which is why you need to set up exact plans on dates in situations like this..
Or have sex on first dates.. no matter how well you thought the date was going is meaningless.. sex is the most surefire way to secure a second meet.
One day she's all into you, the next day she's not..
Especially when it comes to girls you haven't met up with on a date/fucked etc.
[–]JelloMelodic 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes I regret not asking her in person, but I had quite a lot to drink and didn’t have my best thinking cap on. She was the one that kept kissing me
[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Learn from this..
If you want to be better with women.. cut down on the drinking.
[–]jestercake 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't contact her again until she reaches out first. Move in with your life, date other women. At some point she still might reach out. But double texting, callingetc WILL push her away.
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