Tips on how you close

Hmmoklolthisisfine · 2021-09-17T05:10:44+00:00

Depends what the setting is..

If it’s a bar/club scene you should be escalating quickly. If you are with her for 15 mins she’s into you and if you don’t kiss her within 20-30 mins then you’re wasting time and she’s going to move on to a guy with confidence.

If it’s a casual date the vibe is different. But still build tension and escalate physically. Make subtle advances like hold her hand or pull her close. Literally anything you think of to create a physical connection in the moment will work. You should be going in for a kiss between the first and second hour if she’s into you. Don’t wait for the end of the night if the moment is right earlier. Be assertive but if she’s ignoring your physical advances and pulling away then obviously don’t try to kiss her.

Basically yeah you just go for it. So what if you go in for a kiss and kill the vibe? Why would you want to keep hanging out with a girl that’s not into you anyways?

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-09-17T13:20:08+00:00

Wait until you're about to finish your drinks and ask "hey do you like wine". If she says yes, ask "do you want to do a wine tasting with me". If she says yes, say "There's this really good red wine that you should really try. Let's pick up a bottle and split it at my place?". Then if she says yes, you're in.

It works best when you already have a bottle at yours so you don't have to deal with finding a place to stop at on the way.

Papa_Musk · 2021-09-17T06:45:32+00:00

Remember being rejected means not now but doesn't mean not ever.

MisterShogunate · 2021-09-17T07:44:39+00:00

You don’t need to kiss. Also, you just look for a reason for you both to go to your place or room. She already knows and will come up with some reason not to if she’s not in the mood. You have plausible deniability and you can check the temp again next time. Your job is just not be awkward about it.

dry-foo · 2021-09-17T10:01:26+00:00

I have had problems with the same thing. How I arrange dates usually: I ask them for a drink (beer/wine) near my place around evening (~7pm). The later, the better.

After we've finished our drinks (which usually takes about 1 hour) I'll just say her that "I live nearby. Let's go to my place" or "Wanna see my appartment and grab a beer/wine there?" or "You're super fun/cute/nice. Wanna go to my place for another round of drinks?"

I think escalating physically, going for the kiss, escalating verbally and asking her to your place are kind of separate topics. In the end they all are just tools and steps for the ultimate goal: having sex with her.

> Don’t you worry about her saying no will kill the vibe or even end the conversation

You must not worry about that. If she says no then what do you have left? Obviously she's not super into you or she's on her period or she has work tomorrow and it's late or she's not 100% sure about if she wants anything to happen or she slept 3 hours last night or any other of the 100 reasons.
A clear 'no' is better than a 3 hours long date where you are anxious and waiting for the moment that will never come and blaming yourself for being a pussy. If you try to kiss her or hold her hand or ask her to your place you're already a champion. You've already done your job at that point and you should congratulate yourself for being better than 99% of the other men who aren't there trying to take her home and enjoying her attention.

Why do you even want to have a conversation with someone who doesn't want to have sex with you when your goal with that person is only to have sex with them? It's a different story if you're hanging out with a female friend who you can't afford losing your face to. But dates, if you "fail" you will never meet them again. So you don't have to be afraid.

how can I be more assertive in a non creepy way

By believing that you're doing the right thing. If you don't make the move she will be disappointed. She will think that she's not attractive or intelligent enough for you. Remember: when she has agreed to have a date with you she's already investing many hours of her precious time to you. It will take at least an hour for her to prepare for the date, maybe an hour for transportation, then the actual date. So you must make that time worthwhile for both of you.

If a 10/10 guy tells a woman that "hey you're cute" she thinks it's the best day of her life and she feels good about herself.

If a 1/10 guy tells a woman that "hey you're cute" she calls the police and thinks it's creepy.

Creepy is just a word for a particular guy that a particular girl doesn't like and doesn't feel attracted to.

Fake it till you make it. By practising you will become more comfortable with women and you can just chill out, connect with them and feel good about it without being scared of being creepy or getting rejected. Don't cockblock yourself with those negative thoughts if in the end you just want to have fun with the girls, offer them your energy and positive vibes.

Title	Tips on how you close
Author	kjk20001
Upvotes	3
Comments	26
Date	September 17, 2021 3:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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