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[–]faxfinn 88 points89 points90 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Time for the dancefloor fella
This. Learn to dance. Its so much more easy to close I wouldn't believe it if I hadn't seen it happen to myself.
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[–]faxfinn 12 points13 points14 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Could probably find some decent videos on YouTube, but me myself just started spending more time on the dance floor and taking inspiration and moves from guys who were way beyond my level. Get a drink or two to losen up a bit, then head out there.
As long as you can keep to the beat of the music, you can get away with almost anything. I've had everything from the cheesiest 70's disco, twerking and /dance commands from games I used to play lead to make out sessions on the dance floor. I did all of the above said types of moves the last time I went clubbing a few weeks ago, and got more compliments from my dancing (from both male and females) than I've ever had in a single night before. The only consistent thing I did was follow the beat.
[–]Colonel_McKernal 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some guy at my gym would come in before closing on a Friday night before going out and practise dancing in front of the big mirrors. I think that may be key, find some mirrors and practise.
[–]speedymeboy 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Move your hips to the beat! At home put on some music with a good beat and draw the alphabet with your hips to the beat. This will help you get more comfortable moving your hips around and it will feel more natural to do so later at the club.
Move your arms around a bit, don't be flailing them in the air but don't let them just hang their like a rag doll.
Take steps to the beat, you don't have to have any fancy footwork, the rest of your body does it for you, you essentially just have to step back and forth in time with the music.
Dancing is pretty simple once you get a feel for it. I used to not dance bc I didn't think I was any good, then I just started doing it and you get better as you go. Girls have complimented me several times and I'm pretty sure it's the hip motion, that most guys don't have ;p
[–]Sloth-Ibis 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yeah, practise
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[–]Nanonaut 12 points13 points14 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Phone number and the morning after : You should try to get her phone number before the kiss. I don't bother taking theirs anymore.
"Do what I literally do not do" ?
Also, why the hell would you exchange numbers before you've even kissed her? There's no physical relationship yet, exchanging numbers is way too boring and throws the vibe off. I either do it at the end of the night or in the morning if we're in bed together.
[–][deleted] 19 points20 points21 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There's no luck here. I used to not get many IOIs, so I worked on my posture for a few weeks. Then I worked on confident body language. Then I worked on maintaining strong eye contact. I've also updated my wardrobe to more trendy and well-fitting clothes.
Right now I'm reading 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck' and it's working wonders on changing my outlook on life to a more chill, good-viby one.
So stop feeling sorry for yourself that you don't get IOIs and change that, because the power is in your hands.
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[–]Ragondux 24 points25 points26 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can have them all.
Thanks!
[–]rndKhash 36 points37 points38 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LMAOOOOOOOOOO savage as fuck. Agreed though. I hate that smell lol
[–]DAN3JA 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
On the off chance that your comment isn't satirical, there tends to be a large overlap between women that smoke cigarettes and women who put out.
[–]ksm6149 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Depending on the area (city, college town, etc.) 4 kisses a month is perfectly reasonable. One night per weekend, or maybe 2 nights a month... Perfectly doable
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[–]Vanodii 12 points13 points14 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
pulling : I don't have a lot of experience on this one yet but I think that if you tell her to go back to your place then there's a good chance that you will get laid.
I'm sorry but why are you even posting a guide here? Your guide isn't that bad but really. You 18, just went to the clubs for the first time and managed a few hook ups? Let experienced people do the talk. Wish you the best of luck though.
[–]gabr10 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Does knowing to dance really helps?
I am a lot shy and don't think I am that attractive (I know it has more to do with confidence) but I can dance pretty much and almost most of music genres. Especially when I am with some alcohol in my blood.
I very very very rarely approach in a club/pub/party, I have got some girls in my life but none absolutely the majority was not in this ambients.
I would like to be more successful at nights but I have to work on my shyness.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, knowing how to dance makes life so much easier. Just shows that you have more social proof/more desireable. but you definitely DO NOT need it. Just have fun. If you are having fun, people will want to be with you since you are fun.
[–]Nanonaut 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
God yes. It really takes the right mind set though, if you're serious about it you'll look stupid. It has to be a way that is fun for yourself. It's sort of a negatively self fulfilling thing though, because if you worry too much about "looking serious" then you'll look serious. So really it just takes some practice not giving a fuck (having friends who like that is the best help ever)
[–]Zetu123 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wait i thought this advice was pretty good, not sure why there's so much hate.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Thank you for posting this. I'm going to a club for the first time this weekend. Any more pointers are appreciated (especially with dancing, because I can't dance for shit). Wish me luck.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don’t really have to know how to dance at all. Guys never really have to move well in a dance environment, girls do because it’s how they show value. However if you do have good moves I’m pretty sure that makes you like 10x more attractive.
But just watch other people because that’s what I did when I first started. Like groove your body.
But the biggest tip is to get your arms moving and up near your chest or even at/above your head sometimes. Otherwise you’ll look like a bouncing zombie if you arms just dangle. If you do want your hands down by your waist at least use your elbows and shoulders to keep them moving.
Basically keep yourself loose because people aren’t watching your movements. Well, the girls might be, but you’re dancing and having fun, and they’ll want in on your fun. Just be aware of your surroundings and try not to spill anyone’s drink lol
Oh and like OP said, fucking SMILE.
[–]ExtraCheesePlease88 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t look like you’re trying too hard when dancing, and make sure you’re actually having fun.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You literally don't need to know anything. This sub is kinda weird for all these weird tips and shit, kind of like this guide thing.
All you have to do is have fun. Literally. That's it. Regardles if you look retarded while dancing etc, as long as you are having fun, it will show. People are attracted to having fun. Truly all there is to it. Be yourself, dress nice of course, have fun, get some drinks. It will all fall into place. Also don't have expectations of anything. just go to have fun.
[–]borzee 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks bro
[–]mrairjosh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol don’t listen to these guys bro. Idk what they’re on. Like, these are super good tips. I think they’re just doing the lame thing where if the first few comments are negative they just follow suit.
[–]throwawaylilbastard 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Pretty sure as well. Whatever. Thank you though.
[–]anyholsagol -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Good write up. I go clubbing every Tuesday and Saturday (best nights at the clubs I like) and this is exactly how my night goes. I might have a couple drinks at home to loosen up then I buy one when I get there just to hold. Dance, smile and put out the vibe.
Then around midnight my friends and I split a bottle and try to get the girls wild. Pour shots directly into their mouth and let them reciprocate. Gets them close and gives you plenty of kino. Also, it shows you're a good time and trustworthy.
Then it's time find out what their plans are for after. Now that everyone is having fun get them to keep the party going at my place or a friend's. I always leave with at least one number, sometimes 5-6 and a few kisses. Typically we take a group of girls for after party as well. Granted like you said, we all have off nights, but this is more the case than not.
Really helps that I go to the same places every week also, staff knows you and it helps you feel more comfortable. Plus girls see the staff giving you daps and think, this guy is important/trustworthy.
[–]anyholsagol 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Typically no but today yes. Going to struggle a bit for sure.
[–]GET_IN_THE_VAN 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think this is written by a guy who is new to going out or is really young, maybe like 21. Going through the "making out with girls every night stage." It's time to start bringing girls home homie!
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'Start grinding your leg on her thigh'... Delivers low roundhouse
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