So what happens after a hookup?

NTSpike · 2017-08-20T21:04:13+00:00

Don't think about other guys. Any attractive girl is going to be having other guys hitting her up, and it doesn't change your course of action either way.

Be non-needy, offer her only positive emotions, live your own life. Be centered in your life/mission and in your worth. The only way she'll chase is if she feels the best around you and you give her the space to feel your absence. Don't try and fake it, just live your life and offer her invitations to join in when it makes sense for you.

xXRemyLeBeauXx · 2017-08-21T01:58:26+00:00

My advice is to ignore her, if she's a 10 and you just leave her alone (and also I assume you were good in bed and gave her a few O's) , she will eventually hit you up. that's been my experience with keeping 10s around. hell that's how I usually get 10s. if she's surrounded by dudes non stop and your the only dude not playing into that shit, she's gonna be intrigued. like "am I not good enough for him, let's see what he's about" same theory works for post sex as well.

Yass_King · 2017-08-21T00:23:51+00:00

If what you said in another comment about being "swarmed by girls" is true, there will inevitably be another girl as hot as this one and you will quickly forget the first one ever existed.

So live your best life, and at most toss her another casual invitation in a few days to do something with you – something you genuinely enjoy and intend to do anyway, and will have fun doing without her if she says no or doesn't respond.

The basic mistake you're making is focusing too much on one girl. Take it from a seasoned vet in the dating scene, more hot girls will come along and whatever worked with the first one will eventually work with one of them. No sense in thinking too much about this one – that comes from thinking she's special.

Tip: she's not.

BScarecrow88 · 2017-08-21T03:00:07+00:00

Que Sera, Sera. If it is meant to be, she'll still show ya interest. Just ask her out again, you Know, using the typical, "Had a nice time, thought we hit it off, I felt a connection" banter as a "feeler" to see what she does. Let the chips fall where they may. Those guys hitting on her will do that.

SpinPlates · 2017-08-21T04:15:28+00:00

I went out with my friend last night and accidentally pulled this HOT Russian chick back to his apartment. Solid 8/10 I ended up fucking her on his couch when we were shit faced.

She left at 6 am. I just texted her and she wanted to fuck again tonight at her house but I declined because I wanted to sleep in my own bed.

I'll probably keep fucking her ocassionly but I can already tell she's crazy.

So to answer your question...what happens after a hookup? Whatever you want go happen.

Lambdal7 · 2017-08-21T07:13:55+00:00

Two things

When you text her don't be only sweet and nice. Be a bit sexual, write her grrs and tell her you'll not be nice with her and she's been such a bad girl and that you will punish her. Write all that with smileys and still be cute about it, but also be manly, caveman style.
If she finds out that you're seeing other girls, it's often a relief, because she knows she doesn't have to handle jealousy or neediness from you. Sometimes it will also kickstart her desire for you and make you a challenge. However, don't flaunt this. It's best if she finds out subtly. You can start this conversation by asking her if she is seeing also other guys. Be playful and a bit teasing about it.

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-08-21T11:26:18+00:00

I'm worried it was a "one and done" situation

Why worry. It was what it was. Why would you expect more?

beernsleep · 2017-08-21T17:12:51+00:00

In general, unless you really fuck something up, if she will fuck you once, she will fuck you again. I mean, seriously about 100% unless you fucked something up (bad sex, too needy, acted mean, etc.). Not sure about the specifics of this situation but here's what I do which you can use in the future.

If I fuck a girl, she leaves in the morning or that night or whatever, I text her the next afternoon something along the lines of: "I really had fun with you last night. [try to reference something funny from the night before that is now an inside joke like: I still can't believe those shoes you wore but I guess I can get past it ;)]. Let's grab a drink (dinner, movie, park, etc.) on Wednesday at [name of bar]."

Leave it at that. She needs to know she wasn't used (even if she was) but she also needs to know that she doesn't control you. You want to text her and let her know you would like to see her but don't be needy by trying to force text conversation or putting too much control in her hands. Once she agrees to the plans, don't talk to her. If she texts you then you can text back but don't do any more chasing. Wait until you guys meet up again and don't skip a beat. Pick right back up where you left off by being flirtatious, comfortable, and fun.

ClassyMuthaFucker · 2017-08-20T21:05:24+00:00

I feel like I lack actual experience in this department, so please take what I say with a grain of salt.

But I recently ran into this situation and I felt like I handled it wrong. I believe the correct approach is something like 'After you guys bang the first time, ghost her for a week or two, then hit her up'. If you get no response, or she says no and offers no alternative, maybe try again another week or two later. If still nothing, move on. Some girls will just be one time things.

Can anyone verify this for me and OP?

Title	So what happens after a hookup?
Author	CJdoesit
Upvotes	31
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Date	August 20, 2017 8:22 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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