Should you ever wait on a girl to make a decision about you?

AlwaysLearningWork · 2021-03-21T19:29:41+00:00

Just relax man, chill. You're pressuring her super hard when she is clearly into you and just wants to take things slow. Giving her deadlines and shit. You already agreed to be exclusive, that's basically a relationship already. Why do you need to put a label on it? The more you pressure her, the more she'll pull back and need more time.

You're way too focused on labels instead of enjoying your time with this girl. It's not good for you (As you said about your mental health) or her.

Seriously chill man, you got this in the bag, just keep hanging out and be intimate with her. If you care more about the label/your ego than the girl then you should just move on but I mean, come on.

TheCinnamonBoi · 2021-03-21T19:07:27+00:00

Sounds to me like you’re already dating. Have you told her how you feel about her? I think she’s just scared because she hasn’t done anything like this before. Not sure an ultimatum is the way to go with this kind of girl. She might get pressured and back out. Also, from the way you describe it, sounds like she’s def into you so Idk why you would say she doesn’t want a relationship with you. I think she’s confused. If you back off or she says no, she’ll likely miss the time you sent together and regret her decision so If you really like her just take her back at that point. (But make sure it becomes official then). I’ve was put in a really similar situation with my first gf so I get how you feel.

Colin9001 · 2021-03-21T19:32:20+00:00

fuck labels relax. your pressing her for a relationship is just insecurity and lack on your part

Kichinjaaa · 2021-03-21T19:38:29+00:00

some people just really dont like labels, i think at a young age they really are not that necessary and maybe even harmful. a month and a half is not a long time, to commit to a relationship without giving promises impossible to keep, both people need to know what they are getting into. people do change and you both have grown since the first time you met, so give it time, for your sake and hers. but if at one point it becomes too much for you, its completely fine to leave the situation. just evaluate before why is it more important to you to „claim“ this person opposed to just enjoying time together since the chance of you spending the rest of life together is not very high (saying that because both of you are still very young). good luck!

disignore · 2021-03-22T01:55:43+00:00

I told her i was in no position to wait on anyone.

Dude, you're 19.

JXMMY11 · 2021-03-21T22:57:14+00:00

Bro I’m pretty sure she’s gonna want to make you her bf but the deadline thing is pushing it, I believe she was going to say yes already but now she may feel pressure even though she already had her decision. All you could do is wait... it would hurt if she says no but at least you could try to keep your friendship in tact.

Good Luck

Allevon · 2021-03-21T21:28:51+00:00

revente · 2021-03-21T19:21:50+00:00

Idk, nothing is stopping you from dating other girls in the meantime.

SithLordJediMaster · 2021-03-21T21:23:17+00:00

"What do you want?! Not what he wants or what she wants. Not what your parents want. Not what society wants. But... WHAT DO YOU WANT?!" - The Notebook

Alpha-011 · 2021-03-21T23:26:05+00:00

Because I've been advising ppl for more than 7 years in the relationship topic and they send me their histories, so I know most like (and based on her time-thinking) what's going on. Look I need to be straightforward like it or not, she's dating someone else previously and especially someone who left her, so her mind is thinking and because woman are emotional beings, she trusts you based on her previously experiences with you HOWEVER she doesn't feel any attraction for you (you may insist that is but it's not). Indeed the time she needs is because she's waiting the other guy to come for her(hopes) that probably won't happen. The reason why she's with you is to not feel alone, and rejected, especially after that relation that they had (the other guy) (which were most like carnal = sex sex and sex). As well don't get foolished woman tend to remember stuff you did to them and never forget she most likely will betray you after she meet another guy while she's going to be with you

AXxi0S · 2021-03-22T00:37:47+00:00

No. You’re far more important than that. If she needs to think if she wants to be with you, she doesn’t care that much.

Find someone who’s all in on you.

rad_dynamic · 2021-03-21T20:19:52+00:00

Every girl I have history with and have gone back to after time hasn’t worked.. my advice would be to move on and find a new girl :) there are plenty

ContWord2346 · 2021-03-21T21:44:15+00:00

Nope x 1,000

Upbeat-Explanation85 · 2021-03-21T22:20:58+00:00

No because you should be spinning plates , adopt a mindset that your the prize , if a plate falls that's ok , your got Marie, Bianca or Isabel to botty call , if she doesn't see your value , that's cool ,next...

a-little-spice · 2021-03-21T22:50:04+00:00

Dude calm down. You’re coming across as super needy. You’re 19. Go date some other girls and stay friends with this one.

Title	Should you ever wait on a girl to make a decision about you?
Author	justaboywithquestion
Upvotes	33
Comments	23
Date	March 21, 2021 6:55 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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