Do you ever just blatantly ask for escalation?

itsiceyo · 2012-06-28T01:31:25+00:00

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ThrowawayPUA · 2012-06-28T03:43:07+00:00

Don't ask women to make conscious, rational decisions about emotional engagement. That doesn't work.

Pardon me, miss, if it is not too forward of me to ask, may I have your permission to place my rima oris in immediate proximity to yours, and proceed to palpate your vestibulum oris with my dorsum linguae? It will provide much sensory stimulation to your trigeminal V3 nerves.

That's sort of what it will sound like to her.

L1stigerLurch · 2012-06-28T01:00:46+00:00

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frogma · 2012-06-28T03:26:56+00:00

Nah. I mean, I've done it and it's worked more than a few times, but it's generally not something you wanna do.

Trust me dude, most of us (guys) suck at reading body language. Most of us have never given a shit about body language.

But, girls are naturally pretty good at reading body language, and they're naturally pretty good at reading language in general. She's gonna be reading your language when you say a line like this, and immediately (subconsciously) she's gonna form all these opinions about you -- you're clearly not very confident, you don't know if your actions are appropriate, you're too shy to just go for the kiss, et cetera et cetera.

More importantly though, you're putting her on the spot. You're basically saying "Please guide me through this situation." Some girls are okay with that -- most aren't. Hell, most guys aren't okay with that. Many people are fine with leading the situation, but when you put them on the spot like that, it changes the whole dynamic.

So I'll say this: Probably about 90% of the time, if you're even in a situation where you're thinking of saying something like that, you can just go for the kiss (and probably already should've done it by then). Because despite what you said, you actually aren't that terrible at reading body language. You're good enough to the point where you're thinking of asking that question -- which means you've felt some of the sexual tension already, and you know you wouldn't ask the question in the first place if you think the answer's gonna be "No." You simply wouldn't do that.

So don't ask it. Just do it.

Soupertramp · 2012-06-28T03:39:39+00:00

One of my friends, who is a genuine "natural," once told me, "never ASK for anything in bed."

Since then, I never have and never will. You get so, so, SO many more sexy-points for being fearless and taking action. Asking for escalation is a sign of insecurity, and insecurity is not sexy.

wahahay · 2012-06-28T01:08:33+00:00

Sometimes. Read her breathing.

ldn_singh · 2012-06-28T10:13:57+00:00

If you're going to blurt it out phrase it differently: "We should make out" rather than asking. Subtle difference!

chet_hunter · 2012-06-28T01:46:35+00:00

Why ask brother, just go for the make out. But I mean you need to learn how to read body language my little breh, the signs are not that hard to see. Easiest thing to get better if girls lets you hold her hand (and it's not an established friendship) you SHOULD be going for a make out asap. You'll almost always get that shit little breh

Title	Do you ever just blatantly ask for escalation?
Author	XD5
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Date	June 28, 2012 12:57 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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