Do you have a personal pattern on how you approach women and talk with women? Share it!

SingularityGuy · 2013-05-29T12:27:52+00:00

I used this for a long time with great results and it was the conglomeration of a ton of trial and error. I posted it a while back, but this seems like a good thread for it. Also nice post btw.

Overlying Principles:

1) EYE CONTACT

2) Manliness - Remember "Book of Pook" principles

3) "I have an abundance of women"

4) Kino Escalation and Always Be Closing

Before Going Out: POWER POSES, GROOMING, TAKE UP LOTS OF SPACE, TECHNO, MAP LOGISTICS (BEDROOM CLEAN, ALCOHOL AVAILABLE AND ROUTE HOME), CONDOMS.

Interaction:

Pre-Selection (Optional)

Attraction Part 1

a) Tease w/ smile about anything that can be changed. i.e. clothes, hair, nails, shoes, something they are doing at the time(not body related)

b) "Hey! How are you doing / how have you been?" Act like you know them hug

c) Imaginary Friend Opener for someone sitting alone

d) Fake Mean Girl, "Hey you tripped me!", "Hey did you grab my ass?"

e) "Is it possible to wiggle your booty without cracking a smile?"

False time constraint I've only got a minute but... I need to get back to my friends but...

Attraction Part 2

a) At a dancing place - "Do you have two legs? Great then you can dance!" Go to dance floor

b) Let me see your hand - three step twirl - hand hold - move hand above her head - twirl

c) Hysterical Cold Read grab hand

d) Me and my buddies were talking about x earlier - use indirect opinion line and open convo EXCITING. "If you could have one superpower, what would it be?" "Who would win in a fight, Mike Tyson or fifty midgets?"

e) Group huddle to create a bar gameplan, or start playing a bar game. - bring over the strangest person you can find, etc.

f) 'Birthday 9 months before must be justified

g) Roleplay GF, Harry Potter, other

First Qualifying Buffer : Question, Challenge, Qualify - can be with the group or with one person

1) You all seem friendly, I like that, you are friendly right? K just checking.

2) Grab hand Can you cook? Tease "really?" - relieve tension.

3) Check out figure "Are you Athletic/ You work out?" Tease - relieve tension.

Isolate and get eyes focused solely on you where she can't look around at other people behind you. Lead her (if not isolated from friends already move her somewhere else)

** Rapport Part 1 - pick 2 of 5 - ALWAYS follow answer with emotion/ motive/ characteristic from previous answer. Conversation Thread.**

a) What are you passionate about?

b) What do you like... about what?... about anything?

c) So what makes you different from everyone else in this room?

d) (I know what you) What are your ambitions

e) 3 things routine - "try again"

f) (I know what you) What do you look for in a guy?

Rapport Part 2 - Future Plans

a) We should grab dinner/ brunch at x tomorrow

b) I have always wanted to hike x, we should do it this week

c) Let's go to karaoke together tomorrow

d) KNOW UPCOMING FUN EVENT AND INVITE!

Rapport Part 3 - Increasing Sexuality - Increased Kino

a) "What is the one thing you can do better than anyone else in this room?"

b) Sexual Inuendos

Second Qualifying Buffer

1) "You aren't just friendly, but you are flirty too... maybe even sexy I LIKE THAT!"

2) "you have great energy."

3) "You are different than other girls, I can't put my finger on it though, do you know what I mean?" - "No explain!" - "Ahh it's not important."

Arousal pick 1 of 5, whichever leads you to kiss close - Eyes triangulating - speech has slowed, increased pauses/

a) Speed Seduction Love at first sight routine

b) Push/ Pull - "I've got to run, let her go and pull her back in by her hand."

c) I'm just going to gaze deeply in your eyes for a sec, I hope that's ok.

d) Romantic comedy monologue - ha i'm just kidding you don't believe in that stuff do you!

K-Close only if you can't f-close

a) Use last arousal to create the right mood

b) "I would kiss you right now if that girl that likes me wasn't looking at us... I hate to make people jealous."

Third Qualifying Buffer

1) You aren't just sexy, but you seem like someone who does things off the cuff! You don't always have to make plans do you?

2) You aren't just sexy, but you seem spontaneous, you are spontaneous right?

Move to f-close

a) Venue Change to get closer to house

b) Food

c) I've got a bottle of wine I need to get rid of. Let's get out of here.

Day 2 Text Game:

"So, have you killed anyone recently?"

recyclablebantha · 2013-05-29T09:16:30+00:00

Everyone has their own style and personal way on how they first start out an approach and carry a conversation. These can be called your own self created personal list of routines and openers that you use.

I don't do anything fancy and I don't rely on contrivances to start up conversation. I don't even care who I'm talking to most of the time. Here are some things I follow.....

1 Anywhere but the dance floor:

I observe the situation and ask a question about it or maybe make a comment about it. The first thing that comes to mind.
Really I don't even care if the person has an answer for me or if what I'm saying is somehow awesome. I'm just sharing what's on my mind or sharing what I want to know. That's all it takes.
I listen to the response I get. I base my response on her response. I either make a question or a statement (or both) in reply. Rinse and repeat.

2 On the dance floor:

I play with the whole floor.
I copy people who are having fun.
If I have a drink, I cheers people near me.
If I get bored, I move to another place on the dance floor.
The whole time, I'm making eye contact with everyone, men and women. When a girl I think looks interesting, makes decent eye contact, I push it a bit. I see how long the eye contact lasts.
If I get a good impression from the eye contact, I make an on-the-spot decision if this is a girl I should challenge to approach me or someone I should approach. (Usually I attract girls who approach me.)
Then when we're next to each other, I play with her, I don't really try to talk, at least not right off: I'm there to dance.
If she wants to talk, I oblige but the music is usually rather loud so I don't try to hold a conversation.
If she's down to play, I (kino) escalate almost immediately. Sometimes you can k-close almost immediately upon getting into her space. (But usually I find that boring now: I prefer a girl who gets excited if I build up the tension. (In turn I like a girl who build tension with me.) A girl who likes the build up before we start closing each other...... is like a fine wine, whereas the girls who jump right in are like Blue Ribbon (cheap beer). I guess it depends on my mood. Sometimes it's cheap beer night, sometimes nothing but fine wine will do.

breakthesewalls · 2013-05-29T11:27:05+00:00

"You! Who are you?" After that it's just improvising..

AlexWIWA · 2013-05-29T08:46:39+00:00

I chicken out. Speaking for myself and a lot of seddit.

When I do approach, I have a lot of success with the "can you watch this for me?" method. I also live in a predominantly middle to upper class area where theft is not a problem.

OnMyDaleCarnegieShit · 2013-05-29T15:04:10+00:00

This philosophy has helped me a great deal: anything funny/interesting that pops into your head that you could potentially say to a women, you HAVE to say it right away. Even if it's a women you have no interest in seducing. Oh, you noticed something interesting around that group of girls? Don't say it to your friends, go over and say it to that group of girls. Oh, you noticed something funny about your surroundings? Don't waste it on your friends (those assholes), say it to the cute girl standing near you. You like that girl's bangs? Tell her.

Saying whatever pops into your head to everyone without hesitation takes the pressure off and builds confidence. Some of my caned openers started this way. I use this one a lot: whenever I'm next to a girl and we're both wait for the bartender: "So, what are you buying me?"

Of course there will be times when you see a women you want to talk to but nothing witty/clever immediately pops into your head. That's fine. Just go with a canned opener or better yet, something simple like "mind if we join you?"

rikjames90 · 2013-05-29T15:25:27+00:00

Direct opener. You are adorable and i had to come meet you.
I channel my inner Ryan gosling.

choc_is_back · 2013-05-29T11:30:18+00:00

Mine can be summarized as situational, situational, situational.

I.e. making a witty-ish/sympathetic remark about some common situation you're in, and then just continue talking as if you're old friends.

I also have a bit of a rule among the lines of, all else being equal, choose the prettier girl. (e.g. who to ask the time to, where to sit down on the train/plane, who to start chatting with in some networking event...)

Title	Do you have a personal pattern on how you approach women and talk with women? Share it!
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Date	May 29, 2013 4:56 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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1 Anywhere but the dance floor:

2 On the dance floor: