Does anyone remember their first ever day approach?

Seddit_Only · 2013-09-17T20:15:59+00:00

Storytime!!!
Last day of college (for the semester). I'm sitting in the cafe, eating my lunch. All of the sudden, a beautiful girl sits down 2 tables away. The college is almost empty, so it's just me, her, and some other guy in the cafe.
I thought "she's cute. I should just talk to her. it couldn't hurt." At that instant, i froze up and couldn't do it. So I left to go to the library. There, i'm working on an essay and meet a classmate of mine. He's talking, being friendly but annoying, while i'm pondering about never seeing that girl again. So I get up, go to the hall way (the library is right down the hall from the cafe.) and i sit in the chair for a good 2 minutes, then return to the library. i'm constantly thinking of that beautiful girl, and looking at the chances I could take or leave. So then finally, after 5 minutes in the library with the classmate, i say "hey, watch my stuff. i'll be right back."
i make my way to the cafe, walk in casually, then make eye contact with the girl. She looks at me, smiles, then I walk up to her and say "Hello. what are you studying?"
I felt ballsy as fuck, it was my first ever daytime Cold-approach, and it was on campus! I see a cute girl, I walk right up to her with great confidence, and I start a conversation.
The conversation was terrible!!! But I was super pumped, i didn't even care!

So, son. You don't get courage. You make courage by fighting away the fear. You just need to man up and do it.

jelatinman · 2013-09-17T22:45:04+00:00

Oh Jesus. This was a bad one. Though it got me much more out of my fear of rejection, it still hurt. (If you don't wanna shit your pants in embarrassment then stop reading).

Basically I'll try to keep it short. A girl was in my driver's ed class when I was 16. Known her for years, always thought she was pretty. Incredibly shy, but pretty. In a rare moment of courage I slip a note in her backpack while we were on break, reading:

"Dear _________

I think you're cute.

-jelatinman.

(That guy who sits to the left of you in driver's ed)."

I always wanted to talk to her, and I finally was starting to around the time I slipped the note in. A few weeks pass by and I was walking with her back to class. Then this exchange happened. (Imagine me as a clammy sweaty neurotic mess in this exchange).

"So... um... did you get my... letter?"

Confused "Um... no?"

"Oh..."

*awkward silence."

"Well um, I'm sorry it had to come out like this but I think you're, uh, cute."

"Um... thanks?"

I was so embarrassed I walked right in a U-Turn to the balcony above the stairs to think of how fucking beta I was. Then I realized that hey! I finally put my feelings on the table for her! Sure I didn't ask her out and I failed, but I did it! Moral of the story is, no matter how fucking awful you feel, it'll go away. You'll meet new people. (And possibly never talk to her again, which is why it's bad to fall for a previous friend).

EDIT: Fixed conversation. Seriously reddit, why did you format like this?

psyocal · 2013-09-17T20:18:56+00:00

I don't remember my first but I remember one of the earlier ones. I got the courage by the subtle hints I was receiving from her in the weeks leading up.

She was a cashier at a local grocery near by my place. I was nervous but I wasn't displaying any nervous qualities. I didn't say much, very small banter and I said 'what's your number?' she said 'what?' I just kept looking at her without saying a word, and she grabbed a pen and wrote it down. She told me to text her. We texted for a few days but never met up.

When I think back to it, I laugh and tell the story about how nervous I used to be several years ago. My tastes in women changed and if I saw her now I doubt I'd look at her twice. But at the time my heart would start racing for her. Nowadays not so much. That feeling is amazing though.

Koper99 · 2013-09-17T23:41:58+00:00

I absolutely remember it!!

I decided I wanted to try to approach a girl during the day, and then spent weeks walking around without actually approaching anyone =P

Finally, one day I decided it was going to be it. After letting a dozen occasions slip by, I was crossing the street and I turned back to see if my friend was following, but I didn't stop walking.

I then literally bumped into a really good looking girl and immediately after I spontaneously said "Hello, I'm XXX". No anxiety, no problems, we had an interesting talk, it was actually overall a pretty good approach! Turned out she had a boyfriend, but I felt a very intense and long lasting high for the rest of the day, it felt like I was on top of the world!!

From then on, it was easier and easier. I'm not gonna say I never again had AA (hell I still have it), but every time it was a little less. Unfortunately, the high after is also getting less and less pronounced, but oh well, it's still there.

From then on, I met a lot of girls I wouldn't have otherwise met. A few turned to dates, a few to friendships, tons to nothing (in fact, I would say around 90-95% don't end up in a #-close, not sure if that's normal or not). But that 5-10% makes it worth it.

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2013-09-18T04:19:38+00:00

It was three/four days after I discovered the online seduction community. I approached a girl on the street and asked her her opinions about my headphones. She said they looked dumb. I laughed and said thanks and walked away.

But it was my first approach. And I knew that if I could walk up to a girl and talk to her, that my opportunities to meet and seduce women were virtually endless.

the_stats_man · 2013-09-18T05:08:18+00:00

Tons of little indirect approaches here and there but my first ever direct dag game was on college campus, girl was walking beside me and I just said 'Hi' and got her to stop. #-closed but nothing came out of it.

NaturalAFC · 2013-09-18T14:51:29+00:00

God, my first ever direct day game opener I was so nervous for. I had just opened indirectly this woman who had a dog that I thought at first was a baby. Saw she had a ring and ejected. I noticed this girl kinda following me, just generally being in the same area as me in the store. Finally, I got up the nerve and just walked up to her and said (in a super high voice, lol) "hey, I know this is random but I thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you." She said, "Awww!" and we started talking. Found out later she was too young for my tastes so I didn't get her number but left with a hug. Such an adrenaline rush, lol.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2013-09-19T00:43:05+00:00

I think mine was I was at the mall waiting in line for some froyo. And I came to the mall in hopes to pick up and it was my real first time doing daygame because I watched so many videos online and read so much material of guys picking up I wanted to try it.

So I was on the line and after debating for a couple minutes in my head whether I should do it or not I just cleared my mind turned to my right and started talking and said she looked really cute and I had to meet her. The whole time I was red at my face and my body was almost trembling and I almost stuttered. That was my first approach, oh and she had a boyfriend.

twistxz · 2013-09-18T11:49:17+00:00

I tell you what, I'll come and post here later today after I've done it.

Title	Does anyone remember their first ever day approach?
Author	finalstop
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Date	September 17, 2013 7:53 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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