Fellow plus size sedditors. How is your luck with seduction?

TofuTofu · 2011-03-29T01:23:02+00:00

I'm about 50 lbs overweight myself, or for where I live (Japan), a gigantic fat bastard.

Play to your strengths. Being a bit more dominant than other guys will come easy as will taking up lots of space and having a large presence.

As long as you groom properly, dress well, have confidence and good inner game, you'll be gaming at 90% the level of super good-looking guys with equal game. If you want to get to 100%, you'll probably need to put a lot of work in at the gym/diet/etc, but really, is 90% so bad?

asoap · 2011-03-29T02:02:14+00:00

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acartoontiger · 2011-03-28T22:45:46+00:00

I am not a big guy, so take my advice with a grain of salt. What do you mean "plus size"? There is an important difference between being a giant guy and being fat. Many women find fat guys inherently unattractive so its all an uphill/unwinnable battle. If this is something you really care about, use it as motivation to get in shape.

lolpickup · 2011-03-28T23:26:24+00:00

I currently weigh 280lbs, but I'm 6'4" and I carry my weight well, but I used to be almost 400lbs. Confidence with women that I already knew was great, but I always had issues approaching strangers. I hit the gym, for myself more than anything, started reading PUA material again (A friend had lent me "The Game" years ago) and built my confidence. I've seen really big guys have the ability to get with girls, it's all about your confidence. So my main advice, is get comfortable with yourself.

I had a girl I met online a few months ago. She initially rejected me, and friendzoned me because she said she was not attracted to heavier guys. I gave her props for being so honest, and continued just being me around her. Nothing changed, just because she said she wasn't attracted to me didn't mean anything had to. Last week, she had her shirt off and we were fooling around. Self-confidence is everything. When you display it outwardly, it doesn't matter what you look like, people want to be near you.

edit: hit the gym, delete facebook, no lawyers needed. Do this for you, not anyone else.

SunRaAndHisArkestra · 2011-03-29T16:38:12+00:00

This is a serious answer to a serious question:

Ask Tony Soprano what he thinks about it.

SnapeWho · 2011-03-29T04:03:15+00:00

Don't even worry about the weight. Keep in mind, that not all women want someone skinny. I prefer my guys chubby, honestly, at any point in time, I'd take you over someone more fit. Just remember that there are women out there like me who find you incredibly sexy, and just feel that. It'll give you the confidence that REALLY makes you sexy to just about anyone.

Bobsutan · 2011-03-29T05:35:05+00:00

I think this is worth mentioning as it relates to the topic at hand. When I got into shape suddenly game was less necessary.

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gdprt/reality_vs_myth/c1mtcto

2011-03-29T15:36:05+00:00

I'm of the opinion that weight loss is a lot like pickup; often the reason you don't lose weight is because you think you can't.

I used to be pretty severely overweight. Over the last year and a half, I've lost 45 pounds. I recently started weight lifting and now have some pretty good muscles.

It's true that pickup can help even an unattractive guy land hot girls; it worked for me. But now that I look good, it's just easier. Why handicap yourself? Besides, there are more benefits to being in shape than just getting girls. Your body is the only thing you will always have in this life, so take care of it.

SilverBack_Ace · 2011-03-29T16:28:37+00:00

I think of myself as a big guy, and I AM depending on who you ask.

I grew up in a neighborhood where everybody my color had a six pack and your sole game was how sexual you could be.

Being big is as much a handicap as being arrogant or selfish, ours is just on the outside its hard to disregard it because when people judge you on it its obvious. It also becomes easy to associate any negativity you receive to your weight.

The only real way to deal with it is ignore it. If you were in shape you wouldn't care about your body image and it should be the same now. You should approach and conduct yourself like your the shape you WANT to be and never acknowledge it as a flaw around interests and people you do not know or are getting to know. They won't address the subject unless you do and in pursuing she'll let you know she's not attracted physically but may give you plenty of opportunity to show your personality.

When it comes to being overweight I think us guys have it a lot easier but the advice is exactly the same for Big Girls. My first girl was real BIG but I loved her cute face and fat ass, she NEVER treated her weight like an issue and had MANY men chasing her. As a matter of fact her weight only became an issue when she realized it was issue for me... Imagine being with a BIG person for 2 years and never have them mention working out, she even switched to vegan and NOT to lose weight. Now thats the kind of confidence we need to have.

Title	Fellow plus size sedditors. How is your luck with seduction?
Author	asoap
Upvotes	4
Comments	20
Date	March 28, 2011 10:41 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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