ABOUT ME: Race: Dark skinned Asian, Height: 6’, Age: 29, Location: Northern California

Preface: I was so inspired by others like 5_7pickup and sarge_slayer for posting their field reports, that I thought I’d post mine. The following encounters occurred from January to March (winter academic session) at multiple different colleges/universities. In this time period I had 57 encounters, I asked 35 for contact info and 32 gave contact info, texted 26 and 23 responded to at least the first text, asked out 21 and got 10 dates.

Format: [age] height ethnicity - description

  1. [23F] 5’7’’ Hong Kong – Found this a slim girl watching an orchestra on the university lawn. I open with “Do you have the program list for the concert”. She asks for my number so she can text it to me. She studies music so I talk to her about classical music which impresses her a lot. I’m still acting too friendly and not even flirting. I text her the next day and we arrange a date. Date goes poorly since I’m too boring and don’t escalate and she ghosts me.
  2. [23F] 5’2’’ Taiwanese – Found a light-skinned, cute and innocent looking girl at a business club. I opened with “Hi, nice to meet you, I’m ____”. Again, I’m way too friendly. I end up going on three dates with her and realize she thinks I’m just a friend. I try to sexually escalate with her, but she backs away and later she ghosts me.
  3. [18F] 5’7’’ Chinese – Found an athletic girl at a foreign student club. I approach her when she goes to the refreshment table and point to the bowl of candy and ask “which candy do you like most?”. I don’t really have to say much because she starts qualifying herself to me about how good her grades are, how athletic she is, and how she is tall and beautiful. She asks me out in front of everyone if I would like to watch stars with her, but I’m already tired and decline so I just get her contact info. Within an hour of our first date, she apologizes to me and tells me she didn’t feel a spark. (I really need to get out of my comfort zone and flirt more.)
  4. [23F] 5’4’’ Taiwanese – I approached two girls eating in the school cafeteria. I open with “Can I join you guys?”. I start talking about myself and one of the girls asks how old I am. Her thin and innocent looking friend gets interested in me and asks me lots of questions and we exchange contacts. Later we meet up and she tells me guys her age are too immature and she wants an older guy like me. She is a virgin so I spend a few dates feeling her up with no penetration. She wants a relationship before I penetrate her, but she has such a strange personality so I pass.
  5. [18F] 5’5’’ Indian – I am meeting with a thin, cute light-skinned girl in the school cafeteria I had met earlier. Her thin Indian friend asks me how old I am and tells me that the girl I’m with is 17. This Indian girl says she is 18 though so I can talk to her. I switch to talking with the Indian girl and she goes on and on about kpop. She texts me a lot and gets me to meetup with her because she wants to give me candy. She then tells me she wants a physical relationship and that she has no experience. I pass because I don’t think I can handle her talking about kpop anymore.
  6. [20F] 5’1’’ Vietnamese – Found a busty cutie with a very innocent face sitting in a startup incubator. I open with “What do you study?” I listen to her tell me about herself. Later, I give everyone in the room an impromptu startup pitch. The girl laughs and takes photos of me and sends them to me on Instagram. I make fun of her for being a zoomer and she asks how old I am. I take her out on a few dates and find she is very mature for her age, but wants to know what sex is like. I show her.

Conclusion: My seduction strategy is so bland and I rarely flirt causing women to think I’m just a friend. I started looking at r/seduction after all these approaches to help me flirt. I need to be using cold reads and push/pull. Also Mystery Method for dates. Getting girls to ask my age seems to get the most interest. Girls tell me I look like I’m 19 so I need to sell my age more.

EDIT:

Here are the 57 approaches broken down by location:

School Clubs Meetings: 27
Events and Socials: 9
Classroom: 5
Cafeteria: 1
Quad: 1
Tabling: 2
Hallway: 2
Working school retail: 1
Zoom/Online: 4
Other: 6

EDIT 2: Updated Approach Numbers. Forgot to add some approaches to my spreadsheet.