First date ever... Ideas, advice?

brianbria · 2017-08-22T12:30:04+00:00

im nervous as heck to the point i feel like im scared to be an adult.

Welcome your nerves and anxiety. Let yourself feel into it.

Weekend or weekday? Daytime or night-time?

Doesn't matter. Whichever is preferable for you.

Would coffee and icecream followed by geocaching be good?

Sounds fun to me. (And cheap!) Go for it.

Tips on what to talk about etc,

Talk about whatever you want to talk about. That way you'll have more fun, and she will be more attracted to you if you're having fun. Don't get stuck asking her questions that you don't care about. Do be curious if you are, and do ask questions ... just don't ask questions you don't care about. Don't pretend to be curious just to get her to like you or something ... it probably won't work and it will make you have a shit time.

physical contact and everything else

Physical contact is very overlooked by most guys I think. Touch as soon as you see her. Give her an intimate hug if you can upon meeting her. Sit close to her. (If you're at a coffee shop, see if you can sit next to her rather than across her. It may be different from the norm but you can then touch her leg or whisper into her ear, or tease her, play thumb wars etc. You can't do that sitting across from her) When you walk, hold her hand. And if you're out geocaching, if there's any silent moments, look into her eyes for a bit, create some tension, and then kiss her. Don't always be talking, silence can help you create a kiss moment. If she rejects any of your physical advances or moves away slightly, respect that and stop. The fact that you tried is still attractive even if she didn't want you touching her at that moment she now knows you have balls. So it's always good to try. If you hesitate, you masturbate.

yardapesbb · 2017-08-22T14:01:27+00:00

First date is like a job interview, so coffee and if it seems like its going well move up to ice cream. I'd set up the geocaching for #2.

midnight_toker22 · 2017-08-22T14:06:43+00:00

Weekend or weekday?

Doesn't matter. I typically set up first dates on weeknights, and save weekends for hanging out with friends and going out with girls I'm "dating" (those I've been out with before and like enough to see more than a few times).

Daytime or night-time?

Night! Daytime is when friends go out; night is when dates go out. Just a general rule of thumb...

Huge caveat: if you have a fun date idea that requires it to take place during the day, then go ahead with the day date and don't think twice about it.

What are some good ideas for a first date? (Would coffee and icecream followed by geocaching be good?)

A good first date is one where the two of you can have 1 on 1 time together while you do something fun. The activity itself should be something that allows you to show off some of your best qualities, be it a particular skill you have or just your ability to find fun and interesting things to do.

I had to look up what geocaching is, but that sounds like a great first date idea. It's unique, gives you alone time to get to know each other, offers a lot of great opportunities to have a fun/funny afternoon together. Also you get bonus points for doing it as a follow up to coffee and ice cream (2 activities on one date is like 2 dates).

Not gonna lie, I'm going to look into this whole geocaching thing more and maybe add it to me repertoire. It's important to have lots of fun/unique date ideas "on reserve" so that you're not always doing boring old dinner/drinks. One way to set yourself apart from other guys...

Tips on what to talk about etc, physical contact and everything else

People like to talk about themselves, so try to keep the conversation more focused on her than it is on you. Take a genuine interest in her life, her passions, and what drives her. Pay attention.

Break the touch barrier as soon as possible. Greet her with a hug. Get her accustomed to your touch, and it doesn't have to be a "sexy touch" (to start out with). Touch her arm or leg when you laugh, or to emphasize a point. Put your arm on her back when you need to lead her somewhere. If you do it slow to get her comfortable, it won't be difficult to transition to "sexy touches". And that is another topic... look up "kino escalation ladder" or something along those lines.

Good luck!

ItsreallyAdamv · 2017-08-22T14:36:39+00:00

Okay man Im going to keep this short and sweet. All you gotta do is have fun and keep it cool and relaxed. Lots of light jokes and playfulness. Go to a nice place where you guys both can have fun!

Here, check out these videos on first dates! It may help.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dAMr7AR-GyY&list=PLldlBkH2pJR8Ph-XEywBlMTVlYjZTaNF7&index=3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8SYYGL7A2oQ&list=PLldlBkH2pJR8Ph-XEywBlMTVlYjZTaNF7&index=6

DavidGolani11 · 2017-08-22T21:57:40+00:00

Masturbate 4 hours before the date so you don't get a boner during.

IntrovertSigma · 2017-08-22T13:39:11+00:00

Whatever the outcome appreciate this as a victory. The next goal should be to have 2 or 3 dates lined up per week. An abundance mindset wil do you good.

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