First date gone awry.

sedditforthewin · 2014-06-24T04:37:17+00:00

Try to kiss the girl and more on your next hangout. This will make you super nervous, try to suck it up. In the long term, go through this process with thousands of girls and it won't make you nervous.

if there is a lull in conversation, what to you normally say to ease back into a nice talk?

Say anything. Talk to cute girls for at least 5 minutes every day and it gets easier because you stop filtering yourself. Have more conversations period.

husgutt · 2014-06-24T14:39:56+00:00

Read models. I started yesterday, and I learn so much. Based on that book, I would say you probably held back a lot of stuff you wanted to tell her. This because you were afraid of her reaction. Maybe actually bringing up more meaningful (and scary) stuff would have made you connect.

If this is a sinking ship, I would just tell her about what's on your mind. I'm not saying this will win her over, but you get a real experience from it. For instance, maybe she reacts positively to your honesty, but rejects you. Then you will have witnessed the power of honesty. With the next girl, maybe you will be more willing to share your feelings and thoughts.

Tell her what's on your mind, without expecting anything from her. Good luck, and share your experience here :)

philosarapter · 2014-06-24T19:36:56+00:00

Sounds like she's been waiting on you to make some physical contact but you just keep talking. You're missing the whole flirting part!

On the walk, you could have at least did the old '5th grade shoulder bump' and got in a light pushing match with her. You could have put your arm around her as you told her a story, hell you could have probably held her hands and skipped like an idiot to make her laugh.

If there is a lull in the conversation, let it go. Let there be silence, its sometimes better to just be together in silence. And instead trying to blab her ear off about stuff no one really cares about, make plans for an actual date! or talk about sex! or talk about the next time you are going to hang out to get drunk! Hell or just kiss her already! JUST DO SOMETHING

It sounds like you are spinning your wheels with this girl, if you want it to go somewhere, get physical. Otherwise you are just going to be this "guy who keeps talking to her for some reason" and she'll move on to another guy.

iamthesage · 2014-06-24T03:14:16+00:00

Was there an mutually attraction? Did you feel attracted to her?

Based on the story, it felt like initially it was just 2 friends hanging out.

inked25 · 2014-06-24T14:03:36+00:00

Did you know Michael Jordan got cut from his highschool basketball team because he sucked so bad when he started. And he came to rule the NBA, because he stuck with it. Just keep working on your confidence and practice. Pat yourself on the back for having the balls to try and move on the the next one. Billions more women in the sea dude, you gotta start somewhere, and you started. Thats better than many can say

daddy01 · 2014-06-24T15:24:41+00:00

She invited me inside.

And then what happened??? You said "no" to that and you think you'll get another shot? There are some girls that are kinda turned-on by awkward shy guys, but I think you deep in the friend-zone.

Title	First date gone awry.
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Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	June 24, 2014 2:42 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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