First date guide

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-01-31T10:25:55+00:00

but the girls usually lose interest after the first date.

Idk about your specific case, but the most common problem I see why no 2nd date happening is because girls say there’s no “sparks or chemistry” during 1st date. Meaning the guy doesn’t escalate. He treats her like a friend, asks her questions like an interview. It’s a date not a friend meetup, so treat her like a date.

Obviously don’t overdo it like bringing her flower or a ring on first date, or tell her you wanna fuck her hard. If the first date was a food on the menu, most girls want medium spicy. Not too bland that they can’t taste anything, not too spicy that they can’t stomach it.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-01-31T09:06:03+00:00

If girls are liking you on the apps and accepting to go on a date with you it means you are doing something right. I used to get plenty of dates from bumble and I was very good at getting intimate with the ladies (Im not proud of it now but that is another story).

My guide.

- Choose a non expensive venue where you can talk and escalate. My venue of choice was always an english style pub; it was cheap (I paid for one or two rounds of beer and some chips, nothing more) and this particular pub wasnt too noisy so you could talk without a problem.

-I prefered to date during the week, always at night after work, why? Girls flaked less, it also served as a way to gauge her interest. I also dated during weekends, but only when the lady could not meet me during the week, still it wasnt my preference. Dating during the week also allows you to keep the date short and sweet, you need to leave the girl wanting more, if you overplay the date more than likely you will blow it.

- I always started the date greeting her and briefly grabing her by the waist, a brief waist grab begins the escalation, is not creepy and will not bother her if done properly, and allows the girl to know you mean business.

-During the date I tried to lead the convo, I'm very good at it so it flowed naturally, but what I did was this; always ask her about whatever, work, travels, bad dates (this works like a charm, unless it's a bad date in the serial killer sense, you can joke, and both compliment and neg her during this topic). She will ask you back, of course, so be prepared to answer, but always be the one leading the conversation and allow her to talk, all people like to be the center of attention, and girls like it even more.

- During the back and forth, joke, compliment her, and neg her in a funny way (be careful, negs can make you look like a douchebag if you don't deliver them properly).

-Don't forget to escalate, you begin with the waist grab, but you need to escalate during the back and forth; if she has rings or a clock ask about them and grab her hand to see it, for example. Play with her fingers, grab her hand, and if you played your cards right kiss her.

By this time its better to cut the date short, most women worth dating wont spread her legs that easily and you dont want to. Say good bye to her, take her home or follow her to her car. If you kissed already, you can make out but nothing more, if you havent kissed but escalated and received a good response from the girl, then you go for the kiss.

In my experience this leaves women wanting more, you can invite them for another drink, a movie, or a snack; you can make out or fuck during this date or the next after. After this, I advise you to look for romance, not just mindless fucking which is not good.

LucaCoco_ · 2025-01-31T14:28:15+00:00

It's not the first date game. It's game and attraction in general.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-01-31T06:38:28+00:00

How many dates have you gone on?

EnvironmentalHome296 · 2025-01-31T12:30:04+00:00

Really depends on what you are looking for and your type of personality. I would say don’t force yourself in doing something that does not resonate with you. But also happy to share more POV if you are sharing more on what you’re looking for out of that first date etc

liftingnstuff · 2025-01-31T16:52:12+00:00

It would be useful to provide details about how your dates go and how you plan them so people can say what you're doing well/wrong.

Dandys3107 · 2025-02-01T11:09:48+00:00

It's a very common theme recently, that women lose interest after the first date. My take is that in current era of dating apps and getting new potential sexual partner just with few clicks, you need to stand out and make proper impression within pretty short period of time. Otherwise, if there is nothing too exciting there, girl may turn to next potential partner with minimal effort from her side. Therefore, think how you can present your attractive qualities already on the first date, whether it would be with clever conversation, engaging activities, unique emotions, impressive sex appeal etc. It doesn't mean you need to put too much effort or seek an approval, but you should make sure you give her the taste of your best already at the first proper opportunity.

Title	First date guide
Author	originalgainster
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	January 30, 2025 9:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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