Forget about the rules. Just find some true confidence in yourself.

sink_flower432 · 2018-12-14T08:56:53+00:00

That sounds great in theory man. But I would disagree about "forgetting about rules" hell some rules have really helped me seduce women in an ethical way. I create my rules based on my own experiences though and by the sounds of it you're talking about getting rules from others in which case I agree. There is lots of contradicting info. But my own rules are easy for me to follow and don't contradict each other because I created them from my own experiences such as "Stay out a minimum 2 hours.", "move fast between interactions", "move slow in interactions" etc. Finding genuine confidence also is too abstract for new guys, because if they read this post they will be wondering "ok ... maybe I don't want to be manipulative but this post hasn't helped me either .. how do I get confidence? The only place I've found in building confidence is through pickup info so I'm going to ditch this advice." If you offer an alternative paradigm I think you should write practical advice of how a guy can implement. So how do you suggest finding true confidence in yourself? What can a guy do regularly to become more confident?

DajuanKev · 2018-12-14T14:23:04+00:00

I like this. I use the same routine. I like to approach ultimately based on my intelligence and use my supposedly balanced lack of as a cool unawareness.

Paltenburg · 2018-12-14T14:32:08+00:00

Seduction is a constant calibration between following the rules and forgetting them.

PuroPincheGains · 2018-12-14T11:14:35+00:00

That's a pretty AFC thing to say and shows a fundemental lack of understanding of The Game. You described a single aspect of Outer Game and while it's very important, there are people seeing much more success in dating than you are, I promise.

mrblackjapa · 2018-12-14T11:45:48+00:00

confidence in your hair? Shave that shit off you pussy! :P

injesterstrust · 2018-12-14T10:25:53+00:00

it's true that all the rules contradict each other to the point that there can't even be such thing as 'game' in a way. How can there be a game without rules? What is there to 'learn' if 'what you say doesn't matter' for example? You can do almost anything, and it will be 'wrong' in at least the eyes of a handful of expert PUA's minds. You can almost do basically whatever you want and it will be 'right' in the eyes of other PUA's!

Yeah, I had a similar epiphany to you in a way.

Once I decided that it was all pseudo-science and different PUA were seemingly all getting results whilst doing almost every possible thing in completely different, contradicting ways, I largely dropped all the theory because 'just learn game, bro!' doesn't even make sense when you consider the above!

Most good interactions will be because you are her type (physically). Most bad ones will be because she thinks you're too ugly/old/whatever.

'Game' will basically never convert her from being 'ewww. Sorry. not interested. Bye'....to 'bang me'. It's a pipe dream. Marketing to take your money

Make yourself as good looking as possible. Approach in numbers to give yourself the best chance. And in terms of 'outer game' just present an 'amplified' version of your own personality. You on 'personality steroids'. (Which is basically 'confidence'....which is best built through challenging yourself, exposure therapy, exercise, finding something you're good at, socialising etc etc)

Title	Forget about the rules. Just find some true confidence in yourself.
Author	JohnMcLauchlan
Upvotes	15
Comments	15
Date	December 14, 2018 7:06 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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