Two of my non-game friends convinced me to go out on Friday night. I was really beat from work and didn't feel like I had to any energy to game. However, I was eventually convinced and went out.
We ended up at a dead venue first, then went over to another bar/club which was much better.
We got our drinks and walked over to the dance floor, there were a few sets out but nothing too crazy. I'm with my two good friends but they don't like approaching, so I had to step it up and make the approaches. I noticed an HB7 who glanced at me more than once. However, I hesitated and neglected the 3 second rule. By the time I approached, I ended up getting totally blown out.
For me, blow outs have mixed effects, sometimes they put me in state other times they shut me down. To recover from the first blow out of the night I opened a set of some not-so attractive girls, but this was part of the plan. I built some momentum off them and got into state. I would suggest this kind of approach to anyone who has AA. My friend, "L" also joined in the fun and also got into state.
After this set, L and I bounced to a 3 set of HB7s. This is where things got interesting and where we spent most of the night. I closed the first set with a simple "it was nice meeting you" and opened the second set. LMFAO's Sexy and I know it was playing and the current lyric was "wiggle wiggle wiggle yeah!" The girls were wiggling so I opened with "I'm going to wiggle with you." I opened the whole set at once, looked at each of them and proceeded to wiggle my butt. They loved it.
I began conversation with girl 1, by saying she looked like a celebrity. She gave me a little sigh and said, 'who taylor swift.' I replied with 'yes, and you're lucky I like her.' We then began to dance with some spin moves but no grinding. I let her go for a moment and then introduce myself to her and girl 2. Girl 1 = Brie, girl 2 = amanda. There was a third girl, but I did not introduce myself right away, in case I wanted to pursue her overall. Was this a bad move?
We carry on for some time and L joins our group. Our third friend N, does not join, but he doesn't ruin our social status. I finally introduce to girl 3 who is Amber. Brie and I continue to dance here and there, I also spin her friends a little. I turn Amanda into my buddy-buddy, we were both DD's so we joke about not drinking and our friends being drunk.
I dance with Brie some more and check what her single status is. I felt a ring on her left hand (mid finger) and ask her if that's her weddign ring and 'wheres her husband.' She says she doesnt have one. I ask where is her BF, she says she doesnt know, but I admits to having one. I push a little bit further and say "O you don't want him to know your out here huh?" And she replies, "no he knows we're here." At this point I get kinda hesitant and let her go again. (trying to do push-pull I guess). I also start talking to her friends more and dancing with Amber a little. Bad move?
While talking to Amber, I kept asking her questions. I will admit this is weak point in my game. I have really strong opening game, but trail off somewhere in the middle. Some PUA theory says to 'be a man of stories.' Instead I am a man of questions. I like to ask some questions and then make jokes out of girl's responses. This didn't work on Amber and after a few failed questions she stops, looks at me, and says, "you're confusing." Can anybody share some mid-game stories with me?
So L and I keep things going for awhile, we bounce to a few other sets. Dance with them, chit-chat, spin moves, but overall we return to the 3-set. N (3rd friend) eventually joins the group and we have a nice 1-to-1 ratio. Another dude approached and tried to dance with Brie. She gave me this face :/ and I physically pulled her away. The dude tried to give me some shit blah blah, saying "she wanted to dance with me bro" blah blah. I remember she has a BF, so I let her go, do whatever she wants.
My friends and I get ready to leave the club around 1:30. I ask the girls if they want to go somewhere to get food. Brie says something along the lines of, 'what like wawa?' I smile and say 'no, like a diner or something.' She got super excited and was all ready to go. However, I didn't feel like enough rapport was built between myself and all the girls so I decide that we should all go to Wawa for some snacks. We all chill for a bit, hang out, chit chat this and that. We exchanged some numbers and were on our merry ways.
Overall, I felt like it was a good night out in the field. I am kinda confused on where I should aim to improve. I think after the initial opening I need some advice on building attraction and building rapport. Also should I try to follow up with some day 2s?
Also, did I write a FR properly. Its my first one so I dunno if its too long/detailed/too many questions, etc. Let me know.
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