I know there's been a few complaints about long winded FR's on here, and normally I just skim them myself, but I feel the need to share what's happened to me over the past year and half of my life and what Seddit can really do for the guys that are new to it.

A little background on me. I'm a 33 year old guy, work a regular 8-5 sales job, I'm 5'11" and have a pretty much average build. So I'm just a regular guy like everyone else. When I was younger I was a big punk rock kid, did crazy sports like BMX and freestyle skiing, have a bunch of tattoos. So at that time my bad boy style got me hot girls left and right but I could never keep them for more than a few months because deep down I was still a passive AFC. I did eventually luck into several long term relationships over a string of about 10 years. Being an AFC the whole time, these relationships were miserable, we'd fight like crazy, and just kept getting beaten down and feeling worse and worse, year after year. It culminated when my ex and I split up about a year and half ago and she turned around and got engaged to my best friend within 4 months. This is where I said "no fucking more of this" and found Seddit. Holy fuck yeah have things changed now!!

First changes...inner game, inner game, INNER FUCKING GAME. I can not stress this enough. New guys, don't fucking skip this. Fuck the routines, and gaming techniques and all that shit. Work hard on your inner game above all else and you will be blown away by what comes to you. There is a reason why it's the first stuff listed in the sidebar.

I started off by just putting myself into a lot of situations that made me have to face up to people and shit that scared the hell out of AFC me. I love skiing, so I went out and started teaching skiing. Having to be in front of people all the time, talking and teaching them really smashed my shell of being afraid of opening up to and talking to anyone in public. I'm now a nationally certified professional instructor and a trainer for other instructors (which women just eat up when I tell them that on dates). I also asked my boss at my regular job to get me involved in several national committees for our industry. I now basically get paid several times a year to go to places like Vegas, DC, Charlotte, Houston and so on to attend schmoozefest networking events for 3 or 4 days. I talk to everyone possible and have made so many industry hook ups that I'm making more money than I ever have in 13 years at my job. Bonus: there are tons of women in full on party mode at events like these. I get opened left and right, even by married women, just by being the guy who is fun and interacting with everyone there.

Now to the good shit. Dating life. I go on typically 2-3 dates with new women every week. I have had friends wives pull me aside at parties and tell me they watch me at parties with all the girls I bring around and tell me "it's fucking awesome to see how amazingly happy you are and the life you have now." I had one friends wife who I even opened up and told her about Seddit and some my exploits with the women I've dated. Her response was "50 Shades of Grey has nothing on your life!"

Now for some specific dates and the lessons I learned from them.

Girl 1: This was early on in my discovery of Seddit and at this point I just wanted to learn how to not give a fuck and be a little aggressive with a girl. We meet at a nice restaurant have dinner and drinks. I basically did nothing other than just talk about whatever I wanted and enjoyed my time there. Finish dinner and I said let's roll over to local dive and have a few drinks. We get there and have a beer then go outside and sit down on a bench for a smoke. I started joking around with her and giving her a little pushy playful kino. She was OK with it so then I said "Hey, you're pretty fucking cute. I want to kiss you right now." She went right in for it and we made out for a minute. Then back inside we have another beer. I then told her "We have 2 options. Have another drink or go back to my place. She chose my place. On the way back, we get to her car and I just grabbed her by the waist, pushed her against her car and made out like crazy on a public street with people walking all around us. Got back to my place and we couldn't get our clothes off fast enough. F-Close and we fucked like animals for the next 4 months. Lesson: Don't give a fuck! Have fun on your date, be yourself, go for what you want and she will probably follow.

Girl 2: This girl was a super hot, petite, tattooed punk rock girl with a Master's in political science and a hard core, liberal, women's rights advocate. On date 1 we just went a local dive bar, drank beer and the whole time I was completely in charge of her. Controlled the conversation, kino'ed like crazy and never once reacted to anything she said to challenge who I am and my beliefs. Still went back to my place and F-close. On date 2 we go out to a nice restaurant have pretty casual conversation about life and family. I walk her back to her car, make out for a bit and send her on her way. The next day I text her to ask her out for another date and her reply was "I'm sorry, you're a really great guy but I just think your views on life and kids are too conservative and I don't think we'd get along." Lesson: It doesn't matter who she is, every girl wants you to be a man and be the leader.

Girl 3: She is a friend of a friend and is a smoking hot, 5' tall, fit blonde with fake boobs. We meet up on a camping and canoeing trip. As we're renting the canoes she starts freaking out about who she's going in a canoe with and doesn't want to get flipped or anything crappy happen. I went up to her, put my arm around her waist and just said, "Don't worry. I got ya." Halfway through our trip down the river the sky just opens up and we are in the middle of a full on thunderstorm! I didn't let it phase me one bit. I was having a shit ton of fun and enjoying myself! At one point her conversation turns to how she's disappointed that she's lost weight and her boobs don't look as big anymore. I just casually said "Bullshit. You're hot as hell and I bet they still look amazing." And the next thing I know she's topless asking me what I think. I said, again very casually and relaxed, "Those are awesome and you should never complain about them." Then I looked her right in the eyes, gave her the come hither finger and said "Come here right now." She says "What? No, I can't do that. I just started seeing someone you know." Me, "I don't care, come here right now." Sure enough, there I am in a canoe, in the middle of a torrential downpour making out with an insanely hot topless girl! Lesson: Unflappable confidence and inner game will get you some amazing shit!

Girl 4: This was just in the past week and is pretty much the culmination of my year and a half of being on Seddit. Last weekend I go to a big local beer festival. I'm a huge geek for trying new beers as much as I can and these festivals are usually a big sausage fest so I was just there to hang out with my friends and drink beer. I was in no way in the mode to pick up women. Halfway through the festival I run into a couple friends I haven't seen in a while. Stroll over and say hi. One of the girls says, "Hey, I'd like you to meet my friend Jenny!". As I turn and shake hands with her I'm immediately floored. This girl is the cutest little amazing red head I've ever met! Turns out she is a grad student for environmental science, is a server at the hottest restaurant in the city, and is really really into trying new beer. She's perfect. Unfortunately, I'm borderline drunk at this point so my game is way off. But then I somehow just went into autopilot mode. I grab her by the hand and lead her around to all the booths of my favorite breweries, telling her about them, laughing, joking, flirting. I kino'ed every where. Pulling her into me by the waist and talking to her closely over the crowds. All of this on full on autopilot. I wasn't consciously making an effort to do any of this, but I still did it. Then came the drunken fuck up. The festival ends, and as I go to leave I made some little joke with her, slyly messed her hat and turned around and walked away without asking for her number. Later that night I'm partying over at a friend's and sure enough, she FB stalked me and added me. I immediately jumped on the chance and asked her out for drinks this week. Yesterday we meet up at a local beer bar that is right by my house. We were only there for maybe an hour and half before I talked her into coming back to my place to raid my rare beer collection. As we leave, we didn't even make it to the cars before we're making out in the middle of the parking lot. Finally we go back to my place, split a bottle of something really good I've been hanging on to for a while and then I just grabbed her, picked her up, carried her to my room and wild times ensued. Lesson: PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE. Go out, talk to everyone, flirt with every girl you can. I know it's hard and scary as fuck at first, but eventually it just becomes second nature and you'll be able to snag the exact girl you want with it almost being effortless!!

Side note: If you haven't already, go visit MFA, Wicked_Edge, and Malegrooming. Learn how to be a well put together, modern man. I can't tell you how many compliments and chances I get to open girls just from having my look on point.

TL;DR- Inner game and confidence brings epicness. FUCKING WORK ON IT!