This is an update to the post I wrote here a few days ago.

My original plan:

My plan is to see this girl tonight or tomorrow, and tell her that I'm going to probably have sex soon, and that I'm not going to tell her if/when I do because I think it's a bad plan.

was not to be. I ended up not seeing her until Sunday, and on Saturday I had ended up sleeping with one of my recent interests, so I had to change my plan.

So instead, on Sunday I went over to her place to watch the football game. She made me dinner, we hung out and watched the game and had a few beers. About halfway through the game, she started making out with me. I gently pushed her back and said "hey listen, we can't have sex tonight."

"WHAT?!" (we always have sex when we're together)

"Well remember that rule we discussed, where I have to tell you if I have sex with other people? I was thinking about it, and I shouldn't have agreed to it. I want us to agree that I don't have to do that before we have sex again."

She initially was super pissed. She assumed that I had sex with someone else, and kept asking me questions along those lines, but I refused to answer them and told her I wasn't going to go there, and that she needed to really not care whether or not I had if this was going to work. I told her if that wasn't good enough for her, we'd have to not see each other anymore.

Then she thought about it for a while, and said "OK, I can deal with that." We talked about her ex who had cheated on her, and how that had made her jealous. I got her to see that our situation is totally different and if we agree that we can see other people, then there is no such thing as cheating.

I quizzed her for a while to make sure she was totally fine it; I didn't want her to agree just to get me in the sack and then go nutso in a few days. She convinced me, and now everything is awesome, maybe even better than before because we are totally on the same page.

Anyway, this isn't much of an FR, just wanted to update on what happened. Hopefully any of you guys who get hit with the "are we exclusive" conversation can learn from my experiences here.