This FR is the first half of a two-parter (two dates) that began last Thursday and concluded last night/this morning.

This started on the Thursday after the 4th of July, which was generally an abysmal night to go out. Everyone was staying home and nursing their wounds from the 4th, and saving themselves for Friday. I couldn't do Friday so I needed to make the best of it, but there was almost no one out.

We started at a popular local bar with pool tables, and one of my friends has a schtick here where he'll go up to girls and say "we're about to play some pool over there, come join us when you're done eating". We tried this on the ONE set in the bar and nothing came of it, so we bounced to the next spot.

On the way we met up with another friend of mine, so there are now 3 of us. We get to the next spot and this friend spots a girl inside who he's banged before, and he was a little hesitant to go in. I talk him into it because this is the only bar with people in it. This girl is with a friend and my plan was to talk them up for a minute and then go hit the busier scene in the back.

We get into conversation and I focus on the friend, who is definitely the hotter of the two. I stand close next to her but don't really talk to her much, instead focusing on everyone else conversationally but letting my proximity speak to my interest in her.

She gets curious and starts asking me questions, including the requisite "what do you do?". I respond that I'm a dolphin trainer (a standby of mine), and I have her going for a good few minutes before I admit that I'm not one. This is KEY. Never give a straight answer to anything right off the bat, be a challenge.

She responds to this motherfuckery by ordering a beer on my tab without asking, which I thought was funny/ballsy. I make fun of the town she's from, she makes fun of my silly T-shirt, we all join in the conversation with the other 3, etc. I make sure to say a couple words to another girl standing to my left just to show that I'm still "out there" and not won over yet, etc. I start insinuating that she likes me and she admits she might. LOTS of eye contact during this stage, this was really when the seducing occured.

I say at one point that I might like to take her out the next Tuesday (i.e. last night), but then I "remember" that I already have a date. She thinks I'm bullshitting her so I take out my phone and show her the text convo I'd been having with another girl. I insinuate that I might bump this other girl for her on Tuesday, but that I hadn't decided yet.

By this time, the other 3 are about to leave. My one male friend by himself and my other friend is going to leave with the other girl (i.e. the two that used to bang are about to go bang again). I turn to my girl and say "it looks like our friends are about to go fuck, let's go somewhere else". This works and I bounce her across town to another bar where I think we'll be able to dance. I kiss her on the walk to my car to remove the tension. This new bar is DEAD, so we just grab a couple stools and talk, with her hands all over me, lots of making out, etc.

I give her a ride home and ask for a "tour". We make out on the couch for awhile, go up to her room, and I think I may have had a credible shot at a bang but her roomie busts in with some bullshit drama, she apologizes, and I leave. On the way out I get the #.

Takeaways:

  • She repeatedly called me an asshole, but was smiling the whole time. She remarked that she "liked that I was being challenging".

  • I joked about sex between us from the very beginning, setting the tone that I was not there to be an orbiter or LJBF.

  • I bounced her out as the earliest opportunity, and isolated at the same time. I could have just # closed and left, but I knew that if I drove her across town and had a few more experiences, I'd be embedded in her mind that much more. Helps that it was a beautiful night in a big V8 convertible.

Stay tuned for the second half of this, i.e. last night's date.