I've come here plenty of times before for advice so I will ask here again.

This subreddit has done wonders for my confidence and ability to communicate and escalate with women. I used to be a terrible oneitis guy - often wasting years chasing after girls that didn't give a shit. I've now moved way past that.

I'm very comfortable with failures and things not working out. I understand that its part of the process. My problem is that I went from developing emotions too quickly with women to not being able to do it at all.

This has happened several times over the course of the past year. I've dated several different women - anywhere from 22 - 30. None have lasted longer than 2 months.

It typically goes like this - I meet them via tinder/bumble/friends etc. We go on a couple of dates. Things are good and smooth. I escalate gradually - from a kiss to makeouts to eventually spending the night at my place. At the beginning , I'm attracted to them both physically and emotionally (to a lesser degree) when we first meet and on the first couple of dates.

For whatever reason after physical escalation, I seem to lose these feelings for them. This is regardless of how the bedroom activities went. Some were great, others were mediocre.

I'm not sure if its as simple as not meeting the right women or a deeper problem. That's why I'm here. Do any of you have any advice on becoming more emotionally engaged with women and having these feelings last?