Hola amigos!! This is my current gameplan. Please note that I am a newbie and a few days ago I completed seddit's 100sets challenge. During the challenge I was doing daygame only and was using direct game (stating your interest right at the beginning).
I learnt a lot about what game is and how to go about practising this beautiful art in a consistent manner. While doing direct game I observed that, whenever I reduced the time in between the sets I entered flow state which made my next interaction go very well..I was also able to get a few closes (5- IG close and 1- number close, although they didn't go anywhere).
The problem or challenges with direct game that I found:
As I was and am doing only daygame in the malls. I had a REALLY HARD TIME coming across a single girl, most of the women were in the groups and I had no idea how to approach groups. But out of naivety I once made a direct approach to a group of 3 women. It freaked them out and they gave me really dirty looks, which fucked my mental state that day. That's when I decided to change my strategy to indirect game.
I have used this gameplan to CONSISTENTLY open groups and single women in a daygame setting with great success (At my current skill level I am getting good reactions). After doing the initial 3-4 sets I am in flow state which makes me come across as outcome independent and confident. People pick on this energy and are drawn to me because of this.
Now the actual nuts and bolt of my gameplan:-
Opener:- 'Love vs Being in Love with someone' opener. (Took this from rules of game)
Me: Hey i have only got a second before I leave, but i want your guy's opinion on something. (False time constraint- very critical always use this before opening a set)
Group/Girl: Sure.
Me: What is the difference between love and being in love with someone? The reason I am asking u is this because I just received a text from a friend of mine, her bf broke up with her. He told her, "he loves her but he is not in love with her." What's very strange is that my friend heard this exact speech given by her friend the other day to someone. Since then she and I have been figuring out what it means?
Group/Girl: blah blah.
Me: I guess that makes sense. Because if i go to my best friend, hug him out and say, "I love you." It would be okay. But if go and say to him, "I am in love with you." He will probably punch me and freak out.
From here u can tease her about her shoes/goggles etc. (This is called as disqualification)
Then transition to cold reading/ring finger routine- google this u will find the required info :).
Try initiating physical touch in your interaction (CALIBRATE and then go for it)..
In every interaction try to push your limits..that is take calculated risks which will help u develope social intelligence.
Once u get 3 IOIs qualify her/ connect with her and finally go for close or go for Insta date if u feel like the interaction is going well. ( Go for close irrespective of how the interaction is going..just for practice)
Some foot notes & observations:-
1: I will probably get downvoted for this...but initially i was very skeptical about this material wheter it would work or not..But once I started internalizing this particular material...My delivery, body language, along eye contact and all the non verbals improved..which caused the interactions to go really well.
2: Having a memorized line helped me get over the fear of approaching. Because I know exactly what to say. This helped me to come across as more confident and make a great impression. Also, as a newbie I am opening 7 sets daily which adds to 49 sets a week..If u keep this up for one year..you will have approached 49 sets ×53 weeks = 2597 sets in a year (Imagine the experience and the powerful set of social skills u will have after a year.)
3: Even If i have a success ratio of 0.4 % in 2597 sets.. that translates to 11/10 in a year. (Not bad for a newbie)
4: Memorizing may seem conniving or unnatural initally but this is how the old school guys did it. The so called gurus u see today have got good by following a structure. Once they got good and developed calibration and social intuition they started doing advanced stuff..Use these as training wheels for your first 1000 approaches. Don't reinvent the wheel.
5: First set of the day is always the hardest, get it done as soon as u enter the venue. Follow 3 seconds rule. After sometime u will start feeling good..So do the sets irrespective of how u are feeling..(Use your common sense.. don't take this statement to the extreme and at face value, just because I said so.. Don't approach if u had an accident/friend died or some other traumatic life event.. REMEMBER TO USE COMMON SENSE)
6: I want to try night game but getting into clubs daily and paying for cover charges is a huge cost for me due to my current financials. I am currently solving that area along with this area.. Hopefully in six months I will be able to afford to go clubs daily and practice my night game.
6: I haven't still got a close from this approach any feedback on how to solve this would be appreciated.
7: Finally a quote from Bruce Lee to end this, "Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own."
Hope this helps. Do try this and let me know how it went. :)
Credit to above info :
- Mystery method by Erik Von Markovic (aka Mystery)
- Rules of the game by Neil Strauss
- Game by Neil Strauss
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Sure...after 3rd or 4th approach...But not in the 1st approach of the day...cause the approach anxiety during the 1st interaction of the day is so high...i either chicken out or say something stupid and make myself embarrassed..not a good way to start cold aproach i think (just my 2 cents from my limited experience)
Maybe after getting confident i will be able to say hi and attract her right of the bat..but i think I am very far from that point. :)
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Hey man..all good points if that works for u great...
For single girls it works great but like I said.. I daygame in malls..not a lot of single women...How do I get practice under my belt as a newbie?
2/3 sets I encounter in a mall is a 3 set. Rest 1/3rd - mixed and singles. If i limit myself to singles only, I will miss out on lot of opportunities and most importantly will drain my limited time and energy in finding the singles instead of meeting, attracting and closing them.
It's not about being a man or something else.. it's practical and works in real life and does generate results and all i care is about result...
I started with direct daygame. Finding a single girl was the first challenge..if by some luck i find her and attract her ..all the numbers that I got were flakes or did not respond...Results to effort ratio is very poor in this case...It's hard to sustain this style of gaming for a long time...Plus when I went direct..there was lot of nervous enrgy which fucked the interaction before it went anywhere.
I maybe a newbie but I am not a keyboard jockey..I am open to new ideas..If u can tell me how to successfully go direct on groups during daytime I am all ears..All i care about is results man :)
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I am not afraid of girls knowing that I am hitting on them..in fact I want them to know that I am hitting on them...I kino them.. (just tap them and small stuff like that) .. Try to make the conversation man to woman..I do all this..Only after winning over her group..and then focusing my attention on her.
If there's a group of women..It would be very stupid of me to go to them and tell them, "Hey guys I know this is random, but I think u all look very cute..I wanted to find out if u have got anything going for u more than ur looks? " I have said these exact lines on 5 different groups. Results are not great..I am blown out instantly.
What if there's a mixed set..I can't go direct? If i do..I will be thrown out of that place or would be laughed at or would be asked is this a prank video.
I agree with ur final para regarding seeding the date. I have been going for date directly without seeding the activity earlier in my interaction. I will be incorporating this in my game and I am hoping to see an improvement in terms of more numbers and less flakes.
Currently my number is zero in terms of number closes or Insta dates but I am positive that field experience will provide me with the required answers and results. It always has.
Regarding results, my definition of results right now:- is to get a number or an instant date. Few weeks ago it was just to open and push the conversation forward as much as I can...This mindset helps me with inner game, helps me maintain my momentum and create consistency.
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Creating false scenarios is stupid. Why pretend you’re in a hurry when you’re clearly just hanging around the mall all day?
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