Preface:

I’ve been with a couple women that are >10 years older(I am 23) than me in the past couple of months. I want to share with you my thoughts, experiences, and just in general things I’ve learned from these situations so far. This post is being written from a perspective of a 23 year old so older people here take that as such.

Meeting older women

So far this year I’ve met older women in a few different ways. The first way is the way that most of you are already used to meeting women in general, and that’s at the bar. Example 1: I go out to play darts one night at my local dive bar about a block away from my apartment. I’m playing for awhile and at the bar were these two older women who were watching. They end up coming over to the other board and get into casual conversation with me and my buddy while we are all playing. My buddy’s girlfriend calls so he has to leave and I’m stuck here just hanging with these older ladies for a while shooting the shit. One of them talks about how she wants to get away from her husband and the other one says she’s recently divorced. I take note of that and end up saying I have to leave but ask for her number and say we should grab a drink sometime. She gives me some shit about her being too old while she’s putting her number in my phone. I just agree and said some dumb shit back in response. I ended up setting a date with her a few days later at her place. The next women I’ve met at the bar was during a local pub crawl thing in the city I live in. There was this big group of older women that I went up to and opened. Just ran my usual game before focusing in on the women I wanted specifically. Not much different

The next place I’ve had success with twice now as well is running into them at the grocery store after going to the gym. I’m in fairly good shape and if you go at certain times of the day obviously people who are on a similar schedule to you are going to see you. I don’t like running game at the gym(I know this sub is divided on that but I have my reasons), but I don’t mind using it as a springboard when I see the regulars there out somewhere else...which brings me to the grocery store right by my gym. These two older women who I’ve seen I just happened to run into after a workout. We talked for awhile in both cases (I try to make sure I figure out whether they are married or single in these cases) and eventually I said we should hangout sometime outside of the gym atmosphere. These situations just stemmed from being a friendly guy at the gym.

The last place I’ve met one older women who I’ve been with...and take this at your own risk..is at work(kind of). Now granted I work at a large company with a VERY BIG campus so I run into this person 1-2 times a month but obviously be careful mixing work and play. This woman was moving into my apartment building and wanted to meet some people so she reached out to me through a co-worker and eventually one thing lead to another.

Takeaways

  • You can meet them basically the same way you meet most other women
  • Pretty much the same exact thing as normal bar game, just understand your demographic(I’ll get into this a bit more)
  • Older women want to feel young again. Flirting with them is one of my favorite things to do because they are very receptive to everything
  • They are straightforward
  • If you’re in shape and look young/exciting this can certainly play to your favor(at least in my experience it has)
  • It’s pretty similar to meeting younger women in the party years demographic, if not the same

Getting to know them

Now some things that I’ve noticed about all of these older women who I ended up seeing is they are divorced or out of a relationship that ended losing its passion and became boring to them. They are going to want to feel young again and wanted like they were in their party years. Help them feel young again by being an exciting, sexy guy who’s going to fuck them in such a way they haven’t been fucked with in years. Along with this some of these women may have kids. Keep this in mind because you DO NOT want to be involved with that in any way shape or form. That being said this will obviously come up in conversation and is usually completely fine to talk about, just don’t make it the brunt of the conversation. If they bring up their ex-husband/boyfriend or w.e bring up something else as soon as you can. They are with you because they want to forget about thinking about them. You’re not talking to them to be their therapist you’re talking to them because you want to fuck them(although I know this can feel like a fine line sometimes with seduction lol). Also understand you're talking an older person with a lot more work/life experience than you. So cater how you are speaking in the conversation to that fact. You may learn something interesting or cool, they have a ton of stories so get them talking about them. They are also very straight forward for the most part, make sure you escalate physically, if they are uncomfortable in anyway they’ll tell you. Most importantly make sure you are comfortable and the conversation is fun. If you are uncomfortable they’ll be able to read it a mile away.

Post-sex interaction

Now I wouldn’t recommend trying to date any of these women because they certainly come with a bunch of extra baggage in comparison to an 18-25 year old college girl/young professional. They are also likely looking for a long term male partner who they are going to want to establish a life with. So my suggestion would be to be their stress reliever on the side who they fuck whenever they get horny looking for this partner. Remember you are the young exciting dude who they want to fuck and showing signs of clinginess/neediness will be an immediate turn off to them. From my experience so far they will tell you when they need you...Be normal if you see them in person and talk to them as if you’d talk to any girl/friend.

Conclusion

Gaming older women is pretty much the same as gaming younger women. Just make sure you understand the demographic and cater your conversation around that. Be mature and also fun/exciting at the same time. These women constantly comment on physique and how they wish men at their age were in better shape, so I would say being in shape definitely helps in this regard, so get in the gym. At the end of the day though just approach them like you’d approach any other girl, the fact that a younger guy like you has the balls to go up and talk to them will show you’re confident and sure of yourself right off the bat. Have fun with it, if anything you’ll make their day by making them feel young and wanted again, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there.