Getting back in the game

Back2theCouture · 2026-03-31T11:18:00+00:00

I prefer slimmer, curvy, fit women. Don’t mind chubby but they have to want to change their habits which im currently tryna do.

I always believe people attract others who are on their level. I read another post yesterday about the poster wanting to aim 9s and 10s but so far only got 5s or 6s. Bet that’s where he is, a 5/6.

Multitask is the name of the game if you wanna upgrade yourself. You can improve your physical appearance while also improve your social skills.

Physical appearance: - lose/gain weight, put a bit muscle to look fit

upgrade your wardrobe, buy fit and matching clothes
get a better hairdo, ask your barber’s opinion
Do some regular skincare

Social skills: - learn how to make small talks - learn how to read cues and signs/ non verbal - learn how to approach strangers - learn how to have a correct mindset on women - last but not least: learn how to seduce

If you want details on how to do all this, browse Youtube there’s tons of good videos in each subject.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-03-31T10:56:41+00:00

Go out more, cold approach more, ask more women on dates.

This first part is not that complicated technically, because your main issue right now is just not taking enough action.

I don't think you need any more advice until you experience some rejections.

ChicoBrillo · 2026-03-31T15:10:32+00:00

Do what you can to look good yourself: nice clothes that fit, good haircut/grooming, stylish glasses (if you wear glasses), gym doesn't hurt (don't have to go crazy), the basics etc.

Proactive: Go where single women go. I live in a big city and there are a shit ton of single women out here, if I go out to the bars, they pretty much dwarf the amount of men who are out. In my case at least, it's as easy as making eye contact, smiling, and just saying hi / starting a conversation.

Passive: Get in the habit of making eye contact with people and saying hello. This builds over time and you'll find yourself getting into random conversations in random places. It pays off in the long run because you lose your threshold anxiety for talking to randos.

scienceofselfhelp · 2026-04-01T06:07:56+00:00

Man, it's crazy when people ask a question on Reddit that demands and entire field of knowledge as the answer - an encyclopedia of books, content, and material. It'd be like asking "What exactly do I need to know to become a doctor?"

If you want advice on surface level game, start with the old school guys like Strauss and Mystery to get the basic concepts and one map of progression.

If you want to learn deep connection, check out Kezia Noble.

Practice better body posture and learn body language. Learn to dress better and make sure your hygiene is on point.

Create a rich life. Create a social circle or several (Mr. M talks about this). Explore your city, and get to know what events are going on.

Work on your low confidence. Read up on "Inner game", Stoicism, diff meditation techniques, and therapy techniques and then actually practice them on the daily to build up confidence and resilience. This is really the foundation.

All of this is old school, but the key is that it gives you the conceptual framework that seems heavily lacking these days in order to evaluate what new school people talk about

Because there are some people putting out some really great stuff right now. And there's some absolutely maniacally terrible shit out there - like no one seems to know how to do approaches or openers well anymore.

But in short, be the type of person anyone would want to be around - really ask yourself, would you date yourself?

If you really want to do this, it's not a one sentence or even a couple paragraph answer. Read up and practice systematically and with consistent commitment.

And I'd highly recommend asking more specific questions.

LofiStarforge · 2026-03-31T11:48:10+00:00

Im tired of making excuses for my poor success due to not having the best job, physique, best social skills and low confidence.

All of these can be improve significantly. No one can force you.

SpreadSavings3804 · 2026-03-31T15:51:39+00:00

Fix your body first.

Work on small social reps.

Stop chasing only “perfect” women. Attraction grows when you actually connect.

Confidence = doing things, not thinking about them.

Changing your circle is a good move. The people around you matter more than you think.

Doki_Doki_Doki · 2026-04-01T05:08:57+00:00

ditch the excuses, hit the gym, find hobbies that get you social. don't just swipe—meet people in real life. confidence builds from doing, not waiting. new circle? perfect time for a fresh start.

Irachar · 2026-04-01T08:53:55+00:00

Gradual exposure, day to day or week to week. I think is the best strategy to get into the game when you've been out for some time!

Easy_Manager3026 · 2026-03-31T11:08:30+00:00

Go and talk to other people. Doesn't matter if they are males bc if you make new friends and they have female friends it would be easyer to make conection

Title	Getting back in the game
Author	Best-Yesterday1216
Upvotes	26
Comments	23
Date	March 31, 2026 10:46 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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