Ghosting or not? Went on the first date and things seem to go well. But her response doesn’t seem that great after that. When confronted she says has been really busy..

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2022-06-29T00:00:48+00:00

So I have no idea why women play this little game but yeah she isn’t interested.

She should’ve been straight up but instead basically shifted the responsibility to you so she could say “oh I was gonna date you but I was just oh so busy and since you’re being pushy let’s call it off.” Idk of it’s someone to make themselves feel better or to keep you on the hook or what. You didn’t do anything wrong and she just acted in a very immature way.

I wouldn’t even respond to her and find someone new.

Pop_Zestyclose · 2022-06-29T04:17:14+00:00

If she's interested in you she'll text you. There aren't any rules about waiting to text people after a date. If the chemistry is there it'll continue. She may have just lost interest or maybe the chemistry wasn't there in her opinion. Doesn't make her a princess or some complicated woman. Things sometimes just don't work out the way we want them to The good news is that there are lots of women out there!

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-06-29T02:21:03+00:00

Texted too much

After the date you don't reach out till next week to set another date (unless she contacts you first)

You became a text friend always buzzing her phone and killed any mystique. You see, she gave you positive reinforcement when you finally backed off ie said you'll just be her friend then she hits you up immediately like "hey good idea!"

After a first date if a girl is into you she'll usually text you after the date or within 3-4 days. If not, you really do not want to be pursuing her till 6-7 days later for another date or she'll feel her freedom stripped away.

thomasvector · 2022-06-29T15:30:46+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like she wasn't feeling a romantic connection after the first date. Probably still thinks you're a cool person but doesn't want it to go further. This happens sometimes.

The older you get, the more likely a woman will just be straight up and honest about this but yeah, it just sounds like she doesn't want to tell you bc it either seems awkward or she's had guys react poorly to this in the past.

If someone is really into you, they'll make time for you no matter how busy they are, unless it's like a death in the family or health issue or something.

I would just move on, this won't happen every time, trust me.

Neo-Rio · 2022-06-29T03:25:56+00:00

It means that you failed to attract her over the course of the date.

What you say on first dates is pretty damn critical if you are ever to get her pants off.You see - what you talk about on the first date really does set the tone. It's a sales-pitch! You are selling and she is BUYING.

If you waffle on about bullshit unrelated to things that she might feel when she's with a guy who she really wants to bang - then you will just turn her off - or just fail to turn her on. If you're trying to sell dick, you might talk to her about what sort of things let her know what it's like when she feels anticipation of something wonderful, or remember a time she felt butterflies in her stomach for something or someone she really desired.

If you just waffle on about politics, the weather, philosophical bullshit, etc. It's not going to sell her on anything!

...and if she senses your inexperience with women because you waffle on, she'll simply assume that the sex is going to be bad. Especially if you can't even get down to brass tacks with her.

Either way, now you can't recover with her. Best find another girl and try again.
Asking for second dates without having sex after the first is an act of desperation.

battlejr · 2022-06-29T16:17:21+00:00

Thanks for the advice all. Yeah she prolly just wasn’t into me. Oh well - moving on.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-29T01:01:39+00:00

She’s not into you and is to much of a princess to tell you.

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