Girlfriend isn’t ready

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-04-16T08:34:23+00:00

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chips_and_hummus · 2025-04-15T21:48:01+00:00

sounds like you’re putting pressure on it and making her feel uncomfortable, the exact opposite of what you should be doing, which is making her feel safe and comfortable with no pressure

garnageman · 2025-04-15T21:40:48+00:00

its gotta come from her sorry its nothing to do you

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-04-15T21:59:15+00:00

Sex is something that as kids we are told is bad, you guys are in that age where you guys still have your kid mindset but technically are adults who can do anything and wont get in trouble for having sex. It takes time to get rid of the guilt of having sex.

Us guys, we are raised to not have sex you g but we dont really get consequences if we did. Most of our dads encourage it in a weird way. But you need to understand for girls they are told from a young age to avoid it like the plague so they grow to be scsred of sex.

What you need to do is nothing. the most you can do is let her know that you are willing to be patient and wont pressure her to do it. And stay true to your word. It takes 2 to tango and if one person isnt down than its not happening. It’s not on you to convince her otherwise even if your intentions are pure.

But also remember if you give her time and you feel your sex needs are not being met, you two sre adults. It is completely fair to break up with someone over it and find someone who better matches your energy. It may sound a bit shitty but sexual needs is very important. Dont use it as blackmail, just be honest. It wont help you or her if you have blue balls and she feels pressured.

carlos11111111112 · 2025-04-16T01:02:36+00:00

Start approaching other woman and putting her in the back burner unless you really really see yourself having a family with her. Either way I don’t like dating a woman a bunch or times before testing the goods first

burncushlikewood · 2025-04-15T22:21:08+00:00

You sound too distraught...just relax, I've heard of guys taking months to have sex you're so young just give her space and stop pressuring her

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-16T01:56:04+00:00

Three months is probably longer than many people's expectations, but it's fine if you two like each other and keep going on dates. Some of my best relationships were after a lot of waiting, too. We had extra time to focus more on getting to know one another. If you're both inexperienced, it's normal for that kind of patience. She probably wants to make sure you're the real deal and not trying to use her just for a pump and dump.

Title	Girlfriend isn’t ready
Author	EnvironmentalCan1362
Upvotes	0
Comments	7
Date	April 15, 2025 9:36 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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