Has anyone ever seen "low-value" guy with cool woman?

pua_max · 2020-09-15T06:33:44+00:00

Low value man can date attractive girls. I’ve seen guys who are socially weak and average looking do it. What happens is comfort tends to be very high. Usually the guy still needs something that sets him apart though (ie is into the same things as her or is really good at something that might be nerdy). Often times I find that these guys still have some kind of value tho. They don’t simp bc they’re so into whatever they’re into (math, juggling, even league).

However, notice that I said attractive. Models and the steoreotypical “hot girl” got to where they are because they are interested in status and value. Otherwise they wouldn’t have put in the time to put on makeup and get nice clothes and feel good specifically about their beauty. The model and low value man pairing is going to be rare bc of that.

BensonInFL · 2020-09-15T06:33:41+00:00

Yes, myself first year in college. I was the ultimate computer geek in both looks (big glasses, no fashion, very skinny) and personality (very logical no feeling), and I dated a cheerleader who was also also a sorority sister, good looking, double D breasts, slim waist. Everywhere I went out with her, and double-so in bars, and the beach, guys would give me the look like 'how the fuck did you end up with her?' .... looking back I attribute it to 3 things 1) Her father was also a computer science geek (he had an extremely large star trek collection, as well very timid, only spoke when spoken to by the wife), and girls tend to date/marry guys that are like their fathers, 2) there was no social media back then, so girls getting approached were in orders of magnitude less than today 3) even though I was scared as hell to approach, and the first few weeks were terrifying.. I had read a book earlier called ultimate power, where one of the tenets was that if you act and do as others, you should achieve the same result, it is not necessary to create something new... so I studied in extreme detail successful guys behavior and did my best to try to emulate it..... this was all before I heard about PUA/etc... fake it till you make it.. one of the glaring things I remember was how confident they sounded.. I would practice in front of a mirror and also record myself to improve.. I was so shy that sometimes I had anxiety ordering a meal at a fast food place...

So what can I say? Sometimes when all the stars align, everything is possible.. I've been incredibly lucky almost my entire life

-B

cottagecorehoe · 2020-09-15T11:37:42+00:00

My first boyfriend was someone you could consider "low-value." He wasn't very social/extroverted (didn't have a ton of friends/was usually the quiet one in the corner and didn't pick up social cues very well), didn't fit the societal definition of attractive (not super tall, not super fit), had very nerdy/geeky interests, had a more-logical/rational-and-not-feeling personality, and we were both in school together, so he hadn't made any sort of career for himself at that point.

If your definition of a decent woman is someone who definitely has some options, I fit it. The reason why I was attracted to my ex was because he didn't carry himself like he was "low-value." He was shockingly confident and carried himself like he knew he had value to bring. It wasn't his looks first off (I grew to be attracted to him over time) and it wasn't anything else about him (I grew to love his interests, etc). He carried himself in an extremely attractive way that drew me to him. I distinctly remember feeling wildly confused that I wasn't necessarily physically attracted to him off the bat, but that there was something about him that was drawing me to him. I realized later this was his confidence and way he carried himself when we hung out. We slept together the first night we really hung out together more than just a few words exchanged and after a brief friends with benefits situation, we started dating.

When he and I would go out together, guys would hit on me right in front of him which was the crazy thing. It's as if they didn't believe my ex could be with me. We dated for quite a while before ending things.

So yes, it's possible, but if you're writing this to get a better idea of your personal chances, there's no real way to know until you try because every dude's experience has got to be different.

virago- · 2020-09-15T05:54:57+00:00

Your theoretical low value guy is literally me, and I have yet to have a healthy relationship

andreecook · 2020-09-15T08:03:34+00:00

I wouldn’t say I was low value but I certainly wasn’t high value, I was a bit of a geek, bit of a nerd studied engineering, didn’t have many friends and slept in alot, skinny and white (hard to tan) and didn’t have game, I ended up dating this girl for 2 years who was a stripper at one of the most high end strip clubs in Australia, she had 10s of thousands of followed on Instagram, had 100+ messages a week from guys, she has a super model figure, thin toned legs, tanned, jet black hair, big lips, long eye lashes long nails and every time we went in public there was looks, few times guys would say as we walked past comments about “punching” one drunk guy at a club even stood between us who was a good 20kg bigger than me, I said what the fuck (little did he know I’m a golden gloves boxer) but I really didn’t want to be physically violent infront of her, but she said “my bf can and will beat the fuck out of you he’s a successful boxer” and while I definitely wasn’t successful like that he left, and it made me feel like she really wanted to be with me, relo ended after living together for 2 years but we still talk every now and again as friends, since then I’ve become much higher in confidence in myself

Btxfornow · 2020-09-15T20:03:15+00:00

In more conservative countries, like the one I'm from where women are "married off".

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-09-15T21:12:11+00:00

All the time. I also see guys settle for what I perceive to be low value women. But what I see as low value is different than others. I perceive key components of value to be fitness & finances. Others value different things, and that's why we see this disparity in perceived value in a relationship.

EvilDomGM · 2020-09-24T04:46:09+00:00

We get obsessed about value when it's more about marketing and demand.

We might look at a guy and think he's a little value but not realize that he's great in bed or has a huge dick or cleans her apartment because he likes organizing things. Whatever you have going for you there's somebody out there looking for it. The real issue is how good are you at finding that person how hard do you have to look?

Title	Has anyone ever seen "low-value" guy with cool woman?
Author	Aeon199
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Date	September 15, 2020 5:34 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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