HELP ME!

marco161091 · 2011-09-29T05:34:23+00:00

First things first. Relax. You own this. Don't go into this trying to impress her. You're going on a date with her to see if she's "good enough" for you. Whether you find her interesting, fun, etc. Your goal for the date should be to have fun and find out about the girl. Don't think about sex, kissing, etc. Just relax, have fun.

The_Fart_Of_God · 2011-09-29T12:14:17+00:00

1) relax, make her feel at ease, be literally laid back non reactive and unattached. No strings.

2) intrigue her, be different. Tell her stuff she never heard before. "who's that guy?" is the question she must ask herself. Surprise her. But don't try hard

3) challenge her, have opinions, and say no from time to time. Pass her shit tests.

4) accept her, she has her insecurities as you have your own. Be cool with who she is and don't judge her. qualify

5) be ambiguous, she has to prove she is good enough for you, she can't be sure if you are attracted to her yet and she must wonder why. She must feel anticipation. push pull

6) understand her, talk about who she was, is, and will be and why in a positive state of mind. Deep dive and cold reads

7) seduce her, isolate, kino etc enable her sexuality and do it fast.

qule · 2011-09-29T01:16:47+00:00

Just be yourself man. There's nothing to worry about. If it goes bad then it goes bad. If it goes well it goes well. Just relax. You got this!

loki7714 · 2011-09-29T08:30:44+00:00

The best advice I can give you is to relax. Don't think about what to say next, just focus on the conversation and talk with her.

2011-09-29T10:51:08+00:00

Relax. That's all there is to it. You got this bro. Do whatever feels natural.

WolfInTheField · 2011-09-29T19:45:21+00:00

Oh brother, you need to gain experience. There is no quick fix. However, I have two tips for you.

One- Relax. When you feel yourself clogging up, take a deep breath, and tell your mind to shut the fuck up. Internally laugh at the clogged-up feeling in your gut/chest/head/throat, wherever.

Two- Realize that this one doesn't matter. This date? no big deal. This girl? no big deal. There's thousands of them around where you live, I'm sure, so please, stop worrying. If you fuck this one up, you'll learn something. I promise you that that learning experience will be more important than a kiss from this girl, even if you don't get one.

loki7714 · 2011-10-01T07:39:02+00:00

How'd it go bro?

NYCman11229 · 2011-09-29T03:22:27+00:00

Get dinner, then go for a casual walk around campus and relax because there's no pressure. But still always go for kino. If you think your hitting it off, invite her back to your dorm to listen to music or something and put on some classical music like Mozart and offer her to waltz. Chicks go crazy for this stuff, It doesn't matter if you do or don't know how to waltz, as long as you keep your confidence up, and if she does shit tests like, "do you really know how to waltz?" You ask her,"what do you think?" and twirl her around with a smile on your face.

I'm in the same boat with you have never made a k-close before, but I used the waltz thing a few times already and it always worked. You can read my FR's for what I did exactly.

And I'm assuming your in college or university so join University seddit and cross-post there as well.

Title	HELP ME!
Author	dzodzo
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	September 29, 2011 1:12 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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