Hey Seddit, I'm a complete beginner going out tonight by myself to a friends birthday party where I'll know no-one else except the birthday boy. Need advice please!

strongoaktree · 2010-07-24T22:11:09+00:00

Talk to everyone; touch the girls.

venicerocco · 2010-07-24T16:51:24+00:00

Once at the party you MUST make sure you talk with the three hottest girls there. Make this your primary goal. Make sure you talk with them in open space so that all the other girls notice. Bonus: make sure they laugh and look like they're having a good time! This will elevate you in the minds of the other girls and increase your chances.

manaiish · 2010-07-24T17:27:16+00:00

As they say, be the host of the party. Check if everybody is having fun, and use the "how do you know each other?" opener.

And have fun!

2010-07-24T18:41:33+00:00

It's all about the small stuff. Real life isn't like in movies, where you can just do a "popularity stunt" and instantly get everyone to like you. Remember to exercise patience, good listening skills, eye contact, and try your best to be interested in what other people have to say. Joke around with people and shoot the shit. Just have fun and enjoy what's going on, and people will naturally want to be around you.

Oh yeah, and keep a good posture and keep your body language open and walk slow. If you walk around too fast, or keep your head down, you end up looking insecure.

Dantai · 2010-07-24T22:08:07+00:00

I think there should be a link on the side under recommendations which has a compilation of comments and posts regarding beginners and resources. For example like a link that links to CleavlandPUA's giant post on his recommended resources + their breakdowns. Quazzy's useful posts of videos and seminars, and switxer, who posted up a lot of material on megaupload for us to download[thanks again!] Let me know who to contact in order to get it happen, I wouldn't mind making and maintaining the compilation.

Marcooo · 2010-07-24T17:31:25+00:00

I accidentally just ran into these: 101 partytips

they might help with getting into the mindset. Few tips I enjoyed:

8: No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted. And no act of partying, however soft, is ever wasted.

10: A great person is one who makes others feel great. Make someone feel great right tonight!

53: Party puzzle: what if you sold your soul... to get into heaven?

57: Don't take things too seriously. Life is absurd.

jezoc · 2010-07-24T17:40:13+00:00

Cool, thanks for your advice guys. I'll make sure to do all the things you stated. Off to have a good time :)

poncedeleon · 2010-07-24T18:03:22+00:00

Make an effort to at least talk to every "group" there. With 50+ people there will always be cliches, just treat them all like sets. Spend a little time talking to a group, then bounce to a next. For bonus points see if you can get groups to merge together.

lookslikespeed · 2010-07-24T18:23:00+00:00

Easy opener for any group:

"So how do you guys know <bday guy's name>..?"

Think for a minute or two how you would answer this in a funny way. Also, "do you know most of the ppl here? <bday guy> has a pretty diverse group of friends..!"

be genuinely interested in who they are, what they do, and their relationship with him... you'll be the MAN.

Title	Hey Seddit, I'm a complete beginner going out tonight by myself to a friends birthday party where I'll know no-one else except the birthday boy. Need advice please!
Author	jezoc
Upvotes	10
Comments	28
Date	July 24, 2010 4:20 PM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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Comments

8: No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted. And no act of partying, however soft, is ever wasted.

10: A great person is one who makes others feel great. Make someone feel great right tonight!

53: Party puzzle: what if you sold your soul... to get into heaven?

57: Don't take things too seriously. Life is absurd.