Hinge Date

seduction-ModTeam · 2022-10-15T18:46:06+00:00

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rachelgarner4 · 2022-10-15T09:45:06+00:00

Dude girls don’t respond all the time. They forget, get distracted, are not as invested in you cause you’re one of 15 she’s talking to. Just chill and keep talking to other girls. If she’s interested she will hit you up. Guys complain about girls missing their shot forgetting girls also turn into fucking Kobe Bryant if they are attracted. Send her “?” If she hasn’t responded for 48 hours but that’s as much as you can do other than that, again, talk to 15 girls at the same time yourself

Very likely you suggested Friday and she just didn’t decide what she will be doing on Friday yet, got frozen up and distracted with something different. Didn’t think about you until 4 days later or something. For girls dating apps are mostly in the moment entertainment rather than actual dating plans unless they actually like somebody. You are over invested to a point you have to ask about it on Reddit while she forgot she even texted with you. You take it too seriously and get too attached to the outcome. Let it go and spread your net wide. Don’t over invest until she is investing back accordingly

HerrAdventure · 2022-10-15T10:16:25+00:00

Two thoughts....

One, say you have some free time as well and meet up.

Two, say you've already made plans and are booked up.

First option will most likely land a meeting, maybe. She can flake on you and then it's her having you chase her schedule.

Second option is a flip of a coin but usually lands on a win if played right. Women like guys that are busy and not glued to their phones, typically speaking. By saying you can't do something so last minute shows you are a high valued man and should be treated as such. Then it is her trying to find a time to accommodate your schedule, if she is into you.

You can play both options at the same time, say you are also busy but will be free after 9pm. Best of both worlds.

Jasonhardon · 2022-10-15T14:46:29+00:00

Meet up after her friends and have sex with her 🤷🏻‍♂️ case closed

TheCockatoo · 2022-10-15T10:18:57+00:00

She "forgot to respond?" Would you forget to reply to someone you're remotely interested in for 4 days? She most likely had better (in her mind) plans that fell through, possibly even another date, so she now thinks "might as well do this." I wouldn't be meeting her if I were in your shoes.

Kukantiz · 2022-10-15T09:52:35+00:00

On to the next one. Are you still thinking about it because it's a girl half your age?

If you drop your standards, you could find yourself dealing with drama that comes along with that age group, as well as frustration. If you pursue at this point, you're desperate, and that stench will follow you.

If you got the opportunity once, you can get it again. Just do better next time.

Neo-Rio · 2022-10-15T12:30:08+00:00

To avoid the catfishing/flakers/timewasters, NEVER suggest a "date" or a meet that's going to be going out of your way or costing you anything - and going to a place you would not normally go JUST to meet her. If you do that, you just give the girl a massive and unnecessary ballooning ego boost - particularly if she's young. Instead, ALWAYS get her to do the legwork to find you.

Tell her that you stop by a bar for a drink - ON YOUR WAY HOME (hint hint)- and she can meet you at the bar - which you are going to be at anyway. If she wants come - and you'd like to see her - to call you and give you a heads up.

You NEVER let her choose a place to meet (if she does, just tell her that you're tired and want to stay home, and for her to come over. Oh she doesn't? pfftt, Sorry! and now she's Ghosted)

When you frame it like that, her trying to stand you up is meaningless because you're making no effort to see her (you'd be at the place anyway), and showing that you don't care if she comes or not - WITHOUT actually being a dick and saying any of that. So say she calls but doesn't arrive... big fat pftttt.... and so what? It's a little annoying but in this case you stick to your guns and don't bother calling her again anyway. She just gets ghosted - so there's no satisfaction for her trying to mess with you. You don't give her the satisfaction of getting a callback asking where she was or any of that. Your silence will suggest that you could care less AND YOU SHOULDN'T. Eventually you'll be sleeping with enough women so you won't.

You want to avoid that dating frame. You do want to set a meet-to-fuck frame and my above example does just that without much effort required by you. Better yet it filters out the idiots pretty quickly so you don't waste time on them.

Sadly you have to play hardball with women like this if you are to have any control over your sex life and not have your time or money wasted on false leads. I had to develop this method through lots of trial and error, but after a while I had this routine down to the point where it got fairly clockwork results. In fact it actually got pretty boring doing the same thing over and over.It just requires the discipline to stick to your game plan and let it play out - being outcome independent if the woman shows up or not.

Part of the reason as to why it works: If the woman wants casual sex it clearly demonstrates to her that you'll never get clingy or want a relationship with her - as you don't seem to care that much. It provides a clear challenge to her to either try turning that around - OR settle in for ONS which may be all she is after anyway.

Also, always remember that the strength of a number swap/close depends on how attracted she is you to. You can't go up to a girl, have some boring surface level chatter and go for a number swap. It'll never work. All the same, this meet-up method will filter those girls out and they just won't call.

nalik95 · 2022-10-15T10:42:35+00:00

So she saw your message but "forgot" to reply. Clearly she wasn't keen to meet you, you only became an after thought when her options were "dry".

Up to you, but if it was me, I'd move on. Tell her the Friday you suggested was a good time, which she missed out on. Her loss not yours. Know your worth.

Throwawayaccountie8h · 2022-10-15T13:16:55+00:00

Well how old is she? Not asking to judge you by the way. I'm 44 and I go for college girls so I get it. I'm asking cause tbh if she's young then I wouldn't hold her not replying quickly against her.

They have a lot going on with life and not to mention other men pursuing her. She's bound to get distracted so it's whatever really. She's down to meetup so go ahead and meet her. If you want to have sex then try to get her back to your place.

There are lots of girls out there. I'm assuming you're not looking to actually get in a relationship with a girl half your age and only want to have sex with her. Which is fine. Lots of college age girls are down to fuck older guys. If you miss out on one just move on to the next.

ggiris · 2022-10-15T11:06:26+00:00

She's about half my age

Are you serious? Go date women your age and stop this creepy thing!

spicy45 · 2022-10-15T15:24:21+00:00

Red Flag. Just say no.

crash1082 · 2022-10-15T15:47:45+00:00

Woah that’s a quick jump to calling someone a narcissist

Title	Hinge Date
Author	NunyaBidnizz68
Upvotes	6
Comments	15
Date	October 15, 2022 9:39 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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