How can I become a fuckboy?

Aw0lManner · 2020-04-06T15:58:15+00:00

Word of advice, don’t be a fuckboy.

Be a man.

It may seem like girls fall for and sleep with “bad boys” or at least guys that pose to be. But you’re doing yourself a disservice in the future.

Women may get with these kind of guys, but when they find out what you’re actually made of, they’ll dip quicker than a scuba diver.

Focus on being a good person, having an interesting life, taking up a variety of hobbies, being capable of doing a multitude of skills. Focus on and expect more from yourself, then you’ll get a wider pool of women to choose from because your standards for them are higher.

Become the person you’d want to be with. That’s how you land a woman worth keeping.

The problem is, you want to date girls, your mindset should be to be with a woman.

A good man can make a woman into his wife, a a fuckboy is simply taking his turn with her.

EternalJourney · 2020-04-06T16:00:28+00:00

It all comes one to one thing: become loss needy. The fact that you state that you become too attached to quickly is a result of your scarcity of experience with girls. Trust me, I was once like you are now, if something happened with a girl I instantly got attached to her and thus decreased my chances with her. Ever since I worked on my life, my career, my physique, got hobbies and a purpose that is way bigger and more important than girls.

Result is that now I am completely relaxed when it comes to girls, a girl doesnt like me? Does not matter I got an amazing lifestyle anyways.

Put the girls less on a pedestal and try to date several girls at once - if you do this you will automatically become less attached to one girl, since you got several options. To make this happen you have to go out and approach girls on a regular basis!

km2927 · 2020-04-06T17:17:19+00:00

Just my first impression but... maybe stop trying so hard? You sound pretty concerned with getting attention from girls and losing your virginity. Act natural and confident in yourself. It’ll happen.

ETA: have you ever stopped to think maybe girls don’t want to have sex with you BECAUSE you’re acting like a tool (read: fuckboy)? You’re complaining about not having options. As a vagina owner myself, if I have options I’m not going with the fuckboy sliding into my DMs. I’m also certainly not a teen anymore though soooo 🤷🏼‍♀️

smoothmax · 2020-04-06T18:01:04+00:00

Being a fuckboy is a state of mind and a self image. If you can mentally picture yourself as a fuckboy AND sell yourself to other people as being one, they will buy into it. I mean in a subtle way, not by telling people you're a FB or acting like a parody of a FB (see Steve Martin and Dan Aykroyd, two wild and crazy guys).

Doesn't mean you will get laid more just because you have that image. To get laid you need to have a lot of attractive traits. Being accepted as a FB only means, women understand that you are down to fuck. The rest is up to you.

Women love fuckboys because they're fun and worry free. They're not clingy, emotionally needy or moody. So you can't just self hypnotize yourself, "I am a fuckboy" repeated 1000 times. You have to actually be that fun, emotionally independent guy, deep inside. You can't fake it.

2020-04-06T20:46:08+00:00

My man’s trying to get his dick wet btw your first time won’t be as good as u dream about it so don’t be to confident about it. It’s one thing thinking about it and another thing doing it for real with a real person

2020-04-07T04:14:32+00:00

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ilikepie145 · 2020-04-06T15:53:01+00:00

How old are you?

itzReborn · 2020-04-06T16:36:24+00:00

I see where your coming from but the way you worded this post...comes off wrong. I can’t give any advice cause I’m basically in the same situation as you but you don’t gotta be a “bad boy/fuck boy” if your goal is to sleep with lots of girls

2020-04-06T19:33:05+00:00

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vvvrath12 · 2020-04-06T20:21:50+00:00

Bro I am exactly you. Are you sure we're not the same person?

2020-04-06T20:52:54+00:00

I lost my v card which was disappointing because I did it with a girl I didn’t even like I was still the same guy as you, we are kinda the same man seriously

FatAlbertRoss · 2020-04-06T23:51:58+00:00

This is such a cringe post and OP's post history doesn't get any better.

At this rate he's never going to get laid and his miserable whining on Reddit is not only pathetically hilarious but also completely the reason why nobody wants to fuck him.

TheCaptainAhab · 2020-04-07T02:40:08+00:00

I'm not a fuckboy by any means but I've managed to sleep with a few women and have had a few missed opportunities. Since your goal is to get laid, I can share some of the things I did that I believe help me go from a non-existent dating life to a semi-existent one.

You say you are in your late teens, so you're probably already in college or not to far off from entering college. I will say that to get laid, a big thing you should do is simply maximize social interactions. Statistically, the more social interactions you have the more likely you are bound to have some of a sexual or romantic nature. By going out to events on the campus such as parties, joining clubs, volunteering, etc. you increase the volume of women you run into. Some of these women will be attracted to you and may even initiate. As an example, I attended a university concert and was actually approached by a girl who said I looked like someone she knew. We hooked up later that night and it would never have happened if I didn't attend the concert. You say in your post that you are attractive so just on this principle you will have a few sexual interactions over the years. I'm a 5'11 male that has similarly been complimented on their looks as well, so you'll derive benefit from this, especially in any setting that involves alcohol. Furthermore, the more you socialize the better you will get at it and the less awkward you will be overall.

One of the most helpful things I did that also helped bring me more results to my dating life was having a trusted female friend give a no holds barred roast of me. It turned out there were severe problems with how I walked, dressed, and spoke that made many women think that I was really weird or potentially even gay. You can have good facial genetics but if you dress badly, talk in a way that shows ignorance of social queues, or have the posture of quasimodo then it can get cancelled out. In general, pay careful attention to how you present yourself and obviously make adjustments that still maintain your own authenticity as a person.

Additionally, I simply showed sexual interest much earlier and more straightforwardly with woman. I started getting more dates when I demonstrated less hesitancy in asking for their number and then arranging a date. I particularly recommend coffee dates because they're much more efficient and inexpensive compared to movie/dinner/bowling dates. I was also more willing to flirt and give strong eye contact. At parties this "pulling the trigger" can manifest in a willingness to escalate sexually through touching and having the balls to suggest going back to your place. I will say that the best way to make this easy is to maintain a very strong separation between friends and romantic interests. Doing stuff like this was initially incredibly difficult for me because I kept fearing ruining friendships and was under the delusion that one of my friends would see how great a guy I was and seek a relationship with me. In my experience though, this leads to poor friendships where you're not living your truth, have to watch her get with men you will view as douchebags, and then even further frustration when the friendship proves to not have been all that good or worth keeping in hindsight. As an example, on my campus there was this guy that was infamous for being a fuckboy, doing stuff like sleeping with his SA in the first year and cheating on his girl friend numerous times. He was actually rejected most of the time by the woman he hit on but because he was willing to be sexually interested from the get go when talking to women he achieved more success than I did.

In college, the hierarchy is also important. At least in the medium sized college I went to, social life was heavily dominated by greek life and athletics. Every fuckboy on my campus that I knew was either in a mid-tier or top-tier frat that gave him access to mixers with the attractive sororities on campus, social clout ( especially with first years), and a strong social circle that made meeting people really easy. As you get older as well, your status as an older student will translate to more status as well. A junior woman is unlikely to date a freshman man but the same cannot be said when the genders are flipped. I will emphasize strongly here not to join a low status fraternity. You will be negatively stereotyped, risk being considered creepy by association, and will be disrespected even if not to your face.

Another useful thing I did was change how I texted. Read Corey Wayne's How To Be A 3% for more on this but I found it really surprising how logistics based texting really saved me a lot of pain. Through it I avoided texting a lot of stupid bullshit that caused me to be left on read like bad jokes, needy texting to illicit a reply, or cringy attempts at flirtation.

As stated here, inner game has to be solid. My dating life was always at its worst in winter time when seasonal depression would afflict me and in the beginning of college where I was frequently depressed and unhappy with my life. When it got better it coincided with majoring in what I actually wanted to do, joining new clubs I was actually interested in, and surrounding myself with people that appreciated me. If you lack inner game or confidence then pulling the trigger will tend to come off as awkward and even achieving sex probably won't feel all that great. Even now I will say that not having my inner game completely down pat yet is what's really holding down my dating life.

ChrisTheGeek27 · 2020-04-07T07:50:43+00:00

I bet you call every guy that gets laid a "fuck boy".

icryat3am · 2020-04-08T11:32:38+00:00

you keep saying girls only like hot guys and only care about looks when you’re shallow your damn self, that’s extremely hypocritical. not all girls are like this and having this incel mindset is not going to get you anywhere buddy, but oh well let’s see what treating girls like trash will get you

silverbird666 · 2020-04-09T21:23:34+00:00

Well, roleplaying is what you should do if you are playing D&D, it is not what you should do in real life situations. Just be yourself, just be sure about your goals, just have enough determination and willpower and things will work out well enough for you.

If you want to go for a certain style,go for it, but only if it is natural for you and if you are able to live it up.

mattsgotstylebaby · 2020-04-14T08:11:03+00:00

I am a fuckboy. No matter how hard I try not to be. I don’t act like one. I don’t look like a typical fuckboy. im genuine, and I be myself. Maybe I’m just what fuckboys try to be? Idk. but I am. I think. And I don’t like it. I get asked out by girls a lot. Wether I say yes or no, some other thot at my high school will call me a fuckboy.

I ask everyone who sees this, to tell me how not to be a fuckboy, but still get the girls.

that_satanic_friend · 2020-04-06T19:14:11+00:00

I think you may have been mislead about how we girls think about fuckboys, my friend :-/

Title	How can I become a fuckboy?
Author	Applesoursoda
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Date	April 6, 2020 3:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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