How do I get over a oneitis and improve my personality to be comfortable to talking to every girl in college?

iambabyshark · 2021-11-16T19:13:59+00:00

The best way to combat oneitis is to pursue other women. Oneitis is just when a man convinces himself that she's different, that she's the one person that can make him feel good. Hanging out with other women will make you see that maybe she wasn't so perfect, and they can make you feel good too. Another thing I've heard of being done in the past is to write down all the negative qualities of your oneitis and read them over when you think of her. Your goal is to crack your perception of her as being perfect for you

Hooosreddit · 2021-11-16T18:14:38+00:00

I'm not into that whole push pull thing myself.

I don't see what's wrong with being interested in a person.

However you are not being honest with her.

You like to be with her romantically and sexually. Yet you seem to not show that or hide it or try to seduce her slowly or whatever your doing you aren't doing it with conviction

It's ok to be sexually interested. Not about work or something but about fcking her brains out next Saturday if she'd like that.

What i mean is: you don't have to be rude or blatant. But you have to be clear and follow through with your intent.

You however don't. That makes you the nice guy and the friendzone guy.

You are on top of that clingy and needy. Go do something else. If she doesn't want to spend time go do something. Play Diablo or whatever idc. As long as you have fun.

And as for your plan to speak to everyone on campus: why would you even want that? Like look at who you think you want to spend time with and go talk to them and spend time with them.

Follow through on intent.

theBrapGlob · 2021-11-16T18:08:06+00:00

Damn

Sounds like exactly what i did with this girl from my classes a month back

We hung out like 3 or 4 times,mostly projects and exam related, but i thought it was going good

Asked her out 2 times in person and her answer was "ill let you know", but i was half assed about it

Got tired and asked her a 3rd time directly, no bs, (through text cause she didnt come to campus the day i was gonna ask in person), she ignored the message

I figured that would be the response cause she wasnt really interested in me and i kept chasing even tho shed never shown interest in me

Its whatever tho cause it gave me the kick in the ass I needed to get out of oneitis

Went up to this girl on campus yesterday who id never seen before and struck up a convo. It went well, nothing awkward. She kept laughing at what I said. Nothing solid happened, but its something i dont do often so im proud. Even my friend was surprised cause he thought id just gone to the bathroom

Just keep talking to new people, on campus or wherever else you spend alot of your time. Dont stress so much about impressing them or picking them up. Just loosen up and get over your shyness. Talk, make them laugh, tease them a bit, and always close the convo with asking for their socials (i prefer instagram,but you could also ask for number)

wolfbee16 · 2021-11-17T01:36:44+00:00

Your probably not going to like it but it’s by failing many many times. Going from introverted with girls to charismatic/fun took a lot of work. You have to first get the idea out of your mind that every girl you think is cute that is nice to, you then plan out your whole life together. It’s weird and nonsensical. I’m good with women, but let’s say that I always go 1/10 for the rest of my life. I wouldn’t care because after failing so many times I’ve conditioned my mind to know that it’s not a big deal, and I still succeed in the end.

Mmm91for · 2021-11-16T20:43:52+00:00

You gotta be indifferent with every decision she makes. You gotta approach/ talk to multiple women to the point you forget whose who. Overall just stop giving a f. You seem to be unaware of female nature.. they don’t really care about men, she’s probably talking to 6 other guys.. you should do the same.

Keezymac34 · 2021-11-17T12:35:47+00:00

Talk to more girls and dont be afriad to fail some girls wont like you and that is okay.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-11-17T19:00:21+00:00

You get women to chase you by becoming good at flirting with them, and you get good by talking to tons of girls every month, not just one every 2 years.

Title	How do I get over a oneitis and improve my personality to be comfortable to talking to every girl in college?
Author	Cautious_Number_95
Upvotes	7
Comments	8
Date	November 16, 2021 4:45 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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