How do I not appear so thirsty on a first date?

Sakred · 2014-05-05T18:22:34+00:00

Being sexually thirsty isn't necessarily a bad thing, being sexually needy is. If you're having trouble escalating physically, in that it's actually turning women off, you're probably doing it incorrectly or for the wrong reasons.

Physical touch should be a natural expression and manifestation of the desire between two people. You should not try to escalate physically for the sole sake of "getting sex." Instead, if you desire her, then let this physically manifest naturally. If what you desire is simply sex, this will be apparent to her in how you touch her. However, some women will respond well to this, unless you're constantly doubting yourself and your actions.

The best thing you can do is get out of your own head, immerse yourself completely in the present moment, and experience reality in it's raw form. Your actions become natural, you become more laid back, and honest. There is no room for self-doubt when the self is dissolved in the present. There are no thoughts of "how can I turn this into sex," only the natural progression of two people experiencing each other.

If this was helpful for you, I can expand on it with more examples and details. Good luck!

Overthinking_Guy · 2014-05-05T18:29:54+00:00

Drinking some water may quench your thirst.

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-05-05T19:49:22+00:00

body language can go a long way in conveying this, because i think sexual aggressiveness is mostly communicated by body language anyway. you probably do this already but, stuff like leaning backwards, trying to adapt a more comfortable than eager pose, limiting kino,... for example, however your seating arrangement may be, try picking a position/ body language stance for lack of better words and let her adapt to it instead of inching closer or to a more intimate stance.

also I totally agree that there is too much suggestion of unwarranted kino. like this other post said the other day; kino doesn't magically create attraction, it sustains , amplifies and escalates it. girls will catch on when you're being too touchy and you won't come off well. hell, first contact I typically make with a girl is a poke to the midriff or arm and then back off for a significant while or let her come to me.

Bitterposer · 2014-05-05T21:58:04+00:00

Escalation is a complicated dance. It's not as a simple as "keep kinoing bro!!!" You have to gauge their interest at all times and push and pull back as necessary, with you one always being step behind them. I usually start out cold and build interest as they "earn" it.

AntixD · 2014-05-06T04:52:52+00:00

your problem doesn't sound like escalating too quick but your execution in doing so

smellyegg · 2014-05-06T05:13:59+00:00

You need to kino more than that, keep it brief & subtle if you want, but you need to have touched her hand / arm / back at some point.

NotTheGuyIUsedToBe · 2014-05-05T16:25:31+00:00

I think you should just make your true intentions known from the get go. There's no point in putting on a facade.

thrudx · 2014-05-05T21:30:02+00:00

You're overanalyzing. You've probably read tons of stuff about kino escalation and leading/setting the frame. I feel like you're trying too many things all at once just because you read them. Try and enjoy the moment and do what feels right, not what you think you should be doing.

puaCurveBall · 2014-05-05T17:30:11+00:00

If you aren't making out or fucking by the end of the first date, i wouldn't expect a second date.

Sex on the first date is amazing, that should be your goal imho.... especially if you want to continue dating them.

Tombstone31 · 2014-05-05T17:34:11+00:00

It's almost like kino generally does more harm than good.

Wish someone on seddit had been saying that for months...

Edit because I'm dyslexic today.

Title	How do I not appear so thirsty on a first date?
Author	ThePUA_Baddie
Upvotes	11
Comments	25
Date	May 5, 2014 4:12 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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