How do I stop envying others?

RandianHero · 2014-03-16T05:01:46+00:00

Understand that other people have nothing to do with you; you can't affect them any more than they can affect you. Your only concern is this: are you living up to your own ideal version of yourself?

Picture your best version of yourself: the ideal package of traits, skills, and looks that you want to have. How close are you to that ideal? If you can compare the two and see almost no difference, then you'll stop having these self-esteem issues. But if you're not there yet, then that is what you need to be focusing on, not what other people are doing with lives that exist totally separate from you.

CrankRED · 2014-03-16T13:09:06+00:00

Gratitude has to be practiced.

The nightly gratitude list (physically writing it) is a good way to start.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-03-16T06:28:52+00:00

If something doesn't concern you then don't care about it. The skills or looks of others shouldn't concern you. Stop comparing yourself to them, who cares about them, why do you care? The only person you should be focused on is yourself, that's it. Repeat that to yourself daily and when you go to sleep. Drill it into your head until you truly believe it.

The only person you should be focused on is yourself.

joshsway · 2014-03-16T15:14:53+00:00

There always will be someone better than you, but that doesn't matter because plenty of things in life (I would say most) are not driven by rankings, but driven by you having abilities above a certain threshold. Get yourself above the threshold for success, and then you won't care as much if others are better than you, because their "betterness" simply wont matter.

lItsAutomaticl · 2014-03-16T21:39:23+00:00

Everyone you think has something better than you is just as imperfect of a human being as you are. Lots of them have as much insecurity as you do.

epicshift · 2014-03-16T14:59:14+00:00

It's all about what you have going on at some point you developed these feelings or emotions, probably under the age of 7 when we are most open to subconscious programming. What you need to do is some digging to identify the root cause of your feelings and clear that root cause which is either a repressed emotion or a belief. If you want some help send me a PM and I can help you with that.

Title	How do I stop envying others?
Author	chaosmosis
Upvotes	18
Comments	7
Date	March 16, 2014 2:48 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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